Should I stay or should I go?

Question

My boyriend has been acting stand-offish for a few months now. I asked him and he wouldn't give me an answer. I asked him today and he told me It was because I talked to another boy on the phone. It was all innocent. We were friends when I was in high school. I told him I was sorry and I wouldn't do it again and I haven't. I think he is still holding it against me. He also told me he would never be like he was when we first met. I want the man I fell in love with back, not a stand-offish kid. We have been together for a year and a half and we also have a son together. Please help

Answer 1

talking to the a guy which you have a platonic relationship with will not define who you are or measure what you will be in this relationship... it might be a cliche` but there MUST and SHOULD ALWAYS HAVE TRUST IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP. stay... try to talk him out of it and explain that it was just nothing, you have a right to talk to other people, well just inform him about who he is and tell him what you talked about cos he also has a right to know... BUT, if he does not listen to you get out.. .go, cos in this relationship when the other does not listen... it's not called a RELATION-SHIP anymore... and also you have a son... you have a very precious person that connects the to of you, why would he think that you will ruin something that is so beautiful? Tell him, that you cannot destroy a beautiful family... both parties must be mature enough to accept the faults and admit it and deal with the prob not shutting each out.

hope i helped...

Answer 2

If he became jealous because you were talking on the phone with another man then he's probably not somebody you should stay with. Or try talking to him. If he becomes angrier then you should definitely leave. Chances are, he will not be the same. Some guys (not all) become jealous and when they do, they usually become abusive. I'm not saying that he will, but try to talk to him and observe the way he acts around you and others. I know that if a man usually starts to act stand-offish because you talked to someone else of the opposite sex that it's not a healthy relationship...

Answer 3

I think he is being ridiculous. You talking to another guy on the phone should not make him standoffish forever. If he wanted to be that way and pout for a day or two fine. But you apologized to him and let him know you were sorry it bothered him so there is no reason for him to still be that way. I know you have a child together, but you have needs also. If you are not happy with your boyfriend then nobody will be happy. I would try to talk to him again and tell him how you feel. If he isn't going to try then what is the point? Good Luck.

Answer 4

Gurl please, first of all you don't ever put your self in a low situation by saying your sorry,because when he hears that one word (sorry) then he's is goin to think that you can't stand up for yourself. Don't keep no secrets, because the more open you are with each other the better the relationship. But if he wants to act like a d*ck,don't waste yo time with him, just remember you should be treated better than how he treats you.

Answer 5

He needs to trush you. If yo have never don anything for him to act this way then he needs to grow up! Your child deserves better than that. I have been with someone for 7 years and I go with male friends and talk on the phone because there is some trust. You need to sit and talk to him and decided if this is what you really want. good luck

Answer 6

If you don't mind me saying, it sounds like you both have some growing up to do. What were you doing talking to another guy anyway??? Even if he was from high school??? Were you trying to get something else started, or just friends??? Even if it was a friend from high school, does he ever talk to any females???

Answer 7

Take a break from him...you are still young and you shouldn't have to deal with a control freak. He isn't worth your time so get out of this relationship before it turns into something worse and dangerous. Good luck!

Answer 8

IF YOU WERE MARRIED to the guy, you probably would not have to waste this space.......YOU HAVE A KID TOGETHER.......his job is to be a FATHER first and then a Boyfriend to you.......GOOD LUCK!!!!! If he is uptight that you are going to run off with an old friend from highschool......DROP HIS *** NOW.......TRUST IS A CORNERSTONE TO A SUCCESSFUL LIFE TOGETHER!!!!!

Answer 9

well if you did not have a kid with him i would say leave but you and him have a kid together so you better stay together but tell him if he does not like you talking to other boys the he can leave cause you can talk to who you want to talk to...

Answer 10

if he doesn't trust you eventually in the future then you should leave him. he doesn't love you enough to trust you and to believe that you won't do what you did again. He isn't 100% confident that you love him if he think's that one phone call will make you love him less.