brief summary: bf says he needs time to sort his life out, we rushed things too soon after his marriage breakup, he has assured me i am not a rebound, he still loves me but needs time out to sort himself out, he's such a kind sweet old fashined type of guy, and everyone was really stunned when they found out we broke up. everyones saying he will be back,that he just needs time .. he's still wearing the ring i gave him, he still calls me to see how im going, he asked me to along grocery shopping..lol still offers to do things around the house for me , we were living in seperate houses..This decision to break up with me was made as soon as he got back from visiting his family . People that know him feel that he is easliy led, he is very niave , anyways i dunno ,just want some hope in your opinions i suppose, im expecting him to never come back to protect myself.We both know where we went wrong. im so screwed over this,it's like waiting for an answer to see if we have a chance..
2006-07-05 17:08:30 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It sounds like he definately cares for you and intends keeping you in his life.There could be things from his divoce that honestly are still influencing him.I am divorced myself and it is very hard still for me to have that kind of trust in another.Just give him the space he asks for.Men tend to need to figure things out for ourselves.
2006-07-05 17:16:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl that sucks. I guess if it is meant to be it will happen. If you really do love him give him some time. If in a month of so he is still acting shady confront the situation and tell him you want an answer. If you two are going to be together or what? Dont let him keep you hanging on life is too short for games. He sounds nice but maybe just not ready to commit. Good luck I have been in your shoes before.
2006-07-06 00:17:01 · answer #2 · answered by miz_viv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has already made his decision. You haven't. That is not meant to be mean, but it is the truth. He is leading you on. If he really loved you nothing would keep him apart from you. Not even his family. For whatever reason or excuse he is given you, he has made his choice. Take your broken heart and move on. You deserve to be treated better than that. Give yourself some credit. Your not a dumb woman, just someone who wants what all other women search for, a good solid relationship. Life is to short to sit back and wait on him. Find someone who wants to be with you for you. Good Luck and God Bless.
2006-07-06 00:19:25 · answer #3 · answered by laurelbush28762 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you waiting for him to make his mind up? In addition, please give him more credit about what he wants out of his life! If a man wants to be alone then so be it” cut him loose! Break all ties! No calling, No Nothing! You are only hurting yourself. I went though the same thing about my man being confused. Well I told him be confused on your own. It hurt him but it worked it took him a few months to get unconfused he came back and we have been married for 26 years. Do not ever let a man make you wait for him “life’s to short.” No matter what you both have been though “if it’s meant to be it will happen for you both.
2006-07-06 00:30:24 · answer #4 · answered by Ms Pollyanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some time and take things slow. Things will fall into place real soon. Maybe he was pressured into taking some time out of the relationship. You should ask him. Be upfront and honest with him and tell him what you want. If its meant to be than you'll know. If its not meant to be, than don't worry there are plenty of guys out there who will be lucky enough to have you.
2006-07-06 00:18:44 · answer #5 · answered by pinayprincez17 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like his family said something to him that struck a chord. If this man is going to let his family decide his love life for him, then you shouldn't want him anyways. If you really want someone then be with them; who cares what others think. Always remember this: why are wrong numbers never busy?
2006-07-06 00:17:35 · answer #6 · answered by Scorpio11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend, Get out and move on...there is something wrong with this..even if he is naive..whatelse will he be naive about later in the relationship? You need to know now that this may be a sign to better yourself and maybe it is rebound but he is in denial..think..you better think..think about what he is trying to do to you...think -think...free your mind and let yourself be free!
2006-07-06 00:19:31 · answer #7 · answered by BOOBALICIOUS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably were a re-bound. You should never date a man that quick after a break-up...esp. a divorce!
2006-07-06 00:19:54 · answer #8 · answered by Jen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I DON'T KNOW WHAT YOUR B/F HAS GOING ON. IT COULD BE THAT HE IS A MOMMA'S BOY OR SOMETHING OF THAT NATURE. YOU DON'T WANT AN ABUSIVE PARTNER, BUT I DON'T THINK YOU WANT A PARTNER WHO CAN'T MAKE HIS OWN DECISIONS EITHER. YOU SHOULD TALK TO HIM ABOUT HIS MOTIVES AND HIS PLANS. IF NOT FAVORABLE, FIND ANOTHER PARTNER. GOOD LUCK BABE.
2006-07-06 00:17:08 · answer #9 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on and dont expect anything..if you are destined for each other, no matter what you'll end up in each other's arms. for the meantime, get busy..
2006-07-06 00:14:03 · answer #10 · answered by willow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋