Just wondering how many married people do not sleep together. Just the physcal act of sleeping together in eather a different room or a different bed and why?
2006-07-05 17:11:57 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I sleep with my husband. I think it is an essential part of the intimacy, even if there is no sex involved. I know some couples don't sleep in the same bed because the man has a severe snoring problem and the woman can't sleep. Other than that, separate beds mean problems in the marriage.
2006-07-05 17:15:02 · answer #1 · answered by Scorpio11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I sleep in different rooms most of the time because of our children we have 4 children w/3 living @ home. We have a newborn, 2 year old, & 7 year old @ home. It's not that we don't want to sleep together it's just that circumstance neccesitates at this time that we do. We sneak a good night rest together every now and then and I must admit it is nice. (smile) We have not actually slept together alone on a consistent basis since the 7 year old was born but again like I said we have our moments and thank God it's not about initimacy because as you can see we have gotten together at least 2 more times since then (smile) we have 2 additions to the family. Ours is one that is unique but unfortunately some couples don't sleep together simply because the can't stand each other and they are in a loveless marriage and they stay out of convenience, for the children, or familiarity.
2006-07-06 00:26:59 · answer #2 · answered by 2deep4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I work two different shifts, so most of the time he sleeps in the living room or the spare room. By the time he's off of work I'm dead asleep, or sometimes I'll get up, or he will wake me up for some company in the middle of the night. Our sex life is a blast. We are young parents, we act like bunnies, thank God for birth control. Whoever said sleeping apart some nights means marriage problems, my husband and I get along quite well. When he starts working days, he said he will always have a place next to my heart, and my panties in bed. However I know of some couples who sleep together every night and their marriages are falling apart. So that's a hypothetical guess my friends. You can't believe what everyone says, every ones marriages are different!
2006-07-06 01:30:23 · answer #3 · answered by Saude! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe because one works early and the other works late.
or the snoring keeps them awake.
Maybe because one talks in their sleep.
There are a lot of reasons it shouldn't be taken personal.
Those are my reasons.
We still love each other. Then again we have been married 31 years. If our work schedule doesn't interfere we sleep together. Sometimes we try to sleep together and try not to let the snoring get in the way. It all depends on the mood you are in when it is time for bed.
2006-07-06 01:05:21 · answer #4 · answered by amlev 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont think many do.. it is seems strange not to sleep together and i definitely think tht it would have a detrimental effect on their closeness and quality of the marriage..
They say the way a couple sleeps on a bed indicates how close they are..so wht wld it really indicate if they werent in the same room.. The only exception i can think of is health issues.. requiring special bed, equipment..sometimes extreme cases of snoring...
The people i have heard of sleepin in separate rooms ave been old couples..who lack closeness and any sort of intimacy in their marriage... but thts not to say old couples are the ones sleepin separately.. those old couples i mentioned didnt ave a good relationship to begin with and thts mo like y they dont sleep together..
Whole point of gettin married is to come together as one.. so y wouldnt u in all aspects if physically possible?
2006-07-06 00:24:35 · answer #5 · answered by Sugababy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had to get up at night and go sleep somewhere else because my husband snores so loudly. He teases me about running to bed and falling asleep first so he'll keep me up.
He does try though - he'll roll over on his side and try not to drink or eat anthing that sets off the snoring too late (he seems to snore more on a full stomach) I think that's sweet.
We've slept side by side for 15 years now - and sometimes I have out of body experiences where I sort of see us sitting there, in bed together, going through the day's events and tomorrow's plans before heading off to snoozeland. It's so right.
2006-07-06 00:22:18 · answer #6 · answered by dianes98 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I myself sleep with my husband.I cant say that i can see how you can say that all is okay.If you are in the livingroom while ur mate is in the bedroom.I all so agree with one of the comments that it is not healthy for children to be brought up in that kind of home.How will they know how to express there love to their mate.It's not even about the sex,just for support of the other half can be expressed by a small gester of holding each other for the most part of the night.I can say that when i have had a long drawn out day and i need not to say anything but when he comes to bed he know by my actions around the house and will let me know by holding me that he backs me a 100%.Or that with him at my side i can get through what ever comes my way.Touch has a hudge impact on things.
2006-07-06 00:28:59 · answer #7 · answered by lucky2_be_me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sleep in the same bed as my husband but it has been some time since we have slept together in the sense of being intertwined. In his defense his parents didn't sleep in the same room any time during his childhood. He seemed to never foster the idea of romantic love because of this. I would certainly urge any parent to live a life of love for the sake of their own mental health as well as the future mental health of their children. My parents were certainly extroverts in their sexual prowess so I can't say as it is terribly important to be obvious about what you do like, but there isn't any reason to expose them to something you don't like. I hope that made sense and has answered your question. Best wishes
2006-07-06 00:18:42 · answer #8 · answered by colorist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the married couples I know including me sleep together. If they don't it usually means there are major problems in the marriage. Some don't have problems but one snores so much the other can't sleep. but that's when ear plugs work so well.
2006-07-06 05:59:49 · answer #9 · answered by brighteyes62301 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot!! More then you would think....
I have friends that work different shifts at work...
One has a terrible snoring problem
Another grinds her teeth.
Some just cant sleep with someone else in the bed.
I think Lucy and Desi had it right all along.
2006-07-06 00:15:11 · answer #10 · answered by werk2much2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋