my boyfriend smokes weed..i dont..?

Question

i use to but i quit...i have asked him not to smoke when im home..yet he still does.what should i do?

Answer 1

Through the years I've seen this happen alot. People have things in common and, knowing this, they get together then when 1 decides to change they expect the other to do the same. That is not right, in my opinion. However, if he respected you the way you should be respected, he would, at least, not smoke when you were around. Remember this...if someone doesn't respect you enough to honor your wishes on these "simple" matters, they don't respect you enough to honor the more major issues in your relationship.

Answer 2

Never let someone, ESPECIALLY someone that you are in a relationship with disrespect you. If he doesn't respect your wishes you should leave him. Now, there are occasions in a relationship that you just have to bend a little. Lot's of times you'll have to lose an argument or just let something go for the better of the relationship. That's just how it goes if you want it to last. But, these occasions should be something that you can compromise on without becoming a door mat. If it's a good relationship "a real one" your better half would do the same for you. If this is something that is really important to you then you shouldn't be the one to bend, it should be him. Talk to him about it, and let him know how important it is to you and why. It sounds like you've already bent your rules and don't mind if he does it when you're not around. So, if he refuses to compromise I would suggest taking more drastic measures.

Answer 3

I think you should gage your action in the matter according to how important the issue is. If he's going to do it he should be cool about it and do it somewhere that unexpected guests would not smell it. Also there is an issue of how much is kept in the house? Large quantities beyond the amount one would want for personal use brings stiff penalties which vary from state to state. If he conforms at least in these ways I wouldn't make a major case of it , but its your call

Answer 4

Get rid of his pot-smoking A$$, he obviously has no respect for you. Pot smoking just makes you lazy and paranoid, even if you don't get rid of him, you'll end up most likely having to support him later on down the road. 9 times out of 10 pot is just a starting point, eventually he may even go onto something worse and then where will you be?

Answer 5

it sounds he doesn't want to quit so he never will. If you quit then very good for you and it would be much better if you could get away with it so you can continue with a real life instead of a childhood-like life with drugs. Tell him to never be high or smoke around you and if he can not comply then its time to move on and up

Answer 6

Well, I think it's one thing if he smoked cigarettes and it annoyed you. But since he's doing something illegal, it might end up getting you both in trouble, on top of being hazardous to you guy's health.
If you smoked with him before you quit, he might be mad like, "oh, the girl i fell in love with used to do this. you changed..." yadda yadda. Just know that you can't change him so either get over it or move on.

Answer 7

Give him the ultimatum and follow threw. explain to him that you have moved on from that behavior and that if he decide to continue smoking it then maybe he's not the right person for you.
you can't make him change he has to want to change himself. if he decides not to quit then you should understand that maybe your common interest have changed and you should move on to someone that you would have more in common.

i know you are probably concerned about time invested. but trying to change him by force will only make you a ****** in his eyes and he may start to resent you for forcing him to stop doing something he likes (be it bad for him he still like it).

best of luck.

Answer 8

You should dump him. If you smell the smoke he's smoking, it's second hand smoking or something like that. You quit and when you smell it it can affect you. Just dump him. When you quitted, it meant that you want to be with someone who doesnt smoke and who is healthy. JUst dump him.

Answer 9

Go to another room. My b/f smokes everyday in the house. Like 24/7...not really, but it seems like that. If you asked him not to do it anymore...what does he say about it? If he doesn't care about your feelings then you need to find a man that will.

Answer 10

Well if you dont mind it shouldnt be a problem, just remember that you can never change a man and you shouldnt get upset when he does it becuz he has been doing it before you came in the picture and you choose to expect it.