First off, my brother didn't want to go to school, but growing up in an asian family your are pushed to do good in school. My mom and uncle decided to send my brother to college. When the end of the year came, they asked for his report. Now I knew that he wasn't doing good or anything but he was trying. Now my sister is siding with my brother saying that he doesnt need to go to school to be successful but my mom and uncle ask "What are you gonna do without school?" Then theres me... In the middle.. What do you think I can do?
2006-07-05 16:08:57 · 18 answers · asked by MrTokyoDrift 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
thats tough. You should say that if your brother doesnt want to go he doesnt have too. Its his choice. But then you should say your mom has to be there to give him support for whatever his choice is. LAter on he will learn from his mistakes.
2006-07-05 16:13:09 · answer #1 · answered by LatinaChik 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tough call.
First, the parents are RIGHT. Without school, he cannot get a decent job, decent life. That is just the way it is. Asian, or not.
Sit down with your brother, when no one else is around. Maybe he is taking a degree he does not want to take, or cannot pass the classes. Then get the school to help be a mediator.
Hope this helps.
2006-07-05 16:30:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your brother is 18 legally he has the right to make up his own mind. But if you feel differently about his choice then let him know but also tell that no matter what he decides you wont judge because the last thing he needs is another family member down on him. So basically just let him know that your there for him no matter his decision and drop it. What happens between him and your mom has nothing to do with your relationship with your brother.
2006-07-05 16:17:35 · answer #3 · answered by lalinda1682 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your brother is plain lazy, he should be pushed to go to school. If he has a good idea of what to do, maybe you suggest your mom and uncle that your brother take a leave from school for one year and try to prove himself. (Only if he has a really good idea). Another thing to suggest is to get a career counseling for him at school and design his study according to his interest. Maybe he is not interested in general education, but rather good at technical field. You can help him to determine his future goal.
2006-07-05 16:16:12 · answer #4 · answered by spot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to go to school.... There's one thing you can't loose or anyone can take away from you .... and thats your education !! (i.e. What you know in your mind)
You generally get the best opportunity to get your education while you are at home and have the time to do it... tell him not to blow the opportunity.. Of course he can go to school while working and being successful. Getting a higher education will only better his chances for promotion or a better job.
2006-07-05 16:15:54 · answer #5 · answered by zappa_dappa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remain neutral. Don't take sides. If you have an opinion you really feel you should voice, go ahead, but if you don't want to get under anyone's skin I'd suggest just kind of saying that you don't really have an opinion and it's their business. You love 'em and care about them but that doesn't mean you have to take a side.
2006-07-05 16:12:23 · answer #6 · answered by Skitz628 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be supportive of him, its a difficult choice but overall it is his choice to make, he has to stand up for what He beilive in. Just dont take any sides in this matter or else you really might get caught in the middle. As long as you live at home i recommend staying netural in this situation.
2006-07-05 16:11:41 · answer #7 · answered by cats4ever2k1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it if at all possible. This should be an issue between your brother and your mother-no one else. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.
2006-07-05 16:12:44 · answer #8 · answered by loulou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mind your own business and thank god that you have the type of family that can afford to send you to school. I hope your bro has a backup plan cuz otherwise he'll be washing dishes or at a gas station! just make sure you take your *** to school!
2006-07-05 16:11:36 · answer #9 · answered by Each1Teach1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stay out of it. When they're fighting leave the room. I should know. My mom and sibling(s) have gotten into fights and I'll butt in (cause my mom is usually stupid when she fights and really mean) and then I get yelled at and it's just not worth it. I know you're concerned but butt out.
2006-07-05 16:14:38 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋