2006-07-05 14:36:04 · 59 answers · asked by Baby Girl 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Oh my goodness, look at the people telling you to be shamed for not waiting for marriage. Get a life, people, stop forcing your views on others, it's rude.
Darlin', the most important thing you can do is accept it and move on. Make peace with yourself, no matter how hard that may be. The truth is that sex is just sex. A few hundred years ago, everyone had sex with everyone! The church turned it into a big thing, it never was before that. It's true that when you find someone truly special, it'll be an amazing experience. Your life has so many ups and downs to come, and this'll just join into the list. Learn to love yourself though, you're the most important person in your life. Good luck!
2006-07-15 16:43:23 · answer #1 · answered by jadevandersee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as I believe and I know, a girl's virginity is said to be lose when a boy and the girl are meant to do that thing...
Based on a story that I've read it stated there that it is not consider losing your virginity when it is not so pure and real to your feelings and emotions.
I think lots of people now are not very aware of protecting being virgin but I have faith just be strong...If you let this issue struck your mind it's a lost but if you still care and sacred it very well you will be still flesh..
Don't be so silly to ask for forgiveness to God,, because still an immoral aspect of life.
Don't worry God is very understanding,....
If you are worrying about your future life with your husband, well, be honest to him... You will definitely test his love to you, No matter what are the bad experience you had and done,, if he respect your being YOU...when you do that thing it will be so sacred and memorable because within you, you and your husband accept the Real LIFE!!!
Gudluck!
2006-07-18 19:11:42 · answer #2 · answered by ~~cLaRizZe~~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you feel bad? You shouldn't. Sex does not have to be connected to love. Sex is fun, and if the two of you enjoyed yourself then it was worth it. If it wasn't all that fun this time around, think about why it wasn't fun. Then the next time you have sex you can avoid those mistakes (if it was uncomfortable physically, that won't be a problem next time around). Yes your "virginity" is now "lost." You've changed, you are no longer a little girl, you have entered into the next stage of womanhood. Just be sure to be safe during sex, use some kind of birthcontrol for yourself (pill or patch) and then also use a disease prevention device (a male condom or female condom). Have sex with someone only when YOU want to, not to hold on to a boyfriend or because he's bored and "wants some." When you do find someone who really care for and have sex with them, your experiences will only add to your enjoyment. You're going to be fine.
2006-07-05 14:55:30 · answer #3 · answered by amyaliceco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry to hear about that. you see..when you do that thing before marriage, 100% you will regret it....unless you end up marrying that person. and when you regret, there's nothing you can do to bring back your virginity. once its lost, it can never be bought back.
what you should do now is you pray to God and ask for His forgiveness. Be sincere when you pray, because God looks at the heart and He will know if you're sincere or not. Repent from what you did and dont do it ever again until you're married. if you are sincere in repentance, God is faithful to forgive you. and not only does He forgives but He also forgets. He places that sin in the sea of His forgetfulness.
even though you have done it already, it doesnt mean to say that you cant have a new life. its never too late to pursue holiness in yourself.
you have to learn to forgive yourself also and move on with your new life. when you've started having sex, i know it becomes addicting and the pressure will be greater compared to when you havent experienced it yet. but dont lose hope. you can still change your life.
forgive yourself because He forgave you. begin and learn to respect yourself now and respect your body and care for it. im here to support you because i care for you.
2006-07-16 17:45:24 · answer #4 · answered by Jacqueline 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'am David G. first how old are u? and if the boy doesn't like u forget him and not just because he was the first one to have sex with u doesn't afect u because what did he win by having sex with u nothing. and what did u learned for him that? U know what u learned that you shouldn't just have sex with a guy that talk nice to u or looks good. Next time BABY GIRL u should jus wait until u think is the right guy but at list know the guy for about year and if he can wait the long then he is it. bey BABY GIRL
2006-07-14 12:57:26 · answer #5 · answered by David G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you've lost virginity, you can't physically regain it. But if you ask God to forgive you - you can "start anew."
From this point forward, protect your integrity. You've already learned a hard lesson. Don't think - "Oh, it's too late, I might at well hop into bed with anyone." Start fresh, now.
Value yourself! There are WAY too many BOYS out there who will feed you all kind of lines trying to get you t have sex with them.
It's not easy, honey, but hold out for one who values you. (And you DO have value and worth) He's out there somewhere.
Don't spend a lot of time beating yourself up because you made a mistake. Take a deep breath, hold your head up high, and go on from here.
2006-07-05 14:48:06 · answer #6 · answered by kids and cats 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Cut your loss - by never ever doing it again , an by cuting your relationship with him . an by feeling repentance and regret !
Pray to the Almighty to forgive you for being lustful , decadent ,weak an plain dumb !
Pray that He may redeem you !
Hmm pick up keep living life salvage what you can .(don't give up on life , it would be pretty stupid too give up on 99/100 of your life because you messed up 1/100 of it ~ !)
Learn from your mistakes !
Remember this don't forget it because if you do you might do it again, or you could do it in a different context , but becuase of the same reason !
(what ever it is lust -stupidity etc)
That's happen to me innumerable times in different context of mistakes though !
An look deep in your being to find out what caused you to do this .
*could of been the inability to say no.
*could of been apathy.
*could of been a mix of many things .
What ever it is make sure you find out so that it wont cause you to mess up again in this or an other thing important in life !
2006-07-16 06:24:25 · answer #7 · answered by cingular11111 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately there is no such thing as turning back the clock. What's done is done. The best think that can possibly come of this is that you learned to think before you act.
Experience is a rough teacher. You made a mistake, now learn from it.
2006-07-15 19:43:24 · answer #8 · answered by darkwolfslust 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well there really is not much to do about that situation but to avoid getting into another like that you can remember to respect yourself and others. And then when you ready you can try again hopefully with a guy that you love. Just because you did it once does not mean you have to do it agian.
2006-07-19 10:27:15 · answer #9 · answered by girl in love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can't cry over spilled milk now. Once you lose your virginity you can't get it back. Just chalk it up as a learning experience.
2006-07-19 14:42:24 · answer #10 · answered by Wahenie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋