I believe my husband is "shopping" the internet.?

Question

We are seperated and have agreed not to do anything for a period of time.

Answer 1

sounds like he isn't keeping his part of the "bargain". what are you going to do about it if you find out for sure that it's true?

Answer 2

So, you're separated, but not seeing other people; a separation is a time for two people to live apart, and see if they feel like they're better off that way, or would rather reconcile.

If he's just browsing personal ad sites, don't worry about it; one of the things he's going to do is see what other kind of women are out there. Based on what I've seen on those sites, you likely have *nothing* to worry about in terms of competition.

If he's actually dating these women, however, you have a right to confront him about it. Make sure you're certain of his activities -- don't just guess. If you are certain, you have every right to say "knock it off, or we get a divorce." If you aren't certain...well, then you're having trouble trusting him, and if you're not able to trust him, that's probably part of the reason you're separated.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Well if your seperated he has every right to "shop" the internet.. just because he's "shopping" doesnt mean he's buying just yet.. just means he's trying things on, and sizing the store up so to speak.. just because he's talking to them on the internet doesnt mean he's dating them just yet, but if you cant handle him just talking to them .. your definately not going to be able to handle it when he starts dating them.. dont know if u wanted out of this or if he did, but if ur the one that did then sorry but this is what happens when u let your man free.. and if he wanted out, then this was to be expected.. if he doesnt want to be married to u, he surely isnt going to act like he's married to you while seperated..

Answer 4

well you can confront him, or snoop but either way you might not find out what you are looking for. good luck. i would just sit and talk to him, tell him that you suspect him of shopping on the internet, and that if he is not going to take your guys's agreement seriously then he needs to decide what he wants, tell him you will give him a week but thats it, that you are not going to go threw this unless he is realy seriouse about both of you getting help together.

Answer 5

Shopping as in women? Well if you are seperated then he can do what he wants...niether one of you know if yall are being true to the other

Answer 6

if you are separated, then you can't expect him to hang around. If he is looking for a new mate, chances are your "separation" is going to last a lot longer than you anticipated. It looks like your separation is going to actually result in divorce. I feel bad for you. I hope you can salvage your relationship with your husband, if that's what you want to do; if not, good luck in dealing with this terrible situation.

Answer 7

what proof do you have that he is , why would he agree but lie , i think you worry too much , but anyway i think if theres noway your getting back together then let it be but if you might get back together then ask him if he has been and say fine if you are then i am and both of you break your agreement.

Answer 8

Do you have kids? The "Internet" thing can be temporary. Don't dissolve your marriage if you have children. If you don't, then do whatever you want.

Answer 9

Get to know yourself again. Try and not think about what he is doing. Concern yourself with you. If its meant to be it will be.

Answer 10

So what's the question?