i'm married to my kids father, and i do love him. but he doesn't work to support us. so i desided to divorce him. well i meet someone else and i have really strong feelings for him too. this other guy works everyday and says he will take care of me and my kids. and give us what we need. i'm just asking if anyone else has been in this kind of situation and for some sugestions.
2006-07-05 12:48:24 · 10 answers · asked by clynn0302 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hi. You are my twin right now.
Boyfriend. Loves me. That's about it. We have a good relationship but I want the serious stuff and he wants to play video games.
New guy. Loves me as well. Can't stop touching me every time he's with me. Tells me the different ways he'll spoil me for the rest of my life. Wants kids and a happy little family soon and wants to (and can afford) take care of one.
In your case, it sounds like you should date the new guy for a while and see if things fall into place. Don't move too quickly... but the father of your children doesn't seem to be supportive enough, and right now you need to be thinking about yourself and your children.
2006-07-05 12:53:58 · answer #1 · answered by lizwatson109 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel because my ex don't work a whole lot when we were together. Of course you will always love him, he is your kids' father. I would figure out what makes you like this other guy and what is stopping you from divorcing your hubby. Once you figure that out then everything will fall into place. I know that ever since my ex has left I have way less stress and my daughter talks to her dad when he calls to check in on her. If you are still with your hubby because of your kids, it is not good because your kids will notice that something is wrong or that you are not happy and they will try to get you to be happy. so just think through all of your feelings and find out what makes you happy. No matter what it is make sure that you and your kids will be safe and happy together, with whatever your decision is.
2006-07-05 19:58:14 · answer #2 · answered by mc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit looking for a man to take care of you and your kids. If you have a problem with the fact that your husband doesn't work then you need to talk it over with him. If you love him then you should make the effort to be honest with him and and try to work it through.
The point of a relationship isn't financial support...it's LOVE and emotional support. Bouncing from one relationship to another just because of money is a bad idea.
2006-07-05 20:00:55 · answer #3 · answered by dancing_in_the_hail 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds exactly like my ex. He had 13 different jobs the year our daughter was born. He also cheated on me while I was pregnant. I divorced him by the advice of his own mother. I am currently married to a man whom I wanted to "take care of" us. Bad decision. You may be taken care of but you may not be happy if you have nothing in common. I would try to establish a foundation for yourself on your own. Otherwise you are going to end up feeling trapped.
2006-07-05 20:01:16 · answer #4 · answered by yummymummy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go slow, but I married a woman with two children one was 19 months and the other was 4 months old. I als adopted them and love them very much. It was not hard loving another mans childremn, heck I loved theor mother. WE have been married 26 years
2006-07-05 19:54:29 · answer #5 · answered by usmchawkeye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for the working one that treats you and your kids well and is not afraid to show it. You were right to get rid of the non working bum, he did nothing for you and the kids when it came time to pay the bills, feed and clothe you let alone pay for a roof over your heads.
2006-07-05 19:56:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever thought of getting a job and taking care of yourself and your children? What are the directions you are being pulled in? Stop looking for other people to take care of you take care of yourself and your kids!!
2006-07-05 19:55:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you meet Mr. Right while you are in emotional turmoil, chances are he won't be right a year from now.
Solution:
Don't make any commitments till August of 2007.
If at that time you think he is still Mr. Right ....full speed ahead!
2006-07-05 19:52:35 · answer #8 · answered by Uncle Thesis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes the father of the kids and that will never change...he will allways be there.....and he will probably never work......whats going to make you happy?.....whats going to be best for the children?....... you have to work in the world today......i know.....im a father of 5 and i have to work....good luck
2006-07-05 20:04:17 · answer #9 · answered by talldkhansum 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be on your own, and stop looking for men to be your means of happiness.
2006-07-05 20:38:09 · answer #10 · answered by TCBgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋