Does Anybody think Abortion is murder?

Question

My Fiance and I planned the pregnancy, but just recently I found out he cheated on me with his ex. I don't want him anymore, and I don't want him in my life. I an currently 6 weeks pregnant. I don't know if I should terminate the pregnancy, and if I do, I don't want to be considered as a murderer or a killer. PLEASE HELP!!

Answer 1

I can totally understand why you are upset about your boyfriend cheating on you. The decision to keep your baby is totally up to you, but I pray that you will keep it. If you just can't handle keeping it, what about giving it up for adoption. There are so many wonderful people out there who can't have children but want them very badly. That is always an option. I think you are just upset right now at your boyfriend and your emotions are also out of wack with your pregnancy ( I am almost 8 weeks along). Please give yourself some time before jumping into a decision like this. Also remember that your baby is also a part of you and not just your boyfriend. You obviously want children, so I think you are just freaking out because of your situation with your boyfriend. Emotions get totally screwed up when pregnant, and your boyfriend issues on top of it just makes it worse. I know its not my decision, but please don't terminate this pregnancy. For some reason I feel very strongly that you really want this baby, but are emotionally a mess over the situation with your boyfriend. I pray you will take the time to think things through. Being a mother is such a blessing, and I am excited and blessed everyday with my pregnancy ( I miscarried my first pregnancy).
If you would like to talk , please email me. I will be there for you to help you through this!!!!!!! *many prayers and hugs*

Answer 2

No one can answer that question but you. And don't worry about what other people will think of you. They're not in your situation and aren't you and therefore can't make the decision for you. If you don't believe in abortion or think it's murder, then that's your decision and you shouldn't do it. My biggest piece of advice is don't make the decision lightly. If you have an abortion, your decision can't be undone and you don't want to go through the rest of your life feeling awful, thinking you shouldn't have done it, etc. I doubt (and hope) many women feel good about abortion after they do it, but you don't want to spend the rest of your life depressed and wishing you hadn't done it. You really need to sit down and think about your situation. Your fiance cheated on you and that's horrible, but is that a reason to abort your child? You might not be ready for a child since this happened, even though it was a planned pregnancy before you found out your fiance cheated, but remember that abortion isn't the only option. There's always adoption. But if you do decide to have an abortion, PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE do it as soon as possible.

Answer 3

At 6 weeks the "baby" is just a ball of cells. It does not have anything as far as body wise to it. I think that if you want to abort it then do it. But be damn good sure that the next kid u get pregnant with you want FOR SURE! I mean if you carry it and do not want it cause of the slime bag father then you may resent it and that is no way for the baby to live...If you do not want it and do not want to kill it then give it up for adoption there are lots of people that can not have kids and really really want them. In your case, I personally would not terminate the pregnancy. I would only get an abortion if the pregnancy was going to kill me or if the baby had a bad bad health problem that would cause it suffering when it was born. No matter what you do, U and only you have to live with it the rest of your life...

Good Luck to you....

Answer 4

If you feel it's murder, then it is. I know I feel that it's murder. Think of what you just said. "I don't want him anymore." Is that really any reason to abort this child? You planned on having it. You said you don't know if you want an abortion or not. Think of this, if you do have an abortion, there is no turning back. That child will be gone forever. If you choose to stay pregnant, you have 7.5 more months to decide if you want to give the baby up for adoption or raise it yourself. Would you rather make a decision in a short time period or have a little more time to think about it?

I hate putting links up, but don't listen to everyone that says "it's just a clump of cells." This is what a baby looks like at 6 weeks:
http://www.pregnancy-calendars.net/week8.html

Answer 5

I personally don't think it's murder. The people that say it's a person at conception-how is a clump of cells smaller than a pinhead a person? Could it live on its own? Of course, there is no defined time where it does become a viable human being, but at six weeks I think it's obvious to most reasonable people it's not.To those who say God says it's wrong-well, that's your God, not necessarily your or the topic creator's. I know you're just looking for outside opinions, but it really does come down to what you think is best. Remember though, if abortion is something you're really not comfortable with there's always adoption. I can't imagine how hard it would be to carry a fetus for 9 months and then give it up, but you really do need to do what is best for the baby first of all, and then yourself. I hope my point of view helps. Good luck.

Answer 6

I'm sorry that some pro-lifers aren't seeming to be sensitive to your situation, but I'm even sorrier that some pro-choicers are giving you the wrong facts.

It's an age old debate - one that wont ever be agreed upon by the masses, but you need to consider not what everyone else thinks, but what God thinks. He sent you this child as a gift, and no one beside God has a right to take life away.

Because you are asking this question now, I'm concerned for your emotional state later if you decide to go ahead with the abortion. Many, many woman regret their decision. Talk to someone in your area about some other options and give this baby and yourself a chance. You might be a really great mom to this little one.

Answer 7

I feel a woman has a right to terminate a pregnancy if she wants.
Personally I could not. To be honest I could not terminate a pregnancy myself at all at any stage,but I do believe in the rights of women to make their own choice. That is just my own. In my own mind to bring an unwanted child into the world is also hard to imagine. I've seen so many people abuse children because they did not want the child. The baby cannot help what the father does or doesn't do. I think you will have problems dealing with an abortion just because you are asking yourself that question. I also respect your decision he is not father or husband material because he cheated on you.
Can you raise the child without the boyfriend? Many women raise children alone. My son is now 26. Although it was a planned pregnancy his father and I divorced and I raised him alone but with alot of family help and support. It doesn't matter to me how I feel about his father because he is MINE and I love him with all my heart. You have to ask yourself the question, can you love this child and not see his father when you look at him?
Raising a child alone is hard but rewarding. You have to want it.
There are other alternatives. There are so many people that would love that child as their own and would pay all your expenses. If you love the child but do not feel you can take care of it alone, It would be an act of love to give the baby to someone who would love and care for it.
Have you researched how many people would give the world to have a child but cannot? It would not be selfish to give the child to another but I feel the ultimate sacrifice of love.
Good luck

Answer 8

I had an abortion and yes I do think it is murder. I hated myself forever but my situation to where the child would have actually been a part of is unspeakable at this moment. I hate to tell you to have an abortion and your greatest fear is probably like not having enough money or time for a relationship with the baby when it comes but Im here to tell you that whatever choice you make you are going to have regret just by the immature nature of this report. Obviously youre not even strong enough to handle a bonding relationship... and not because he cheated on you but because you havent received closure on the subject because you are talking to complete strangers.

Answer 9

I think abortion is a choice for someone to make on their own. I had five kids, I chose not too. However, I will not judge others. Then on the other flip side of it.
I'm not sure if it's the hurt talking or not, most likely it is. But there are several women out there in this world that didn't want to deal with the jerks that are the father's of their childern and they do it daily. It just comes down to how strong you are and if your ready to be a mother through it all.
Life lessons, how you react to them makes you who you are later down the road.
Best I can give you. Good luck! And Take care hun.

Answer 10

Please don't punish your baby for something your ex has done. You are the one who decided to bring this baby into the world. And YES abortion is very much murder. Whoever says the baby doesn't feel pain is lying, because it dies a horrific death. Plus, if you don't want him in your life, there are millions of infertile couples out there that would love to adopt your baby. And don't say you can't give it up, because if you have an abortion you are not only giving it up, you are killing it..

Take a look at this website...it may help you:

http://www.lifesite.net/abortiontypes/