My husband got a call from his mother stating that, she was taking our kids to a cook-out. After 5 minutes on the phone. All i heard my husband saying fine, fine fine. I asked were the kids going with your mother all he said was to a cook-out but with who. He don't know. My husband and mother-in-law are very close and tell each other everything now he don't know. I found out by my kids, that they went over my husband ex-baby mama house for the cook-out. I feel very hurt about this because i felt she should had ask me also, knowing i dont care for this fake holy-walker!! I feel like my mother-in-law step on my toes again and my husband think i am crazy. My mother-in-law is crazy about this woman and my husband just happy that his mother and her are close again. I feel betrayed by them both. Please someone out there, help me!! I need all the advice i can get. Kids are fine had a nice time. But i just don't want them around her and her family.
2006-07-05 16:55:23 · 10 answers · asked by FOXXTAIL 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like you have your hands full with this situation! If you don't want your kids around this other woman, and why should they be at her house, then don't be afraid to tell your mother in law and husband that they are your children too and you have every right to know where they are going and what they are doing. If you don't want them doing what has been planned for them voice your opinion and make sure they understand what you're saying. From the sounds of it your mother in law is wanting her son to be with this other woman and she obviously doesn't care what she does. If your husband truly loves you he will understand what you are saying but it sounds like he is being a mama's boy and he will do what mommy tells him to do. Ask your husband how he would feel if you took your children to one of your ex-boyfriends house for a cook out or if you are still friends with any of them just go do it and see how he likes it. I'm sure if the tables were turned it would be a different story. I wouldn't take the b.s. from anybody and you shouldn't either.
Good luck!
2006-07-05 17:21:42 · answer #1 · answered by ~Amanda~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Giiiiiiiiiirl!!!!! It's time to have a little talk with momma-in-law. Tell her you need to talk to her, and do so in a non-confrontational way. It's not going to be easy, but you need to explain to her that she's already raised her kids and how would she like it if something like this was done to her when she was raising her children? You need to do the same with your husband. It shows a lack of respect for you or your children. I don't know how old they are, and I'm sure they had a good time, but what was the reason why your mother-in-law and your husband felt like they had to participate in this function. Do not let this one go by!!! Put your foot down now and don't let anyone disrespect you in this manner.
2006-07-05 17:07:07 · answer #2 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband should have not kept this a secret. When you are in a relationship with someone it is important to respect your spouses feelings. If he would keep this little secret what else would he keep a secret? He knew he was in the wrong when he did not admit to where the cook out was being held. i think your mother in law is stepping on your toes. But maybe she is not aware how this is making you feel. Have you told her how you feel?
2006-07-05 17:06:24 · answer #3 · answered by bacon8711 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at least he didn't go with them, right? So perhaps if Mommy in law wants to play that little game, play your own. Next time she takes the kids over to her house, use that time to do something really out of the ordinary-hot and romantic- with/ for your hubby. She can be the babysitter, so you and he can get closer than ever! You're the one he's with, right? Tell mom in law you don't want them going there, and if she doesn't listen, and you don't want to be the bad guy, then use the time without the kids to make him so hot for you, he can't even remember her name!
2006-07-05 17:06:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure, actual talk with him and enable him understand which you recognize. do not accuse him or something like that - seems such as you have a incredibly good information of the region, so merely have a communicate and gently enable him understand which you're responsive to the character of their previous dating, and additionally you wanted to get it off your chest. in this gentle, you are able to clarify that it would make you experience uncomfortable if he spoke to her back. i will confirm why your husband wanted to spare you this guidance; this is not that he does not have confidence you - this is probable a financial ruin in his existence that he's not in all hazard happy with, and that he particularly not deliver to gentle. I additionally does not study too lots into it; sure, they might have had a actual dating quicker or later, even nonetheless it does not immediately mean that they weren't additionally friends or that there are unresolved thoughts. and in spite of if there are - all the greater clarification for you to easily have a communique with him approximately it and convey it out interior the open, as a replace of nursing your "harm thoughts" in inner maximum and imagining issues that merely are not there. the thank you to tell him? properly, you will be able to desire to %. a quiet 2d and say some thing like, "by ability of how, i assumed i ought to tell you this: I even have primary approximately what you had with so-and-so all alongside, sorry for safeguarding it from you." See what he says. He may be bowled over, or he might already suspect which you recognize. in spite of everything, do not be judgmental or accuse him of something - merely tell him which you're uncomfortable with the thought-approximately him protecting in touch with this man or woman, and ask him if it would be ok for the two considered one of you to place this difficulty to relax, now that the cat is out of the bag.
2016-12-08 16:11:33 · answer #5 · answered by almendarez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mother in law and husband (seperatly) Explain why this is wrong and how it made you feel. They atleast have to know what they are doing is wrong and how it is hurting your family.
2006-07-05 20:33:22 · answer #6 · answered by Gwendolyn Beatriz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are your (you & spouse) children, not the mother-in-laws. She raised hers so tell her to leave yours alone. Your husband should back you on all things pertaining to your (both) children even when it's his mom. Tell him to grow a backbone and cut the cord already.
2006-07-05 17:14:29 · answer #7 · answered by Bella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that I would try to just let it go this time. The next time be ready and if you're not included, keep the kids home with you.
2006-07-05 17:03:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
then next time ,have your hubby to tell his mom that he will call her back and discuss it with you, if they are going somewhere you dont like or to see someone, tell your hubby you have other plans.you dont have ot say that you dont want the kids to go with her over there or anything like that. just say that you have plans or something. talk ot your hubby and tell him that it bothers you to have the kids over there and then tell him, would it be ok if your sister would ask to go over to your ex's house and have the kids over there , just to hang out? no i dont think it would be ok.talk to him and tell him how it hurts and if it is ok to hurt you then something here needs to change. good luck.,
2006-07-05 17:07:42 · answer #9 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THE KIDS MUST HAVE CONTACT WITH THIER MOTHER AND FATHER. YOU MUST STEP ASIDE FOR THIS TO HAPPEN BUT YOU SHOULD MONITOR THE CONTACT.
2006-07-05 17:25:37 · answer #10 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋