I know there is a family bond, but I feel so bad for my brother in law. I love my sister, but I think her kids are suffering cause she is never home. Either working or with the other man. And he is 10 years her younger
2006-07-05 15:03:59 · 55 answers · asked by taralynn1216 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Don't, tell him, he will find out soon enough and you won't be in the middle of it. You tell him , then him your sister and at least one other person will never speak to you again.
Yes you would be doing the right thing but it will most likely hurt YOU more than do YOU good.
2006-07-05 15:06:15 · answer #1 · answered by The Hit Man 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your sister but it is bad business to go to the brother in law. What if they decide to work through it? Where does that leave your relationship with your sister. The best thing to do is sit her down and tell her what you think. Sometimes when people are in situations they can't see the hurt they inflict on other people. You, however, are outside looking in. Give her an ultimatum. Tell her she has a week to tell hubby or you will. At least that way she doesn't feel like you are being sneaky and going behind her back.
2006-07-05 15:09:00 · answer #2 · answered by vanembryzoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this is a difficult question! I would say that you should have a serious heart to heart with your sister and tell her how you feel about what she is doing. If you seriously dissagree with what she is doing I would tell her that you do not wish to be a part of her life untill she changes her behaviour. Stuff like this always comes back on people and they will end up being miserable with miserable lives sooner or later.
If you have the time and energy available you might want to help out the kids by doing what you can for them now and then. I would also not get to closely involved with your brother in law to avoid being closely involved with this horrid situation.
Good luck to you and your sisters family!
2006-07-05 15:12:19 · answer #3 · answered by CJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should tell your brother-in-law. Your sister will be mad at you, but the kids need there mother. No woman should pick a man over there children. Children must come first. Maybe you don't have to actually let either one of them know it was you who told. It could be like a friend of his that actually seen her with another man. If those kids knew what was going on, then they would be upset. People should always think before they act. Like that saying (What Would Jesus Do). Honesty is always best no matter what.
2006-07-05 15:10:38 · answer #4 · answered by ancer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's Not your Place To Tell Him
He Will Find Out Eventually On His Own
If He Cares To Know
Maby He Knows And Is Just trying To Keep Whats Left Of HIs Relationship With Her
And Why Would you Want To Tell
Maby You Are Thinking Just A Bit Too Much About Your Brother In Law ... Hummm ...
2006-07-05 15:09:46 · answer #5 · answered by FaLLiN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would try and talk to your sister and get her to stop. How long have they been married and how old are the kids?
There is a definate danger that if you tell her husband that you will end up being blamed by your sister and possibly by your brother in law.
Tread lightly and if you can't get your sister to stop, it just depends on what you value more, revealing the truth and letting all hell loose or keeping quiet and maybe keeping the family together for now. :(
2006-07-05 15:10:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't tell her husband because it sometimes can have a reverse affect (he might dislike you). Have a long talk to your sister & explain your concerns for her children. They are the ones who will be hurt the most if she does something stupid.
Please be their best friend so they'll feel comfortable talking to you. Try & find out why your sister is doing this. Maybe she's craving attention. If it is, help her husband find a way of giving her more at home. Good luck.
2006-07-05 15:14:46 · answer #7 · answered by Annie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mind your own business. You may just make things worse. Talk to your sister, not to her husband. Fixing her marraige is her responsibility, but, you can be there for your neices and nephews just don't butt in where you don't belong. What you are thinking of is crossing a fine line between family and morals. Morally it is wrong to cheat (that's general common knowledge) but blood is thicker than water. Family first always (some people may or may not know this).
2006-07-05 15:08:30 · answer #8 · answered by Oracle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your sister if what she has with this man is worth losing her kids and paying child support to her husband until they are 18 years old. If she says yes, then go ahead and tell him. She obviously doesn't care about her kids or her commitment to her husband and God.
2006-07-05 15:10:24 · answer #9 · answered by TCPBCP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wouldn't believe you if he loves her. That is something a man must discover on his own. Sadly, usually to late to keep him from losing everything he has.
2.) I like the advice Vanembryzoe gave you. It makes very good sense. Remember the brother-in-law will need lots of proof.
2006-07-05 15:09:13 · answer #10 · answered by meimmoody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋