My mom did not let me use the internet until about 4 months ago and still made me watch PBS kids and stuff until i was 15. She also won't let me leave the house to even go to a friends house across the street unless she watches go to the then i have to come back and tell her what happened and then go back if shell let me. She also is not planning on letting me take drivers ed until im 18 and doesn't want me to leave the house for college. I think shes being overprotective, what do you think, is this normal?
2006-07-05 14:51:22 · 17 answers · asked by Mehrunes Dagon 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
yes well I am a parent myself of three children and i've seen alot of people in the same situation. I personally think it's rediculous. I mean come on we as parents now days half to watch over our kids and do our best to protect them but some mothers just go over board with the whole thing. watching pbs till your 15? If you dont learn about things on t.v your definaltly going to learn about them out on the street. best thing a mother can do is just teach her kids right from wrong and cross her fingers they take thier advise. If a parent is too strict all the child will do is do things behind thier back and that is not good
2006-07-05 14:59:00 · answer #1 · answered by jojo 2 · 10⤊ 3⤋
I am not a parent but growing up I was in the same situation. Are you the only child?? Are your parents still together? Those factors have a big influence on how your mom is treating you. Unfortunately your mother is not letting you grow as a person. Being overly protective can do more harm than good. Sometimes we as children need to make our own mistakes and if we are sheltered to much then one can be afraid to live life. I suggest talking to your mother about what YOU want no demands just talking let her know how YOU feel, then try listening to her. Good luck.
2006-07-05 15:04:07 · answer #2 · answered by trouble comes a knockin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as a mom I understand her point of view, and I am sure she has good intentions. BUT, I am afraid she is probably doing more damage then good, my mom was strict and I left the house at 18, got married, and ended up in an abusive relationship, and I think if she would have loosened up I wouldn't have left. I will be praying for you.
2006-07-05 14:57:26 · answer #3 · answered by mojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is really overprotective when I was 10 I was I was able to get on the Internet and when I was 12 and 13 I was able to watch R rated movies. I feel really bad for you.
2006-07-05 14:58:47 · answer #4 · answered by Cc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not normal she is haven trouble lettin u grow up..my 13,14,15 yr old boys go to the library (we live in a small town) n its like a mile away n i make them call me when they get there n b4 they leave, anytime they go somewhere i set a time n they r to call when they arrive n leave but i use it as a safety tool..as long as they follow it i allow them more time n freedom. i dont need to know all the details of what they did but since i dont ask they tell me.all 3 are taking their driving stuff now
2006-07-05 14:57:39 · answer #5 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW!!!!!!!!!! I am a mother of three boys, and soon to be G-ma, let me just say....... my brothers are 32 and 30 and they are still living at home!!!!!!!!!!!! It is a very hard thing for a mom to let go ......... it hurts, but it is the best thing to see your child go forward.... I know you are in a difficult place, hang in there, and when you are 18 find your way.... you stay close to your mom, but its not your responsibility to make her feel better..... its a hard world to face but keep on your toes and remember who you are .......way down deep inside........and you will go far..... will pray for you and your mom....
2006-07-05 15:06:49 · answer #6 · answered by seeker_kat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dang, she's really over protective. Just talk to her and tell her that your a teen and if she'll allow you to do things on your own, but you'll take small steps like you'll go to your neighbors house and you'll call her when you get there instead of her waching you go and small things like that, and then you can start asking for the bigger stuff.
2006-07-05 14:55:06 · answer #7 · answered by You Never Know 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is normal, but she loves you too much to lose you. She is defintely being overprotective. She probably doesn't want to expose you to the more risky, unadulterated side of life, if you get me.
2006-07-05 14:55:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she definitely is. Try to sit down with her and tell her exactly why you need more space. Throwing a fit will only make it worse, and if you handle it maturely she won't be able to say no.
2006-07-05 15:04:04 · answer #9 · answered by Eleanor Rigby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she loves you, and she is very protective. but put yourself in she shoes. while you are with her no one can hurt you and you are safe. also she may see you as her companion. but she needs to get a life of her own and let you experience life. the world is hard, and crazy but you have to learn like everyone else.
2006-07-05 15:03:03 · answer #10 · answered by cmac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋