i am a very attractive 25 year old girl who loves sex but my husband who is 32 does not he only wants to do it when he feels like it i have tried toys sexy clothes and even offered him another woman just for him or for us to share what do i do?
2006-07-05 11:55:15 · 5 answers · asked by angela g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get him to go to a doctor and have a full exam, specifically mentioning a low sex drive.
He could have low testosterone, wich also manifests in being tired a lot. There could be other medical reasons as well.
This is the place to start, then a doctor can give further suggestions if everything else comes up okay.
Good luck!
2006-07-05 12:34:15 · answer #1 · answered by Pichi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been dealing with this same issue for some time now (5 years). Without knowing the details of your relationship, I can only tell you what has helped in my marriage. My husband is a big strong fellow and not at all shy in public. The bedroom however is another story. He will very rarely initiate anything, and when he does he's very unsure of himself. When I initiate it seems like he takes a while to catch on to what I want (I guess because I don't say "Hey, let's have sex"). Recently I have been carefully paying attention to my responses to him and trying new strategies. The payoff has been great! I think that, like my husband, many men have some level of "performance anxiety" in the bedroom. They need our positive feedback desperately to know that they are doing the right things. This was hard for me at first because I'm a little shy about talking about sex, much less talking during sex. My husband has really responded well to getting feedback from me though, and now tries to earn more and more accolades each time. It's like a new challenge for him. He's even getting more affectionate outside the bedroom (holding my hand, rubbing my back, etc.). I think if I keep working on building his confidence, he will want to have sex more often because he feels like he can do it well. Men don't want to do anything they feel like they will fail at. Especially if it means disappointing the woman they love.
2006-07-05 19:34:21 · answer #2 · answered by tallgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The solution is to figure out why he is only up for sex so seldom. Is he working too many hours and too tired for sex? Does he have a health issue that requires a doctor to help him with? Is he depressed or stressed? Figure out the real problem and then you will have a solution. I doubt if it is just you or your relationship.
2006-07-05 19:01:08 · answer #3 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
damn, where the heck were you hiding? most guys would love to have you with them...but back to your issue. if you have already tried the obvious like toys/lingerie and talking...maybe its something more serious that he needs to see a doctor about? take your time and explain your concerns and your wants and needs to him, if he cares, he will do all he can to fill your needs even if it means going to see a specialist. good luck!
2006-07-05 19:07:49 · answer #4 · answered by City slicker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I couldn't say it any better than RKRELL. I wished I had a wife like that!
2006-07-05 19:08:44 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋