I recently had to leave my husband of thirty five years. Moving one thousand miles away I could not, at that time, take my horses. A person I considered my best friend agreed to keep them until I could transfer them. The friend was well aware I was being threatened by my husband who suffered mental problems. After three months the friend sent me a bill for $750.00 knowing I had left with nothing but necessities. I had asked her to help sell the horses, a mare and colt...she said she couldn't, so I gave them to her to cover any expense she had. The pair were worth well over $1500.00...I found out she sold them to my husband ! This was a woman I had known and loved like a sister for over twenty years. I have never felt so deceived in my life. Had she been in my position I would have never done this to her. In case you need to know...we both owned good sized horse farms and she was well aware I would have paid her a generous amount as soon as possible. Would you be angry?
2006-07-05 10:42:43 · 13 answers · asked by ivy devine 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Considering she knew your situation with your husband and she was well aware of the expenses of taking the horses in, she should of had the ti*s to tell you it would be too expensive for her, in the first place! Selling them to your ex- husband was just the icing on the cake of deceit she made for you. I suggest cutting off ties with this woman. I am sorry to hear about all of this happening to you, people should learn to treat people better. Good luck creating a new life for yourself!
2006-07-05 11:26:48 · answer #1 · answered by hh4pres 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i'd be angry, but caring for horses is no little project nor is it cheap so in a way it was an awful lot to ask. its a bad situation all the way around, i'd look at it as though your friend got some money out of your husband and that would strike me as kind of funny. if you think he will mistreat or abuse them call the authorities and let them know.
2006-07-05 17:46:43 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, I would be a little confused. On the one hand, you gave her the horses as payment for upkeep. You say yourself that you would have paid.....meaning to me that you hadn't discussed the idea of payment.
She did what she had to do. She needed to let these horses go because she could not care for them anymore. So...it ends up being your husband that bought the horses.
It is kind of funny as someone said. I'm not sure if you both paid for them, or you paid for them. or what, but if he did at the time, and he paid for them again.......lol
2006-07-05 17:55:07 · answer #3 · answered by just me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you are WAY better off without that sort of character in your life. For someone to betray you like that is a definate deal breaker. You shouldn't have to ask this question. You are not wrong for "weeding your garden". Make yourself happy and leave them both behind even if it's hard. You'll get over it eventually and that much happier and that much wiser.
2006-07-05 17:48:04 · answer #4 · answered by noriahchapman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bloody hell, yeah! I would be furious, lady. I honestly don't know how you managed to keep your composure but I would be doing a lot to pay her back. What your ex friend did was so wrong that I can't find the words. No, I would never speak to either of them because 1) you thought you could trust her 2) she deliberately betrayed you.
2006-07-05 17:49:03 · answer #5 · answered by Man_With_No_Name 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In answer to your question of "would you be angery?" I say yes.
Recently I myself have had to part ways with a close friend because of a disagreement. Under the circumstanses I would have to say that you and her are even since she did what she did with the horses.
2006-07-05 17:50:39 · answer #6 · answered by Jeanie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think i would be beyond angry. Have u asked this person what their actions were based on? True friends r almost extinct anymore. Good luck with ur decision.
2006-07-05 17:47:22 · answer #7 · answered by Tanya P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be hurt, but smarter the next time. She was not a friend at all...sounds more like a friend of your husband's! Was she interested in him when you two were together??
2006-07-05 17:49:38 · answer #8 · answered by Reka 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck yes I would be mad.
That is not a friend.
You're better off not talking to her again.I wouldn't waste my time even explaining to her why I would just never talk to her ever again.
2006-07-05 17:47:32 · answer #9 · answered by Addie B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya obviously. but have patience god does wrong with those who does with others. she will soon have to pay for her sins
2006-07-05 17:47:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋