my ex. bf and i just found out i am 4 months pregant w/ twins e are fighting constantly he say 50/50 on aborting it or keeping it he keeps acting like i am a nussance when i need a ride to doctor i only asked once. does not ant me to have a life or see friends male in particular most of my friend are guys!but he chooses to date and party. when i show up hang out at party but not drink he gets angry throws fit if any guy comes near me. he sending me mixed messages yesterday said i was going to marry him eventually anay so i dont need to date or see any other guys friend or otherise!this is driving me crazy and stressing me out!!how to talk to him without throwing fit at him!!advise
2006-07-05 11:14:11 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
how to control my emotions!!?
2006-07-05 11:18:01 · update #1
i do still love my ex. though
2006-07-05 11:20:42 · update #2
seems really excited about the boy baby and Will pay child support his mom said so or she will kick him out
2006-07-05 11:23:14 · update #3
is this how a guy is supposed to act?
2006-07-05 11:24:36 · update #4
is this how a guy is supposed to act?
2006-07-05 11:24:38 · update #5
we are 17 and 8 and this as a suprise we broke up three months ago but are considering going back out again since to weeks ago i found out
2006-07-05 11:35:37 · update #6
I was in your shoes when I got pregnant with my first child. I was never happy with my ex and I knew that he will just give me misery. I stayed away from him and never married him even if he wanted to. I know you love him, but are you willing to sacrifice your happiness for him? Some people just say "I will marry him now...and just divorce him if I feel like I'm not happy in the future." Remember building a family and getting married is not as easy as 1-2-3. It's a lifetime commitment. Even if your boyfriend will do things that he likes to do (and even if he knows that displeases you), he will still do it because he knows you love him very much and you need him...he's taking advantage of it. As for my experience, I ran away from my ex (he wanted me to abort the child too, but after I said I didn't want to, he started to act up and became a BIG TIME womanizer), I don't know if it was his way of telling me that he didn't want the child...but regardless of that, I still ran away from him. Now, I'm happily married. My husband loves my daughter very much..in fact, he recently adopted her and named her after him. My advise is, never get trapped in a situation like this. Having a baby is a blessing...God has a purpose for that. DO NOT KILL YOUR BABIES. That's one of my biggest advices... God bless you!!
2006-07-05 11:31:48 · answer #1 · answered by lexie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
walk, no run, away from him. He doesn't deserve the blessed opportunity to become a daddy. Which is too bad for him and the babies, but what would be even worse is the effects that the arguing, and stress could have on you and the babies. Pregnant women need emotional support. Everything that you deal with, the babies do too.
2006-07-12 03:39:34 · answer #2 · answered by cityofchampions93 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is trying to control you. The best thing for you to do is to decide if you want to be a single mother or not. I don't think you will be getting any help from the father. Twins are a lot of responsibility your are going to need a lot of support and a stress free pregnancy to not have any complications. You need to do what is right for you - and only you.
2006-07-05 18:21:08 · answer #3 · answered by twinsontheway 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away from this guy. He is only going to make you and your children's life miserable.
If you want to keep these babies, you're going to have to do it on your own, I'm sorry to say.
You say he's excited about the boy baby...are you having a boy and a girl? Because that's just not fair to the little girl.
Anyway, I definitely don't think he's a good influence on you, and he most probably won't be a good influence on your children.
2006-07-05 20:59:00 · answer #4 · answered by braks_gurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry but i would leave. 50/50 for aborting your children sorry but how safe are children really going to be with this guy? he doesn't wan"t children if he drinks, parties, dates other people and wont drive you to the doctor. Sorry BUT HE JUST AIN'T INTO YOU. He has no respect for you as the mother of his children let alone anything else. So move on and let him live his sorry life and start enjoy yours.
2006-07-05 18:25:45 · answer #5 · answered by arianasdad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you write this stuff about the way this guy treats you and then say that you love him? You have a lot to learn about love little girl. real love - the kind you are looking for and will NEVER have with that guy- does not HURT. Get rid of him and run for your life!
2006-07-05 22:25:20 · answer #6 · answered by jachooz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't abort when you are 4 months pregnant. You should get away from him. If he's acting like this now imagine how he's gonna treat you if you two get married. He needs to seek help. Good Luck.
2006-07-05 18:27:10 · answer #7 · answered by Blank 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get away from a controlling and abusive relationship, for your sake, but more importantly for the sake of your baby twins.
2006-07-05 18:18:22 · answer #8 · answered by Lord_of_Armenia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. Have your babies. Sue him for child support.
2006-07-05 18:27:38 · answer #9 · answered by yogazen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋