when should my friend tell her duaghter who is only 4 at the mo that the dad that her sister have and who she thinks it dad is not her real dad cuz i think she gonna struggle with this and i want to be ready with advice for her
2006-07-05 15:02:34 · 13 answers · asked by donna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Tell her as early as possible. If you dont make a big deal about it, neither woudl she. If you suprise her when she gets older, it will be more devistating for her, and could create a potential rift between her and the step dad.
2006-07-05 15:06:27 · answer #1 · answered by bluechick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her used to the idea now. She's still young.
Children can learn languages much faster than adults can, so telling her now is a good thing.
However, if her biological father has not been taking care of her and supporting her, and this man who she thinks is her real HAS has been fathering her, then tell her that she has two dads.
It may sound silly, but it will be much less of a shock to her as she grows, learns about reproduction, and understands the difference between emotional and biological connection.
2006-07-05 15:14:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does not matter how she tells her, though as she is still a child, maybe telling her it makes her special will help.
To answer you question, the little girl must be told now, and I mean now or the second she is awake enough.
I was adopted when I was 6 weeks old, so I obviously knew nothing about it, but I have always known.
Tell her now.
2006-07-05 15:23:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should not tell her daughter yet but she should have the real father come around more so her daughter likes him and get to know him so when she does your friend tells her daughter she will already know him and be ok with but her daughter might be a little mad about it
2006-07-05 15:11:03 · answer #4 · answered by nee-nee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her now, because some very nice family member or friend will tell her and it will be devastating if she hear it from somebody else. do not make a big deal out of it she will be fine.
2006-07-06 02:37:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
best tell her when she is able to understand,we did that with ours and it worked out ok for us,but everyone ,s differant and they have differant reactions to this kinda thing.still when she about the age of 9 i would say then tell her..
2006-07-12 04:41:29 · answer #6 · answered by irlamboyo1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her when shes old enough to comprehend.. let her enjoy being a child for as long as she can... its the best years of ones life so innocent
2006-07-05 15:07:21 · answer #7 · answered by roaminggnome6963 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, but you should take extra english classes, because your question is extremely confusing. AND, there are reasons that there are punctuation marks in writing.
2006-07-05 15:06:40 · answer #8 · answered by MB's Gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is up to your friend to tell when she feels the girl is old enough to understand, nothing to do with you at all.
2006-07-05 20:44:24 · answer #9 · answered by traveller 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she should tel the child now!
2006-07-05 15:06:30 · answer #10 · answered by Rae Rae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋