2006-07-05 15:55:30 · 20 answers · asked by dana d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yep...go with your gut...get out!!! love is alot of work but is not alot of pain!!
2006-07-05 15:58:46 · answer #1 · answered by beaniefufer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, God, no you're not going crazy. It's exactly what I'm feeling. I think my problem is that I'm afraid to hurt him if I leave. It might be your problem also. I mean, I don't know what you situation is, but I've been married for 24 years and I've found it extremely hard to leave my husband even though he's cheated on me, left me for another woman for about 4 months, has an alcohol problem, you name it!!!! But I love him, I will always love him. But the key thing here is that I'm NOT in love with him anymore. It's like a bad habit at this point. We need to look for our happiness, and if we are not getting it from the person that supposedly loves us, then we should find it on our own. As far as I'm concerned, when they are hurting us, they are not thinking about how we feel. I'm still working on it. I wish you and me luck.
2006-07-05 23:03:57 · answer #2 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No... But you are actually in a dilemma in which you are "stuck in between"... It is rather a choice if you really do love him and should stay, or let go because you think that is what's best for both of you... I think, you should then "listen intently to your heart"... For I believe that the true essence of LOVE is rather setting someone FREE... But this principle has many interpretations that could be made with it... In your case, if you really love him but don't want to "let go", then you should find hope in "loving him despite every weakness, every flaw, every failure"... Never give up loving, but still, find time to contemplate what is rather the best way for both of you... It may be hard to set someone free, but if it maybe the ONLY way, then you should let go... But if you think that there is HOPE in what you have right now, then I think you could still change everything... Just listen well to your heart, and always think in what love really means for you, as well as for him... ;p
2006-07-05 23:20:01 · answer #3 · answered by -=Karl Jason=- 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope your not crazy, or at least not yet. Your in love but hurting at the same time. No matter what you do, no matter what he does the feeling is going to be inevitable. Whatever is wrong in the relationship it is probably always going to bug you. You can't always follow your heart, you have to make it so your heart is making sense and use your brain too. Your heart is going to end up getting broken either way, it might just be good to break off the relationship now.
2006-07-05 23:04:51 · answer #4 · answered by thehereyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope that is how a lots of us feel most of the time.... im guessing you guys have a lots of arguments and sometimes you dont know how to handle it. now for you to want to leave it might is a bit more sereous than just little arguments so what you do is explore your relationship if you find your self more depress than happy,if you cry more than you smile,then you should start thinking about your piece of mind and your well being....believe me honey nobody dies from love... but you will get an ulcer if you stay in a relationship that just makes you want to scream all the time... think about it. and do what is best for you,good luck.
2006-07-05 23:02:15 · answer #5 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not CRAZY you just can't desifer the things that you like and dislike about him. Make a list and if the love over powers the bad then its meant to be or at least for now
2006-07-05 22:58:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2006-07-05 23:00:35 · answer #7 · answered by christine s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no yur not crazy at all i had a x friend who had the same probliem she loved this dude but he cheated on her so much she hated him but she loved him so much she didnt want to loose him and she always through her probliems on other ppl like me and every time i gave her advise she never listened and just let him controle her so were not friends anymore jusr make you dont let yur love life mess up yur relatonship with yur friends like mine did goodluck!
2006-07-05 23:04:44 · answer #8 · answered by funkychika22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think to yourself......If you SHOULD leave then you really need to whether you want to or not. I was stuck in an abusive relationship for 2 years because I listened to what I wanted, not what I needed.
2006-07-05 22:58:03 · answer #9 · answered by Mischelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are just confused. The best way to get over a man is to get under a different one.
2006-07-05 22:59:22 · answer #10 · answered by Shorty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The emotions of hate and fear can be just as strong as love.
2006-07-05 22:57:19 · answer #11 · answered by Mommymonster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋