You've been with a man for 10 yrs - since you were 16. He develops a friendship with a co-worker that you are suspicious of, and one day tells you that he is leaving you for her. He moves in with her, meets her family, discusses marriage with her, etc. One month later, he tells you he wants to work it out, leaves her and moves back in with you. Should you take him back? Can you rebuild that trust? What if he still works with her and you KNOW he still speaks to her regularly?
2006-07-05 14:54:41 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, kick him to the curb because if things don't go right between you two he will try to go back to her.....No find another love.......
2006-07-05 18:45:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anastacia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not take him back. He's a jerk. If he cheated once he will do it again. Then again, if you aren't married there was no committment in the first place.
However, if you feel you have to give him another chance, I would tell him that either he finds another job and severs all ties with this woman, being fully accountable to you (ie, email passwords, checking voicemail, etc.) or I would not take him back. He has violated your trust and must work very hard to regain it.
Another thing that might also help is if you and he move to another state. Pick up your life and start over together. It gets him away from her and gives you a fresh start where you must rely on each other, building closeness.
Of course, any attempt to reconcile should absolutely include counseling.
2006-07-05 15:49:04 · answer #2 · answered by CleverGal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally speaking....I WOULD NOT take him back!!! The chances are very good that he will leave you again. It might not be now, supposed you decide to get married, have children and then he decides to make friends with ANOTHER co-worker. No, don't do it!!!!!
2006-07-05 15:04:09 · answer #3 · answered by db401966 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats tuff for anyone to answer unless we are going through that ourselves. I guess it all depends on the circumstances. Did that girl break up with him and he has no where else to go and is using you which may be the case. Do you have really true loving feelings for this guy and can forgive him? And is he really sorry for what he did? Do you think he will do stupid things again? That must really hurt and suck if this is what happened to you.
2006-07-05 15:03:48 · answer #4 · answered by Fergy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Throw that rotten trash to the curb and have the garbage people pick him up. You can't make a gourmet meal from a pile of trash, unless you like eating trash.
There are a lot better people around for you to find. You don't have to recycle this old bag of dirt.
2006-07-05 15:00:09 · answer #5 · answered by DarthFangNutts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are confident enough in your strength as a person--you don't need the games!! At first trust is given. Once it is betrayed, it has to be earned. just say no thank you. The best way to get over a man is to get under another!
2006-07-05 14:59:32 · answer #6 · answered by islandboosky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would be a fool to take him back ,He will just do it agan and figure you will put up with it the next time allso.
2006-07-05 15:14:14 · answer #7 · answered by allsagoodnight 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why take him back? so that he can do the same thing to you again when a new secretary starts working with him?
let him go his own way and be happy with yourself
2006-07-05 14:58:30 · answer #8 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, no, did I say "NO"? Cause I meant, not only NO, but Hell NO! No way! NEVER! Ain't that much "taking back" in the world!
2006-07-05 15:00:30 · answer #9 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, once the trust is gone it gone. also he is selfish, and convinced that you will accept him no matter what he does. don't do it. you can fool me once shame on you, but if you fool me twice shame on me. don't settle for anything less than the best. good luck.
2006-07-05 14:58:55 · answer #10 · answered by cmac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋