I moved to tx but i left the one i love in nc i have a chance to move him here but my family doesn't approve of him. i really want him here and he wants to come here but i don't want to hurt my family but i love him and want to be with him i need some advise. we were in a non exclusive relationship and i got preg, he wasn't there when i lost the preg, and my family has never forgiven him for that. that is the reasom my family don't like him.
2006-07-05 16:51:54 · 14 answers · asked by abbykgizmo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I was in the same place as you at one time... If you love him and you feel in your heart that ya'll can make it work this time ... then do it. If he has grown up and changed then why not give it a shot. As long as your doing it for love and to know that your relationship won't be the same after losing a baby and if it happens again he does realize he will be there for you .. go for it!! Your family will see you happy and accept it
2006-07-05 16:55:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you and only do what makes you happy! Do not make any decisions on other peoples feelings. If you love him then you will find a way to make it happen and your family will or will not except it. If you are both ready for a exclusive relationship maybe your family would approve.
2006-07-05 23:55:07 · answer #2 · answered by dolphin29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u don't mention how old u r but if u've been on ur own then i assume ur old enuff to know that ur selling urself short, hon. this is the real question to ask....does He love Me? i don't no how long u were n this non-excusive relationship but in my experiences, most guys who truly love someone don't like sharing. then u got preggos and the guy didn't show up. big balls, no spine....ur fly loves you. that's a given. take some time for yourself and try to see the reality of the situation...not what u'd like it 2 b. the best thing i ever did for me was to get out, date, and learn to plant my own garden....build my own happiness. it's kinda like the thing about giving a man a fish and he'll eat for a day but teach him to fish and he'll never be hungry again.
take care chick
2006-07-06 00:11:01 · answer #3 · answered by wakeupcall 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain your family that you really love him, but if he really wants you he would go to tx to find you and talk to your family personally try to FIX things, that shows he REALLY wants you. I understand your family though that they are angry because he wasn't there when you got pregnant but real love will always fight for you. It's about time...
2006-07-05 23:56:33 · answer #4 · answered by elipra91 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only have one life to live and if you feel this is the person who is meant for you then you should do whatever you feel is necessary to be with him. The people who truly love you will get over it in time and will be happy that you've found such true love in your life. Best of luck to you.
2006-07-05 23:57:11 · answer #5 · answered by formerlypth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it would be interesting to know why he wasnt with you when you lost the baby. If it was something lame...then I would question why you would still want a loser around. Do you like handling a crisis by yourself? Are you into guys that just want to be around for the good times?
2006-07-05 23:55:51 · answer #6 · answered by werk2much2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your family has every right to hate him, and you should too. you need therapy to find out why your self exteme. you didn't loose a preg. as you say, you lost a human child. if you can't stand up for a child in the womb, how would you stand up for one you can't kill? one that is already born?
2006-07-05 23:57:33 · answer #7 · answered by greeneyedcat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are over 21, then you do as you feel you need to do. If you are underage, then you may have a problem. You need to find your happiness, either way and discuss the reasons why he wasn't there for you when you most needed him to be there.
2006-07-05 23:54:48 · answer #8 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on his reason for not being there to support u. Also this maybe a sign that u two shouldn't be together. Sometimes its better to follow your mind instead of your heart.I hope this help.
2006-07-05 23:56:42 · answer #9 · answered by inneedofhelp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you creating mess try to understand and judge the situation,is he exploiting you,this is for you to decide.
2006-07-05 23:56:36 · answer #10 · answered by suchsi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋