She goes out once every blue moon but I don't think that's appropriate when ur in a relationship.
2006-07-05 14:38:49 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Dining Out ➔ United States ➔ Atlanta
Yeah you should allow her to go to the club, you don't own her! She's her own person. You need to trust her not to do stuff with other guys, maybe sometimes go with her, but don't try to control her every move or pretty soon you won't have a girl to control.
2006-07-05 14:40:48 · answer #1 · answered by Skitz628 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As long as she's not going home with anyone or dancing nasty with people then there's nothing wrong with it.
If you're feeling insecure and jealous, maybe you should go with her. It can be something fun that you both can do.
Acting like you're her father and "not allowing" her do to something she wants to do will only cause serious problems in your relationship. The best thing to do is sit her down and explain to her your feelings and why you wish she wouldn't go.
If she still wants to go, then offer to go with her. When she's there, you can observe her behavior and see whether she seems too "flirty" or not for your liking. If she is, then don't yell at her or patronize her but talk to her about it. Maybe she can find a way to still go and have a good time without acting the way you don't want her to. But she may not even act like that at all anyway. You just have to go with her and see.
I've been in a serious relationship with my fiance for over seven years now, and I've been to the club a few times with my friends, and my fiance knows he has nothing to worry about. At the end of the night I always come home to him.
2006-07-05 15:20:19 · answer #2 · answered by autumnfaerie8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHOULD YOU ALLOW HER!!!! Who the freakin' hell are you??!!! You don't own her!!! She should be able to come and go as she pleases and do what she wants... as long as she's not cheating... you should have nothing to say about it. She is a human being.. not an object you can do as you please with. She has rights... this is not the dark ages. If she wants to go out with her friends to a club.. so what. If you're that insecure and you don't trust her.. then buddy, you're with the wrong person and you might just as well end the relationship. Do you really want to go through life with her if you have no trust. That's what a relationship is built on.. TRUST!!! If you don't have that, you have nothing!
2006-07-05 14:42:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure its appropriate. I go out with my girlfriends once in a blue moon too. Only because I like spending time with my boyfriend of 4 years. If you've been going out that long you should be trusting enough to let her do what she wants. So maybe I want to hang out with the girls one night? Big deal...It's healthy. And you should make it a thing that when she goes out you go out with your guy friends too. Dont sit home and mope. It's better to have fun in life. Don't sweat it. Have fun..life is short!
2006-07-05 14:41:56 · answer #4 · answered by Kroo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to keep her, let her go. Its only the local club. How much trouble can she get in to? Unless you don't trust yourself, don't allow her to go. Honestly, it is healthy for a relationship if she and you both go out by yourselves, you both need seperate friends and activities that do not include the other. Yes you may be hurt but it is better in the long run. Could you not find yourself something to do with your time while she is out?
2006-07-05 14:44:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The more freedom and space you give her the more likely she will be attracted to you. Let her go to the club any time she wants to (within reason). If she cheats, you can end it. In the long run it will save you some time in being in a relationship that isn't worth it anyways. But... I don't think she'll cheat. I think she will respect you for giving her the space that she needs.
2006-07-05 14:47:46 · answer #6 · answered by ape54321 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend and Allow. Dude, get a grip on yourself. She is your girlfriend, not your wife, and you don't have any right to give/ deny permission or allow her to do anything. Even my husband doesn't give me permission to do something. She's not your slave, right? Let the girl go out, if she wants. If she's happy in the relationship, she wouldn't want to go out without you to the club anyway. Maybe she just wants to leave you, because you sound very controlling.
2006-07-05 14:42:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends to the girl. If i am in a relationship i dont want to go out unless im with my friends but not in the club. I havent been there in my entire life. Well about your question, if she wants to go there, let her go, let her decide and i do hope she also asking permission from you or just go with her in the club to have fun and chill out. If she really wants to with her friends then let go of her, if you have trust with her, there would be no problem.
2006-07-05 14:55:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has had a BF of 4 years now...should she allow him to out to the club when HE wants to?
2006-07-05 14:41:37 · answer #9 · answered by Kate C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW 4 years congraduations thats a long time. I know before it didnt bug you when she went out dancing with the girls or with random friends. but it isnt appropriate for her to go without you. Im in a relationship and it hasnt been as long as your but. My boyfriend doesnt think its right if I go without him.
try fliping it around. Telling her one night your going to go to the clubs. with some friends. by saying were going to be driniking a little ( if you two are at age ) and dance with some girls and have some fun. See what she would say. Like Telling her try being in my shoes.
1. If she is like. No I dont think so. No. You aint going anywhere.
Then you can tell her. Well How do you think I feel.
2. If she says. I dont care do what you want. and kind of looks at you and looks away. she does care but she doesnt want you to see or tell you that she does. cause she wants you to know she trusts you and she knows you know what you have.
No matter what. if your in a relationship. You dont go to the clubs by yourself. thats what people that are single like to do for fun. You guys should always go together. so no girl tryes to get all up on your boyfriends your nuts. and no guy is trying to feel all on your girlfriends body.
Were different we all think the same. Girls know what girls are all about and what they will try to do. So do guys. Guys always know what guys are thinking. but when we try to tell them that by saying they dont want them going to the club without your man or your woman. They come across as you not trusting them and thats the last thing you want them to think.
Your smart. think about it.
good luck
2006-07-05 14:51:13 · answer #10 · answered by allie laught alot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋