Ok, so I'm on a date with a guy at a steakhouse and we're sitting on the same side of the booth and he has his hand on my leg and he's rubbing my leg. All of a sudden, this big, fat, white trash woman storms up to our table, puts both hands on our table and blurts out rudely, "If you're going to live a homosexual lifestyle out in public, I'd appreciate it if you didn't rub each other's crotches in front of me." After picking my jaw up off the table, I cooly said, "you'd better move the f*ck away from my table, lady, and go sit your fat a$$ back down at your own table." Also, as I was leaving, I said, "and furthermore, why don't you mind your own f*cking business."
Would you have done anything differently? I know there are folks that are intolerant of others out there, but I was completely dumbfounded....kindof ruined the rest of my date.
2006-07-05 11:11:36 · 24 answers · asked by Vincent 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Good answers so far. Yeah, in retrospect, I've thought of a thousand better ways to handle the situation...just caught me off guard, ya know???
2006-07-05 11:24:53 · update #1
I think the response fitted the situation. That fat trash was prime time rude and out of place.
2006-07-05 11:20:05 · answer #1 · answered by Cymalon 5 · 7⤊ 1⤋
20/20 hindsight is always best and there are alot of good answers here. I think you probably did your best given the circumstances. Cultivating a calm loving exteriour can create issues whether you are het or gay. Consider your surroundings so that you can put yourself in good company and be safe. Some of these people are not safe.
As far as 20/20 hindsight goes, I think I might have mustered the courage to turn to my date and say loudly, "jeez, now I know how it feels to have to stand in the back of the buss".... She should get the Rosa Parks reference easily.
2006-07-05 19:19:42 · answer #2 · answered by Daniel M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that blowing up at her and using foul /threatening language was probably not the best way to handle it. A better response might have been to calmy inform her that you are on a date and not doing anything that a "normal" couple would be doing. Then I'd report her to the manager and wait to see what they did. If they removed her from the place - you get justification.... if they ask you to leave - you get a lawsuit!!! Don't resort to crude words and threats of violence.... that just fuels their fire.
2006-07-05 18:18:37 · answer #3 · answered by legacy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I would have told the woman to wake up to differences and not be such a buzz-kill. Would have kind of shocked me too at first. How mean. Some people have a problem with showing public affection, but this was different, it was about being gay. If she doesn't want to see it then she can stay at home.
2006-07-05 18:21:09 · answer #4 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry you've been offended by our romantic behaviour, It must be so galling - when you're not getting any yourself. Please, why not stay where you are and turn around to look away from us, that way we won't be observed by anyone else.
I'm not really pro PDAs either, but the simple "Get a room!" is about as far as I go - and even then they'll have to be at it like it's breakfast after a week of no food.
2006-07-05 18:37:52 · answer #5 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First,I think public displays of affection are rude. It's one thing to do it with only adults around,but a restaurant is a place familys go to.
Second,a calm "Mind your own business" would have been better for everyone,but still basically got your side out there.
Sorry your date was ruined.
2006-07-05 18:18:41 · answer #6 · answered by Debbie, Debbie S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very calmy and quietly, you could have said, "I'm sorry if you were offended. But it seems that you've forgotten your anatomy. This is my knee, not my crotch. Obviously it's been a while since you've seen one. But it makes one wonder why were you looking down there anyway? That's really rather poor manners. Now why don't you go back to your table and have a nice dinner, dear."
2006-07-06 15:18:01 · answer #7 · answered by Erich G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That kind of public affection is kinda gross to me regardless of whether it is done by gays or straights, but that just me. Having said that, the women's action is intolerable and grossly rude. Your outburst is perfectly understandable and I can't really blame you. You are a far better person for you kinda have guilt after that which show how rational and good person you are.
2006-07-05 23:46:35 · answer #8 · answered by NikeT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have done the same thing. But I generally sit on the opposite side of the table of my date.
2006-07-05 18:15:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well as a christian I'm not for same sex pairings, but what she did was inexcusable. She was very rude, it wasn't like you were french kissing and groping each other in front of there table. But when you left you should have stopped right in front of her table and kissed then winked at her and walked away.
2006-07-05 18:21:01 · answer #10 · answered by snapestress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry your date was ruined. i know exactly how that situation would have felt for me, and i wouldn't have been happy, either.
i think what you did was perfectly fine, although there were, of course, alternatives. i would have been bitterly sarcastic in my response, and then i'd have informed her that my date and i were going after dinner to a gay rights rally, followed by a gay club, and that we'd end the evening with oral and anal sex [and maybe a little whipping].
i would then have finished most of my dinner, giving her the plate of remaining food and half-subtly referencing her obesity before my date and i walked out.
2006-07-05 18:34:43 · answer #11 · answered by alguien 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋