Ever Notice....?

Question

Have you ever noticed that in the Gay Community, there's your "flamboyant gay guy", and your "very quiet in the closet type".

Everyone has been around a flamboyant gay person.. They're the ones that will tell you in a heart beat their gay, and tell you about their sexual encounters, etc... Why do you think they feel the need to do so? If I was gay.. I'd just be gay. I'd just be myself, I wouldn't go around telling everyone my business.

People, I'm not at all against gay people. It's not a problem for me at all. i've just noticed in my experience, that with this peticular group, there is a flamboyant one, and a shy one. Sure there is this type of stereotype in each group of people. It was just a question, not a racial/or sexual orientation stab at someone.

Answer 1

maybe they're sick of people asking.. or wondering.

Answer 2

In my experience,
I have seen both and i think the flamboyant guy has nothing to hide and just is really out there....sometimes it can be annoying to the closet type and i also noticed how the closet gay types really don't like to entertain the happy gay guy because it goes against their "walk and talk quietly".

Every flamboyant guy their own reason for telling everyone about their sex scenes.
1. They just don't care and very comfy
2. Feel like they have to sale their personality
3. Feel like we (the listeners) actually like to hear stuff like that.

You said that if you were gay you would be your self...have you ever thought that maybe these guys are being their selves? Honestly alot of them just can't help it.

Personally, I keep my business to myself and really don't like to share the fact that i have a gf. I will tell personal friends and some family members but Its not something that wear on my forehead.

But in the end we all should be who we are...freely...
this is joke but maybe they are flamboyant from always having to keep it a secert for awhile.
Being gay now is just as popular as drinking a Pepsi....

Answer 3

To me, it is the same reason that many guys sit around the locker room talking about their latest sexual encounter. People are pricks no matter what their sexual orientation, race, ethnicity, or any other difference we can point on them.
Some people just like to be out there. It could also be that they hid it for so long, they just want the world to know. Kinda like when you tell a secret and feel like a weight has been lifted from your shoulders.
Many reasons, but the first one is my guess. Some people are just loud and boisterous, no matter what!

Answer 4

Actually, the flamboyant gay type, is more obvious than your typical straight guy.
Men who are straight, just seem different. Sure there is all kinds of macho assholes, but when a gay guy walks into a bar, you know it... he's the loud one, the one who walks with a sway back and forth, the one who is making hand gestures and making everyone notice. I don't know too many straight guys that go to that length.

Answer 5

It is often the same flamboyant gay person that talks constantly about being gay. Some people seem to be a gay person before they are just a person. But that seems to be there personality.

Answer 6

My oh my! What a question.........

And the answer I'm going to give is the same one I have given my daughter all of her life to explain why people are the way they are (and that applies to any/every aspect of human behaviour). Here it is:

"Everyone is the SAME but just different". The flamboyant gay is a stereotype just like the overbearing mother, the masculine dyke, the shy wallflower, the macho man......the list could go on forever.....but deep down...Aren't we all the same but just different?

Answer 7

There's a variety of reasons why gay and straight people are talkative about themselves. I think those gay people that are open about their orientation may be happy to be out of the closet and want every one to know.

Answer 8

Maybe they are just being themselves. I know many straight people (guys and girls) who love to brag about their sexual exploits. You are just more likely to notice when a gay person does it because they are saying something out of the ordinary to you.
There are lots of reasons people talk about sex in public, most of them are the same for everyone, regardless of their sexual orientation.

Answer 9

Maybe, sometimes, that happens in reaction to all people who still have bad feelings towards them. It's their way to express their rage mixed with a proud statement of "I'm here, get use to it, you old fashion minded person, join the future!".
I think that because whenever I'm in the presence of a chauvinistic person or an adept of "machismo", I'm transformed into a "in your face feminist" just out of rage of realizing it still exists people in the twenty first century with a middle age mind towards women.
I think it must be, more or less, the same feeling.

I believe someday in the future when acceptance of difference changes, there won't be a need to keep saying it - you just are and that's all, just like you said.

Answer 10

I think they choose to do so because of the way they were brought up. They were oppressed thier whole lives, hearing things like ****** and being told homosexuality was a mental disorder and a sin. They build up all that energy from remaining quiet, that when they finally stop caring what people think about them, it's like a hyper-active volcano full of sexual energy and carelessness. Think about it like this, if you got picked on everyday throughout high school and on one of the last days you get tired of being a doormat, you are going to explode on the person who picked on you.

Answer 11

I think the flamboyantly gay people are not just very comfortable with their sexuality, they are trying to prove something. They are just the center-of-attention kind of person. Being gay gives them an added reason to draw attention, flaunt their "accomplishments".