two weeks ago i caught my boyfriend of 6 weeks with his so called best friend. my boyfriend says he was drunk, it was a mistake and he is definitely not gay. i really like this guy..should i believe him or get lost!
2006-07-05 13:41:02 · 28 answers · asked by chynadoll 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
it was on the oral level.....
2006-07-05 13:51:18 · update #1
just to clarify, he was on the receiving end...that doesnt make a difference though does it?
2006-07-05 14:02:04 · update #2
Sounds like maybe your boyfriend is confused about himself and his sexuality right now. You didn't say exactly what they were doing but I assume the worst?
Back off for a while until he figures out who he is. Better yet, cool it with him and date other people.
One same sex experience does not make a person gay.
2006-07-05 13:45:32 · answer #1 · answered by booktender 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELLO! Guys just don't "make mistakes" doing this stuff. He's got something going on and doesn't want to admit it. Can you honestly say that you would be with him without ever thinking of what you saw again??? It would be right there out front every time I looked at him or wondered why he was late. He's gay!
2006-07-05 13:45:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it this way, if he would end up in that situation when drunk, what else could he do? I would say it's time to head out the door and not look back. It's not just a trust issue, it's a health issue too. Save your heart before it goes too far.
2006-07-05 13:45:06 · answer #3 · answered by barefeet561 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the worst, he is gay and in total denial(i'm not saying being gay is bad. It's not.). Or he is confused with his sexuality. Or he could be bisexual.
Myself? I wouldn't put up with that crap. I would give him his space to figure out what he wants.
Tell him to cut down on his drinking, because it obviously makes him act like a total ******.
2006-07-05 13:45:24 · answer #4 · answered by ProfessorFarnsworth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was with a guy who was curious and talked to me about it. After getting over the seriously weired out phase I was grateful for his honesty. Sometimes you need to know more about yourself. Besides, I discovered that playing with his butt made him really hard for sex. It's not that he's gay but a lot of guys are afraid to explore the possibilities. That goes for the girls too!
2006-07-05 14:47:56 · answer #5 · answered by Angelina DeGrizz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
EEEEWWWWWWWW!!!!!!!!! You better dump this guy fast!!!!! Not gay,lol!! Listen hon, if he was bi-sexual or gay and he was honest about it and used protection and was up front with you ,thats one thing. Then if you choose to be with him its on you. But if he is a liar, which he obviously is ,he could give you AIDS!!! He really showed you he doesn't think honesty is too important and nobody is that drunk to give another guy a ********, come on!!!!! Wake -up!!!!
2006-07-05 14:00:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What? What were they doing? If they were doing more than kissing and looked like they were going to go all they way before-surprise!-you caught them, YES, he is either gay or BI.
Dump his a$$ and leave him. I have known plenty of guys who had gotten drunk and NEVER started to feel like they were going to f@ck their best male friend!
2006-07-05 13:47:32 · answer #7 · answered by uchaboo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get lost. he could put your life at risk because he is not willing to be honest. he is willing to disrespect you by cheating, which regardless of the sexuality thing, is a deal breaker. plus, everytime he is with his "so called" best friend...your always going to be wondering what is going on. receiving end?!? it doesnt matter, he crossed the line...or lines in so many ways. leave him ..faaassssttt!
2006-07-07 11:45:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was he getting or giving? There's an old saying getting oral from a guy doesn't neccesarily make you gay but giving certainly does.
Aaah who are we kidding your BF is queer as elton john's houseboy.
Time to make yourself scarce.
2006-07-05 14:18:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That kinda depends what they were doing.... was it just being overly touchy feely or kissing? I'd say to let that go, but if it was more than that -- be very worried. Also consider if there has been any other strange behavior.
2006-07-05 13:46:12 · answer #10 · answered by legacy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋