i found the video on his phone about 2 hours ago im so angry and hurt i dont know what to do,my instinct tells me to leave him but i will lose everything
2006-07-05 14:28:51 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I feel so bad for u right now, but that's not what u asked this question for. If I were u, I would wait a few hours then call him to tell him. U may not be ready to see his face again, so tell him over the phone that u found his tape and that u want an explanation. Dont dump him yet. Tell him that u dont want to see him for a while, and wait for a few weeks. Dont let ur decision (if u r going to dump him or not) be affected by anyone. In that few weeks I want u to think over everything and then see what u went to do. Call him with ur answer. Good luck :)
2006-07-05 22:29:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are not going to lose everything unless you signed a draconian pre-nup. Even then, the chances are that the law of equity (if you are in the UK) will override it. So, calm down, take a deep breath, and forward the video to your solicitor. Get the divorce papers sorted and serve Mr. Porn Star his just desserts at dinner tonight. Wear something nice and look as pleased as possible. After all, with Mr. Porn Star out of your life, you have a chance of meeting a much better class of man. Best of luck.
P.S. Be strong. You will live through this and come out okay, even though it doesn't feel like it right now.
2006-07-05 22:01:14 · answer #2 · answered by Sun is Shining ❂ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leaving him is the best thing for you.
If you stay with him, you may have all the financial security, but you'll have no emotional security at all.
It would be so hard to build your relationship on broken trust, and what he did shows such perversion and disrespect for you, it will hurt either way.
He may try and apoligise to you and tell you it was a mistake and that he'll make it up to you and that he loves you.
But if you leave him, you will get over it, and build your own life.
You didn't lose him, he lost you.
It will be painful beyond reason, but how could staying with someone who caused you this much pain be any better.
There is a new life out there waiting for you, and once you get over him in time, you will be able to be happy again.
2006-07-05 14:38:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you be losing everything?He cheated on you,by getting away from him,you should be gaining by not catching some kind of infection from him.Materials can be replaced,but you can't!However,the courts will see to you getting what is fair.You can not wavier him on this one,if there was this one,there was probably more that you don't know about.I would personally,change the locks and throw him to the curb.He deserves it! I am so sorry for your hurt and disappointment in your marriage,but now is when you need to be strong and do what is needed to be done and go to family and friends for support or keep talking to all of us.I wish you nothing but the best and hope you can get threw this peacefully,Good Luck to you!
2006-07-05 14:38:14 · answer #4 · answered by twjp1962 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave!! You will not necessarily lose everything. It depends on what state you are in. Most states are 50/50 no matter of infidelity. Check with an attorney. If you stay with him, this will eat you up inside, will you ever trust him again? When you make a decision to stay, the past is the past and you have to be willing to go back to the way it was. Can you honestly do that? I do not think I could. He taped it for crying out loud!!! Sorry, my thoughts are with you.
2006-07-06 03:30:07 · answer #5 · answered by candispassion.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As demanding because it will be, your going to ought to inform him that you're: A) apprehensive about having a misscarry and B) do not relish the way he's treating you. the way he's appearing isn't very husbandly, and actually, if he's doing that, you need to be the only going off with somebody else, not him, because he's the only which would not deserve you. As a married couple, you both ought to take heed to and understand eachother, and that doesn't advise having sex each and every time he calls for it through the indisputable fact that would not make it interesting for you, and is probably risky for you and your baby. in case you've been bleeding possibly you should bypass see a usual practitioner merely to double examine that each and every thing is okay, and in case you sense the will, you should likely bypass see a psychologist not for counceling, yet very few powerful advice. i wish I helped, and that i wish you fix issues out. reliable success. :)
2016-11-01 06:44:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out! Now! You will not lose everything. You might lose some material posessions (it's all crap anyway), you may lose a sense of stability (but that will pass). In reality, what you think you may lose, it's already gone. If this were some un-planned spur of the moment, get drunk and screw, type one-night-stand, your marriage might be able to survive. But he VIDEO TAPED IT!!! That sends a clear message to me. He knew full-well what he was doing and doesn't care one bit about hurting you. You confront him about it and you'll get equivocation or worse. Save the recording so you can get what you need out of the divorce settlement (not to be vicious, just to be realistic and survive). Go stay with a friend or family member. Your situation completely sucks, but you gotta press through. I don't envy you what's going to happen in the next couple days, but you'll survive. The rationalizations will come, but just remember, if he loved you, he wouldn't be filming his betrayal of you for later viewing...
Bless you and be strong.
2006-07-05 14:37:14 · answer #7 · answered by juliezulu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is something horrible. cheating is such a horrible thing, but then video taping it On your phone? does he want to get caught. there is no way you will lose everything. thats why they have such good lawyers these days. but for no reason should you stay wth someone like that. they might say oh i'll never do it again, but why would they do that in the first place if they TRUELY love you. Leave him, there are more men who will treat you better
2006-07-05 14:54:05 · answer #8 · answered by Terra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a smart woman don't leave him, may be he did it on purpose for you to find it and, don't even argue, play the fool with him, Tell him how much you love him and care about, also let him know that you know that he only f*ck that girl but he make good love with you, don't leave what you work for. Don't worry be happy
2006-07-05 14:35:00 · answer #9 · answered by boy_jam_arch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How will you lose everything? You have proof that he broke his marriage vows. You can clean him out.
Leave now. If he had the balls to videotape his encounter, then this is not the first time he cheated on you.
2006-07-05 14:31:41 · answer #10 · answered by Annette R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋