how do i get over this girl that i love that is not a lesbian but i am and she is so damn wonderful and i love her but she doesn't love me which is ok but anyways help me please i need to get over her i need to do it but i need help
2006-07-05 12:43:50 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
There are few things sadder than unrequited love: love that can't be returned in kind. The girl you love can never love you the way you want and need, even deserve, to be loved.
They say that time makes these sad affairs better, and I believe it's true; but, sometimes, it takes a very long time indeed, even years. Sometimes never.
Perhaps the first thing to do is recognize that that it can never happen with this girl. And, I mean really believe it. You have to also believe that there are so many people in this world that the day will surely come when a different girl may come into your life.
It will never be the same, of course, because we never love two people exactly the same. Cherish the feelings that you had for the girl, but let it go. Good luck and God bless you.
2006-07-05 12:51:59 · answer #1 · answered by silvercomet 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You say you are a lesbian, then you need to find another girl that has the same beliefs and then you will never know, you might find the right one. Just remember, if she did not love you then it is probably for the better that the two of you are not together.
2006-07-05 19:49:02 · answer #2 · answered by Avitar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to make an appointment to the doctor and explain yr feelings.
you sound obsessed and you dont want to get there.
yr situtaiton is very difficult for me to give out an opinion. I once thought that there was nothing wrong with women ormen choosing a different sex. But the fact is that it is not so easy , nor so good to do so. Hoewver I am not going to get into this one.
What I know of lesbians is that they get very jealous and you are showing extreme jealousy here. Dont get into this trap. First. Second do seek professional help so you get rid of this other memorie of the girl you love. Third the girl does not love you, isnt that enough proof for you to looke elsewhere?
I know its hard to not have what we want. I know the heartache of someone who rejects us or does wrong to us about love can be devastating and many times one does not forget. One stays in a vicious circle that should be avoided entirely. I had the best love of my life in Sweden, I absolutely adored a man whom was everything for me and a lot more. I moved to half way across the globe for him. I had surgeries (medical) all one after the other for this guy so he would not see me as a problem, i did everything for the love of my life. the one and only one.
We flew in helicpters , he was a pilot in the Swedish Army, I mean I was in heaven for 5yrs and BLIND.
He had a "sambo" whom he loved, and a daughter in another city an lead two lives while I had divorced for him, and done a million things just to be with him.
In the end? He dumped me and very ungraciously, or I dumped him the way i see it, but he showed his cheating person and while I had no one around me in Sweden, spoke not the language at that time, and was alone I was shocked and nothing to do at the time.
But uncovering his acts has nothing to laugh about. It was worse than i had thought.
But I cut the whole thing and the man i discoverd as the worst cheater, two timing womanizer whom i had met online, pretty much soured the rst of my life for many years. I m still not over even if it looks bad, thats the way it is. I am still not over the damage he caused me ...because stupid me...went after my dream my stubborness...Tommy boy in Sweden.
Thats all i ever saw, Tommuy Tommy Tommy Tommy Hager from Borlange in Sweden. My helicpter man, well for just seeing that i jsut had to have him i got myself so ill, so manhy problems and in the end the truth shot me nearly to death. THE GUY WAS A F... LIAR perfect over internet phone and brief live ins with him but for 5 years all was misery inw aiting for all. And as I said when I finally made the guy say "come back and lets get married" i got there and surprise! He had someone else since years before, and a daughter and he had me in one city and him in another had the other two.
AND HAD I NOT BEEN SO OBSESSED WITH "I HAVE TO HAVE TOMMY BECAUSE HE IS MY TRUE SOULMATE AND HE WAS" i would have avoided so much hurt, my health or lack of it gettng worse, and all the million problems that came afterwards for my stupidity of "having t have the guy i loved". He loved me, but he was not the real responsible and good man, he was a coward. And damaged me so good.
I THINK IF YOU OBSESS ABOUT THIS KIND OF THING YOU QUICKLY NEED TO GET HELP AND GET OUT OF IT. BECAUSE JHAVING THIS MENTALITY OF "I HAVE TO HAVE" GOES AGAINST GOD'S WILL. AND IT WILL PROVE TO YOU , OVER AND OVER, WHEN THINGS ARE NOT MEANT TO BE NO MATTER HOW MUCH EARTH AND SKY YOU MOVE ....YOU WILL HAVE THE SAME OUTCOME IF THINGS ARE NOT MEANT TO BE.
You already said that she does not lve you. Do you want to suffer like I did? for 7yrs now? DO YOU???DO YOU REALLY WANT TO SUFFER IN AGONY WHEN OU FIND OUT THE TRUTH EVEN IF UYOU MAKE THAT WOMAN BEDCOME A LESBIAN? OR DO YOU WANT TO LIVE AND FIND THE RIGHT ONE FOR YOU? why not try someone else.
Please. avoid the pain i have gone through. You are heading to the same place I did a few years ago.
JUST SAY NO, WHEN YOU THINK ABOUT IT.
2006-07-05 20:00:23 · answer #3 · answered by noteparece? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im a guy but when i wanna get over a girl i just test the waters for a while and have as much fun as possible.
so for a few nights go out and go crazy
it'll help
2006-07-05 19:49:47 · answer #4 · answered by fortyounce95 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Surround yourself with other people, freinds family whatever. Then force yourself to go out and meet new people. Eventually you will realize that there are just as good girls out there for you. And of course time heals all things so you could just wait it out.
2006-07-05 19:47:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go. If it's "true" love, she'll be back. Trust me, it won't be easy. Hey, who knows, in the process you may even discover self-love ... and realize that perhaps you deserve better. This happened to me ...
2006-07-05 19:48:21 · answer #6 · answered by TCBgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take a xanax and CALM DOWN!
2006-07-05 19:46:14 · answer #7 · answered by billgutsky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find yourself another girl. it is always easy for a girl to find a companion.
2006-07-05 19:46:50 · answer #8 · answered by Eryc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
... the pain will never end ... get used to it ...
2006-07-05 19:46:45 · answer #9 · answered by Santa's Helper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lezbo...move away...lezbo
2006-07-05 19:47:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋