I mean what is the allure of having kids to them. I don't see anything cool about being teenager parent. Having to do homework and change diapers or any of the other problems that young pregnancy can have. Oh and girls who are trying to get pregnant in there teens; teen moms are a huge turn off.
2006-07-05 12:15:32 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
i think that they do think its cool. like everyone will be OH you have a baby how cute, or they want to dress them up in the cool clothes, but i think they forge that you have to pay for them. also i think that alot of the time they are trying to stop their boyfriends from leaving them,l and they think that having a baby is a good way to do it.
2006-07-05 12:19:40 · answer #1 · answered by fandj4ever 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Most teen pregnancies are accidents. When the girls find out it is then when they decide how to go about dealing with this baby. Its easy to say "Boy you sure are in for a rude awakening". But I honestly think that if sexual education paired with tough love and early lessons in responsibility were present in most homes featuring teens as well as taught in school, the problem would not be soo bad.
Usually it is after they find out they are pregnant that thoughts like having another life that will "supposedly" be all loving and forever in debt will secure love.
Also, some of them think its cute. And some of them just choose to keep the baby.
Most girls don't know what a kid can do to your body. They don't even know what stds they can get from sex.
But ignorance will always be blissful until the delivery room.
2006-07-05 12:23:24 · answer #2 · answered by kitt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think it's the idea of being a mother that intrigues girls my age. To know that somebody depends on me so fully and I've brought a life into this world. That baby would be mine and I would spend my entire life molding it to be a person. Hopefully an upstanding citizen.
However, I'm newly 18 and not looking to get pregant any time soon, nor do I have any children.
But I have a maternal instinct nonetheless and this is just my opinion.
2006-07-05 12:45:47 · answer #3 · answered by morbidpoet68 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These girls for some reason are feeling unloved and unappreciated at home. Or maybe they're feeling like they're being judged or criticized all the time. These girls ususally have very poor self esteem. They feel that having a baby will give them the undcoditional love they feel they're looking for or lacking in their lives. I grew up in the black/hispanic/latino part of town and saw it more times than i'd like to. It's really the saddest thing and it's something that I want to help fix.
If young girls felt better about themselves and respected themselvs more and loved themselvs more and had better self esteem....They'd make better choices for themselvs. Young girls + better choices = better lives for them. I'm all for that.
After college I would like to start a program for minority girls aged 11-17 in their schools to give them the tools they need to love themselves enough to give themselvs the opportunity to explor they're full potential. Meaning having high self esteem, not giving in to stereotypes, loving them selves enough to demand better than what life has thrown at them. To teach them what it is they can do to work toward what ever dream they may have. To teach them how to be assertive and how to communicate their needs to the people in their lives and also teaching them or helping them make decisions that willl better themselvs and not bring them down. Because if they did that, there'd be less teen pregancy there'd be less runaways and more business women, teachers and well adjusted mothers. That can only lead to great things.
2006-07-05 12:36:23 · answer #4 · answered by ilah23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They feel a void on the inside of them. They don't feel loved. They are in search for something to fill this void and also to feel loved. They think that having a baby is the answer to filling the emptyness they feel. They are not thinking about the BIG RESPONSIBILITY that comes along with having a baby. In reality they are being selfish. They are looking for a way to fulfill their needs while neglecting the true needs to the baby. Girls like this need counseling. Maybe they dont feel loved by their parents or maybe they dont love themselves. They need help.
2006-07-05 12:30:52 · answer #5 · answered by preculiar1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all...You better steer clear of these women. Because if you get caught in their web of destruction. You're going down with them...These are just lazy girls who have no promise in their lives and just want to reap childhood support from a sucker. And you make sure that sucker will never be you or you're going to have to pay for it the next 18 years. And your life is over. You just go on and make sure you are concentrated on your career path and be successful. And when you're in your mid to late 30's...Those girls who got pregnant will have raised some prime time low self esteem, hot, young and perky girls just ready for you to bang once they turn 18.
2006-07-05 12:29:39 · answer #6 · answered by Sweetness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you just described my cousin who wanted to be pregnant since she was like 15 or 16. She was overweight and she thought no guy would ever lover her but if she got pregnant that little baby would love her no matter what. They dont really think of concequences and every girl may have a differnet reason. They are not doing it for it to be a turn-on
2006-07-05 12:20:07 · answer #7 · answered by DesertGirlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never heard of a teen claiming she tried to conceivea baby but I've had friends who poked holes in their boyfriends' condoms to get pregnant. The reason they do that is because they think their boyfriends won't leave them if they have a baby. These women can't handle their boyfriends leaving, they need someone to love them and take care of them. But I find it ridiculous and crazy.
Word of the wise, don't leave your condom and girlfriend in the same room.
2006-07-05 12:56:08 · answer #8 · answered by Kel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered yourself when you said they are not mature or ready. They are unable to see past here and now. They may see the attention given to other mothers, and think that they want that, too. They may fail to understand the demands of raising a child. Or, they want to be loved and think the baby will give them that love.
2006-07-05 12:23:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thanks to the women's lib movement, girls now seek any attention from boys that can be considered 'love'. Boys take advantage of that by demanding sex for their attention.
Before, women were treated like queens and men had to jump through hoops just for the chance of being seen in public with them.
Yep! Women are now equal to men!
2006-07-05 12:21:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋