is it cheating to chat with other guys and cyber with them if you are married!?

Answer 1

with cybering? yes. if you're married, why are you even chatting with other guys - let alone cybering with them? talk to your husband if you feel neglected by him.

Answer 2

I think you already know the answer to this one girlfriend.. :) I too am married, and I too have had my share of internet flings. Its what they call an affair of the heart. Anyway you slice it, your communicating, with another man either via internet, or phone (which it usually leads too) and is really cheating. Unfortunately, just because they are not physically in your bed doesn't mean its any less cheating. We can close down our computers and clean out our emails at night to wipe up our dirty work :) . Someone always falls for the other, its no different than a physical affair. Attachement happens whether we want it to or not. There is a reason we seek it in the first place right? Its usually because we are lacking in the lovin department in our marriages, so for women (and guys) they turn to the internet for what we are lacking in our real life love. It sucks, but yeah I think its cheating.

Answer 3

YES!! It's cheating. First of all, the fact that you have to ask is a clue. You feel something's not quite right; and there's a reason for that. If you're only CHATTING, then no--it's not cheating. Even if you give candid advice to someone about sex, I wouldn't call that cheating... as long as the conversation stays platonic.

But if you're exchanging fantasies and such with other men, for the sole purpose of sexual gratification... for both you and the man in question... then that IS cheating. It doesn't matter if the gratification comes through typing or skin-to-skin contact. It is still disloyal to your spouse. And what I just spelled out above is the exact DEFINITION of cybering.

So therefore, yes it is cheating.

Answer 4

If at the end of that conversation you feel terrible and you constantly feel guilty, then yes it is bad; that means your conscience is trying to tell you something. Basically you are your worst critic and only you can decide whether or not you are what you are doing is bad. If you feel nothing what so ever, then hey I guess have fun. But keep in mind that you have your spouse to think of, if they don't approve (that is if they know somehow) then you have to decide what is more important, your marriage or someone over the net you had a couple of hours with, and whom by the way you will most likely never meet.

Answer 5

i think you know the answer,

If you are flirting, and they ask you personal questions, A/S/L ETC THEN YES DO YOU INVITE YOUR HUBBY TO JOIN IN THE CHAT? and talk of him\
IF You are chatting about a common interest, chess, a book, how hot the sun gets,
what you want to get your hubby, for birthday, or how could you be a beter wife to your hubby and you are researching advice, etc

I DO BELIEVE YOU AND ONLY YOU KNOW,,
IF YOU ARE CURIOUS, AND FLIRTING EVEN IF YOU LIE AND PLAY GAMES AND JUST FANTASIZE OR PRETEND YOU ARE SOMEONE YOU ARE NOT
YOU ARE CHEATING,, THAT IS IT,,

HOW WOULD YOU FEEL IF YOUR HUBBY WAS CYBERING FEMALES,
AND DOING THE SAME THING,

TECHNICALLY, NO YOU ARE NOT "doing anything" BUT IF IT WAS PHONE SEX, CLEAN AND SAFE, IS THAT CHEATING,?

you know what you are doing, i personally think , you aren't cheating, but you are flirting, and that is not what a married woman who loves her mate does.

Answer 6

Depends on how far you take it and what the boundaries of your relationship are. If you are having cyber sex and are not in an "open" marriage, then yes, it is cheating. If you are only flirting, then no.

Answer 7

Yeah it's cheating because you are making an emotional and
sexual bond with someone even if it's just words it's lust and
vane.

It's the intent in the head and the heart that makes you a cheat
even if it's not physical.

Answer 8

Yes! Your cheating in your mind and wanting another man. What if he were doing the same with another woman. How long before you want to meet this guy. Its not worth ruining your marriage over. And yes it can ruin it.

Answer 9

No, you're living a fantasy and just as long as you don't take it beyond just chatting I see nothing wrong with it. It's life and we only have one shot at it so whatever makes you happy go for it and without hurting others or yourself.

Answer 10

Gee girl! This falls under the catagory of fantasy! It just might, if handled correctly, spice up life at home too! Be good! Enjoy God's precious gifts!