I am 6 months pregnant 15, my boyfriend 16 which is my baby father is a dopehead and this other boy 16 too want me and want to take me in as my future daughter father cuz i explain to my boyfriend that i don want to raise my child off dope money and the other boy and my boyfriend don like each other so i don want to leave my boyfriend cuz i live with him and he support me with what i need and i know he can support our child but i don want that kind of money . I want whats best i think me dealing with my boyfriend for 2 years and i cant take this dope no more but i really like this other boy but he don care about my boyfriend. I think that he can be a better father than my boyfriend but another problem is how can i trust him for his word tho we have been talkin before i got pregnant and we been good friends for years and we dated and he been there to take me to the doctor when my boyfriend is caught up on that stuff... he have a job too but i know we too young but i need some help!!!
2006-07-05 13:54:22 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Babe, you can just come stay with us and we can work this out. Email me. But you need to work on supporting you and your baby. Don't depend on anyone to support you and your child. Get away from the doper, because he will eventually either get caught, or killed or get himself fried fro drugs. This is your mistake...do you really want the other boy to pay for your mistake? What about his dreams and wants? What about your dreams? Have you seen a Dr. for prenatal care? You need to have an amniocentesis done to make sure the baby is normal. Then hon, grow up and look into adoption because going from man to man or in this case boy to boy is not the way to be a parent. The chances are you would get with the new boy until the baby is 2 or 3 months old and then go back to the old one. Please, please do this for your baby and the new boy. Drop the old one, because he is not mature enough to be a parent let alone a boyfriend or husband. Hugs hon, this is a tough row to hoe...you didn't mention your parents, bring them into this ASAP. At least you are bright enough to know you you need some help. Good Luck
2006-07-19 13:13:59 · answer #1 · answered by skye 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is what you do:
1. You choose the person that will be a good role model for your child and that will be able to support you financially. You should also remember to always use condoms and/or birth control so you don't become a teenage mother to two children.
2. After you get on your feet, go back to school.
3. Finish high school and go to college and get a degree. If you're financially strapped, almost every college has financial aid and will give you a free ride. A degree (even an associates (2 years in college)) will get you steady paying work and will help you to provide a better living situation for your child and yourself.
4. Always remember that this isn't about you anymore. YOU are out of the picture and cannot afford to be selfish. You are a young woman who chose to have sex at a young age and are now feeling the consequences. Your main focus in your life must be your child and what you must do to keep him out of the "thug life" of his father.
2006-07-05 14:06:32 · answer #2 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all what are you doing having sex when your only 15 and second if your going to have sex that young why didn't you use condoms, I know people make mistakes I a 23 and mother of 2 and till this day I am still making mistakes just look at my questions but lecturing you is not going to help you so I will give you my best advice. Drop the dope head, stay in school if you have already droped out go to an alternative school thats what I did and try to make the best life for you and your baby, you dont need a man in your life to help you take care of your self and your baby. Before I met my new boyfriend I raise my 2 girls when one of them was 4 months and the other was 15 months by myself and they are 2 and 3 now. Please just think on whats best for you and your baby dont ever ever ever have to depend on a man to take care of you. Best of luck to you and your unborn baby!
2006-07-19 12:11:23 · answer #3 · answered by Mich 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I too Had my son when I was 15 I was pregnant at 14. It is hard enough to be so young but the only thing I can tell you is most boys at that age might think they want a family but they don't they still want to play around. I would make yourself happy what ever that is and go from there as long as it is not endangering your baby. And soon you will find the right guy or path you need all good moms do and sounds like you want more go girl. there are places to help you if you want to it yourself.
2006-07-15 22:52:59 · answer #4 · answered by kat793005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are 15, and you are to young to be a parent. You still have a whole life a head of you. You really should consider adoption. Do you really want to raise your child in that kind of environment?
Look down the road a few months when your child is crawling and getting into everything, and your boyfriend has left his stuff within reach of the child, and the child gets into it...DEAD BABY. Think down the road when he gets busted, and child services comes and takes that baby from you...,.child in the system forever!!! None of those are good options, but let's say your baby dies, because he got into the stash, you knew about it, you could go to jail, because you didn't protect the child.
You are still a child yourself, why do you want adult responsibilities?
I know of some options for you if you would like to amke an adoption plan. Contact me.
2006-07-05 14:04:07 · answer #5 · answered by Fire Storm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question is so hard to read and really understand. I think that if you truly want to be a good mother to the child you are carrying you need to get yourself out of this lifestyle and into a stable home. You need to forget about guys for the moment and get yourself some education. If you concentrate on making a good life for yourself you will make a good life for your child. Find a caring adult, a parent, teacher, social worker, or church worker, they can help you break away from this life. Seriously forget about guys for now. Two parents are best for a child but not if both are mediocre, be a great mother and someday you will find a great father for your baby.
2006-07-05 14:08:31 · answer #6 · answered by cwoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just a 16 year old. You need to stop worrying about these boys and worry about you and your baby. I understand you need some kind of father figure in your child's life but ain't no man worth all the headache especially at a young age as yourself. Really you need to get yourself together and take care of that baby and put these boys aside. It is not easy being a single mom but I have been there done that and got thru just fine till I met and married my husband. Right now you all are just kids/teens who need to live life and not have any worries. Your only worry should be you and your child. Do not depend on no boy to take care of you and your baby.
2006-07-05 14:04:18 · answer #7 · answered by Coast2CoastChat.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same answer I gave you in your question about your boyfriend who sells drugs. Don't stay in the drug scene, or hang around. After you find the teen pregnancy home to move into,then,you'll receive help through agencies in assisting you with baby clothes and baby furniture. Also, they'll help you get into a housing program. Return to school graduate and take your time in having a new boyfriend, and establishing a life long relationship with a guy. You are really young, focus on your baby. When you get a little older and maturer you'll find a descent guy. Good Luck!
2006-07-18 12:44:06 · answer #8 · answered by ianthra2010 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, get grounded girl. Are you finishing highschool? Going on to get a supportive college education? Where are your parents? I think before you choose guys, you might wanna choose whats best for baby. Though to give baby up for adoption, you will need birth fathers concent in some states... If you guys can't talk and decide whats best for the baby, then its time to get the hell outta dodge.... Remember this isn't playing house.. that baby is a real person, and if ANYTHING happens to baby.. YOU are the one going to be in serious trouble. Talk to the boyfriend and decide for what's best for baby. Leave all the other boys alone, because thats exactly what they are.
2006-07-16 09:13:55 · answer #9 · answered by Fire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was on my own at 15... so I know where you are coming from.... It won't do you any good to tell you to get out of your situation... because if you wanted to be out, you would've already found a way. I know you are asking for advice.... but none of us are in your shoes.... nor do we know the dope head or the "other guy". So it wouldn't be fair to say one way or the other. But I will tell you is that if you are going to bring another hman life into the world... it is no longer about you... your boyfriends... anything that you want to do... it's all about the baby.
Do you have a responsible member of your family that you can suck it up and prove to them that you are ready to be responsible, and make a life for you and your new baby?? That, is my only piece of advice.. do it yourself... you don't need a guy in the picture... Wait til you mature and are able to make a decision that is supposed to last for the rest of you adult life Good Luck.
2006-07-15 20:52:04 · answer #10 · answered by Brooklyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋