Hi everyone i know this is going to sound bad, my best friend has a baby who is 9 months old, all this kid does is whine and cry, i dont want to watch her because i have high anxiety and it gets me really stressed out, but my friend throws a fit if i dont watch her, how is a nice way of telling her that i cant watch her kid? oh and by the way this kid crys for no reason, i am a parent of a 3 year old and i have no problems with him at all, he dont stress me out like she does!
HELP PLEASE
2006-07-05 11:18:14 · 14 answers · asked by Aunt Mimi 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
let her know how stressed you get and tell her how stressful it was with your own kid. say you are working on your anxiety and trying to fix the problem (really do it too) and that maybe when you work out your own problems that youll be able to watch her kid.
2006-07-05 11:23:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should be honest of the situation; if she is a friend then surely she would thank you for the honesty...if you have stress that is manageable with your child thats great...hopefully you know when to just leave the room if he/ she gets to you and they settle down...a 9 month old is very limited in abilities to communicate and to try and figure out whats wrong is taxing...you do not want to over react or act in haste...mom surely has someone other than you to watch the baby....and again if you are friends..even best ones, you'll still be
2006-07-05 11:26:29 · answer #2 · answered by butterfly_lashes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend you can't. Tell her why. If your friend throws a fit, she isn't a true friend.
You should also suggest to your friend that the baby needs to see a doctor. When babies cry there is always a reason.
2006-07-05 11:51:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the baby wants her Mom, she need the closeness and love from her Mother. She is probably not getting it if this girl is always pressuring you to watch her.
2006-07-05 11:27:06 · answer #4 · answered by js3333 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend you have your hands full with your 3 year old. Find a day care center and tell her the day care center can give better care of her child because they have the resources and you don't because you need to give your child your full attention.
2006-07-05 11:27:13 · answer #5 · answered by virtualyfunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her that I just cant handle it. Tell her that she needs to find someone with more patience than you have.
Has she taken the child to have her checked for food allergies? My grand daughter was like that and we took her off of milk products and the crying stopped.
2006-07-05 11:24:24 · answer #6 · answered by nana4dakids 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you have your own kid to take care of and other things to do that you don't have time to baby sit. Tell her you don't have to patience for little baby's anymore and it stressed you out. good luck
2006-07-05 11:59:49 · answer #7 · answered by Katie R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Offer an alternative.
Tell your friend that you are busy and can't watch her child, but "this is the sitter that I use, and she is wonderful!"
More than likely your friend just trusts you because you already have a kid. Your input will definitely be taken with big thanks.
2006-07-05 12:56:24 · answer #8 · answered by volleyballchick (cowards block) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what you say "Girl , your kid is a wack job" No i'm kidding but just be honest with her, tell her that you cant handle something else on your plate right now.
2006-07-05 11:23:56 · answer #9 · answered by Sarcasm♥Sparky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her the truth....... Or tell her your going to have to criticize her parenting methods. i knew a girl (a) in the same situation and we saw girl (b) shoveling food down her baby's mouth and not burping him giving him gas and an upset tummy so maybe she is doing something that makes him cry and doesn't know it.
2006-07-05 12:08:14 · answer #10 · answered by manda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋