I was with my husband for just short of a year. I thought things were going great, i thought we were in love. then just last week he tells me i got a week to get my things out of the house. Said we got married too soon. we were 6 years apart and he just never told me when things were going wrong till he just wanted to kick me out. He has taken everything from me. my house, my car, and himself. I dont have a job im just feeling like SH**. why does this happen to good people.
2006-07-05 11:57:22 · 15 answers · asked by sgoddess79 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all bad things happen to good people all the time and vice versa. He cannot kick you out of the house, etc., plus guess what??? You don't have a job.....you should be able to obtain alimony. The unfortunate thing is that you haven't been married that long, so not sure regarding the alimony and how much. Seek advice from an attorney, usually the first consult is free. He cannot do these things to you, do not allow it. If he physically threatens or harms you........restraining order put into place. Make him leave if you have nowhere to go, but if you do then it us up to you whether you should do so. PLEASE get advice from an attorney right now!!! Number one is make sure you are safe if you fear him. Take care and good luck.
2006-07-05 12:07:21 · answer #1 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry this happened to you, and there is no way to reason it. Most likely it has nothing to do with you. The guy is just a jerk and doesn't realize what he has, and won't until it's gone. Don't worry, honey, you don't need someone like that to ruin your life. It is probably best that it happened early in your marriage. You have a lot of life to live yet, and you will be better off living without someone who stayed with you, and wasn't happy. He would end up mistreating you or worse. Go ahead pick up the pieces and move forward. Get a job you love, take some classes that you like, meditate, and pray. It may seem like you are at the very lowest point in your life right now, but you have the strength to recover. Find strength in your friends and family and you will go far. remember "that which does not kill us, makes us stronger"
2006-07-05 12:07:32 · answer #2 · answered by intensegrl74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are in a really hard situation. You need to get together with a friend or family member to lend you some support. It seems like the relationship isn't salvageable. If that is true, then start taking control of what you can immediately. Get an attorney immediately. You need to protect your rights and property. If there is a chance you can work it out, then get to a counselor right now.
Remember to take care of yourself. You deserve to be happy so don't let this situation make you feel that you don't. I know that you feel crappy, that is normal. Things will get better eventually, so just hang in there.
2006-07-05 12:04:44 · answer #3 · answered by defawn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People will always let you down, it's a simple fact. It's too bad you found out just how bad he was going to treat you after you got married. I think the age gap does have something to do with it. Don't worry too much about it though. You can do better I'm sure. Live and learn and make sure you don't make that mistake again. Do your best to seek God and trust him for answers. He'll never let you down. He's a friend that sticks closer than a brother, and he'll never leave you nor forsake you.
2006-07-05 12:10:21 · answer #4 · answered by Matt B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe God was doing you a favor by taking him out of your life before you got hurt even worse! Obviously he is a self centered person who doesn't care about you enough to worry about your feelings. It's going to hurt for a while, but over time it will get better. Keep your head up. Think about yourself, and do what you need to do to get your life back on track for YOU! Take some healing time, and keep in mind it just wasn't meant to be. Good luck..:)
2006-07-05 12:40:34 · answer #5 · answered by Emily :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it happens because good people assume that other people are good too so they don't see the signs and protect themselves. get yourself a lawyer and you'll get some of those things back, the betrayal and the shock will take a little longer to get over but learn the lessons and be more aware this time, watch and learn what someone elses character is really about and don't just assume they are good.
2006-07-05 12:03:24 · answer #6 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't tell you why these things happen, but I have the opposite end of the story...So all I can day is Trust GOD that he will take care everything and do not be envious or fearful of those who do wrong! I am seeing right now that if you pray and trust GOD he makes sure that the enemy will reap what they sow.
Prayer Changes things - Bishop
2006-07-05 12:06:54 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can't just kick you out, sweetie. It's against the law. It's your home too. Tell him if he doesn't want to be with YOU then HE can leave.
He's probably screwing around. I suggest you find out what he's up to when he's out and about. Make sure you bring your camera.
2006-07-05 12:19:23 · answer #8 · answered by dancing_in_the_hail 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all remember community property he cannot just kick u out.go 2 a lawyer.pick urself n move on hun he is not worth the tears.**** happens 2 good people because we let it.
2006-07-05 12:00:46 · answer #9 · answered by Lady Geo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably has a girlfriend...or maybe even a boyfriend. Stuff happens. You'll be better for it in the long run.
2006-07-05 17:06:58 · answer #10 · answered by kaschweigert 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋