My husband lost his business and we lost a beautiful life that we had built together. He has not been able to get together his employment with out bs layoffs or being fired(unfairly). Now he is gone because I complained. I was worried and he seems to have excuses but no job. Is it possible that he is working out his problem but cou;dn't do it with the stress of me and the kids. We miss him and love him. Does he realize that he is hurting us with no contact with us for weeks now and not knowing where he is living or if and when he'll be home?????? What is the best thing for a woman who loves her man to do???
2006-07-05 10:41:18 · 8 answers · asked by allthewaylabs 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
He seems to have run from responsibilities. If I were you I would go to the police and find out what you have to do to track him down. They deal with this kind of stuff all the time and would have some idea of how to help you.
2006-07-05 10:46:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, I'm not a man, but with men, their jobs( and family) are their "identity". It's a pride issue. He is most likely deperessed about the whole situation and figures that if he is unable to provide for his family that they are better off without him. He may very well be trying to sort things out and "find himself", but you need to find him and talk to him. Has he been in contact with a friend or family member? Tell him how much you love him and miss him and that you can get through these tough times together. Appologize for being insensitive. Most likley you were stressed and trying to sort things out in your mind as well and said things that you should not have said. Best wishes.
For those who are assuming that this man ran his business into the ground and left his family, please remember that the job situation thes days is not very good and many businesses big and small are going under due to financial reasons. As much as they might try to cut back sometimes things just don't work out.
2006-07-05 17:52:12 · answer #2 · answered by margarita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a man but I can tell you- he is a dead beat. No one, who loves you, will ever leave you in such a way, especially if there were kids in between. If he was unable to keep a steady job and lost his business then most likely the reason why he is such a looser is because of who he is, it has nothing to do with you. You should not blame yourself for one second about him leaving you.
2006-07-05 17:45:01 · answer #3 · answered by fasb123r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man thats a tough one... .. All men need a break. and the time is all different. some only need a few mins a day .. other needs weeks. maybe months. Right now. hes mind is on how to make things better. Hopefully he left with intentions of how to make things better. and not to run away from them... Give it time. .. I'm sure if he if you love him. and .. if he is the man you think he was.. he will comeback... but dont give up on him.. dont yell at him... he doesnt need more pressure.. just need you and your kids to have faith and keep him steady .
2006-07-05 17:55:05 · answer #4 · answered by az m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing is to remember that marriage isn't something that you only stick with while it's all fun then run when it isn't.Something about the phrase better or for worse.
Supporting him and not driving him away would be a good start.
2006-07-05 17:46:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him that you where just concerned with it and that you love him and your kids love him and miss him. He is those kids father and needs to step up to the plate and take responsibility for you and the kids. Take a job a burger king until something better comes along money is money and a Little bit is better that none. need more help email me jkoehler82@yahoo.com
2006-07-05 17:46:23 · answer #6 · answered by BigDaddy82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember your wedding vows? For Richer or For Poorer?
If you have an email address, he probably does too, so write to him okay?
2006-07-05 17:46:13 · answer #7 · answered by Fun and Games 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing ...encourage him like first day
2006-07-05 17:58:52 · answer #8 · answered by foryou2002tr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋