Do you think it is wrong?

Question

Do you think it is wrong to look into you know at subjects and things (not to read) but just to look and see who is sending your boyfriend things through his E-mail (not to read I would never do that) if you know their password? Do you think that is wrong?

I don't know if he does it to me, but if he did I would not mind. I never get any mail anyway, unless it is from him lol!!!!!!

He is just my boyfriend but we also have a six week old daughter together I trust him I'm just curious!!!

And we do live together. Isn't this just like reading the envelopes his mails comes in as long as I don't open it? But I'm not sure, So what do you think?

Answer 1

Not really, But,
If you don't trust him. You should stop dating him.

Answer 2

Okay, honestly wouldn't you feel like you have no privacy if your boyfriend would do that to you? I have seen questions over people spying on other people the ones they are supposed to be in a trusting relationship with.
Talk to your boyfriend and if he isn't willing to let you see them, and you aren't comfortable with trusting him then maybe you need to find someone else to have a relationship.
Just so you know My boyfriend and I know each others pass words and we both can get on and read the others emails.
I would like to think that I have nothing to hide, however you can look at it two ways : One - we share everything so whats the biggie or Two - the other person is checking up on me like they are my parent, if they want to know they can talk to me about it instead of sneaking around like a spy.
My answer to that is yes, for me it is wrong. I do not do anything with my boyfriends emails even look at them unless he asks me to check them for him. Think of it like letters that come in the mail. not much difference.unless you open his mail, which is also against the law to do anyways.
good luck with that situation, hope it works itself out.
Okay saw your addition: If you are together and you have a child and you say you trust him, then you should deff. talk to him, maybe he will tell you he doesn't care either. Mine looks at mine and I know that I can look at his any time. We are up front with everything.
In the end it is all up to the two of you, just cause you aren't married doesn't mean you aren't a family, this should be discussed between the two of you...I am sure he would understand.
And if you are just looking at who is sending him emails, keep in mind that their are people's names that he may concider spam or junk email. The titles don't always tell you what is in the emails.

Answer 3

Yes it is an issue of trust. It seems like your looking for something, and as long as you dont see it you will not read his mail. But, what if you find something. There is a trust issue here and it needs to be dealt with if you want the relationship to last.

Answer 4

I personally don't think it's wrong as long as the two of you agreed to allow EACH OTHER to go through personal things. My Mom always told me that when you go "looking" for stuff, you normally find exactly what you're looking for. As for looking to see who is sending him email, I think you're lying because naturally if there is another females' name in the from column, you're gonna open it to see what kind of things they talk about! It just poses as a problem from the very start! Don't do it if you love & respect him! LOL Be good...

Answer 5

You might as well read the e-mails, if your going to see who sent it to him, And you should probably just tell him your doing it, it will come out eventually so why make it worse. One day you'll see a questionable message, read it, then confront him like, "what the hell," then it'll just be even worse, cause he'll be like, "you've been going through my ****." Yeah so things will just get worse. besides, what do you expect to find? Whatever it is you should just ask him about it instead of going behind his back.

Answer 6

looking at the subjects of the email no its like looking at the envelope for something that comes in snail mail and it also reading the actual email depends on wether he gave you his password or not

Answer 7

I think this goes both ways... If he doesn't want you reading it, then apparently he is hiding something. My boyfriend gave me his passwords and is fine with me reading his stuff (it's usually boring to me anyway!), and I appreciate that he is open with me about what he is receiving in email and not secretive.

Answer 8

It depends - would you mind if he did that to you? If you would mind, then yes it is wrong. If not, then no, but I think you should be honest enough to tell him you are doing this. All relationships need trust, if YOU can't be honest enough to at least tell him that you are afraid that someone might try to lure him away, then you can't in good faith expect him to be honest with you if someone ever does.

Answer 9

Hello,
Would you want him to see the sensual e-mails that i would send to you???.
I doubt it...
You obviously don't trust him...
So look for someone else...
Or give him your password so he can do the same...

Answer 10

That would fall under the category of "invasion of privacy". I think it is wrong to do so, and maybe you should question the other person why they gave you their password. Maybe they are testing you to see if you would stoop so low.

Answer 11

Yes, If you where my girlfriend and I caught u doing that I would Beat you like a redheaded stepchild Ya HEARD