My ex has been with this girl for maybe 3 years and i try to get along with her becuse me and my ex have a 5 year old together. Just about everyday we communicate about our son. When shes around , she gets attitude and i egnor her till i reach my boiling point. Im running out of ideas for my self. what do i do
2006-07-05 10:24:23 · 13 answers · asked by B*Nessa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She's probably threatened by you. You're the former lover, the one she probably feels she has to live up to. Show her that you're not someone to be threatened by. Show her that you love your son and you're doing your best to show it to him too. If you're threatened by this woman then remember that it is your son that needs love. He won't feel love if it is only directed at him and not the other adults. Children are very perceptive, especially when it comes to love.
2006-07-05 10:38:39 · answer #1 · answered by scottopherroy 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately it complicates things more when you you have a child with an ex but you cant change that....and have to comunicate with him .I would explain that ,if you havnt already ,and i would hold my head up and not give into her by getting so upset,its really not worth it and thats what she wants.I would tell her if she cant handle the fact you two have a child she needs to be with a man who has no children,since you will be around for your child and so will he ,it is a partnership and always will be when it comes to your child ,other than that there is nothing between you and him. shes with him not you so what is the problem?!!!!? I de ask her and put her on the spot.It doesnt sound like she is being very adult like and ide tell her ,be the strong woman and you will shine if you do and she will come out looking weak ,insecure and,jealous .good luck to you
2006-07-05 17:48:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex needs to have a serious talk with his girlfriend. The girlfriend has no right to have a say in anything that goes on between you and your ex or your son. She's just a girlfriend and even if she were his wife, she has no right to bud in on your husbands ex or his son. Obviously, she has issues with self-confidence, otherwise she wouldn't be doing these things.
Perhaps you and your ex can speak about your son alone at your home without his girlfriend's presence. I believe that would be the best resolution.
Good luck to you!!
2006-07-05 17:43:51 · answer #3 · answered by Healthnut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Limit your contact with her. Talk to your ex on the phone about your son. You don't want to be pushed to the point where you do something stupid. It seems that she maybe jealous of you and your ex's relationship. If your ex ask why you have limited your contact time, explain to him how you feel about his girlfriend's attitude and how it makes you feel uncomfortable. He may understand and be willing to help.
2006-07-05 17:31:17 · answer #4 · answered by carmelbrown2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be nice and kind to her regardless of how she is treating you. Most of the time you can change the atmosphere of the situation just by being nice and sweet. Maintain a great relationship with her and him for the sake of the child. Stay encouraged! It will get better!!!
2006-07-05 17:31:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a saying... kill them with kindness... You will be surprised.. even if you don't feel like it. Another... keep your friends close but your enemies closer. When she gets nasty.. just breathe.. and relax.. and do something nice for her.. keep the element of surprise happening.. You have to be nice.. don't stoop to her level. Hatred tastes bad in the mouth and keeps your stomach churning and keep you up nights. It's not worth it getting mad.
2006-07-05 17:28:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to deal with an enemy is to kill them with kindness. Remember, keep your friends close and your enemies closer. She is trying to upset you, don't let her do it, then she wins.
2006-07-05 17:31:10 · answer #7 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell your ex about your feeling you have about her and ask him not to bring her about when it comes to having your kid about with the 2 of you together or get him to lift you kid at your place so you do not have to face her. i wouldnt let her get you into a mood that most likely what she want to do
2006-07-05 17:41:15 · answer #8 · answered by BigB 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be rude to her or anything, just talk to her and tell her you don't apperciate her atitude. Pray for her, God will work miracles!
2006-07-05 17:32:37 · answer #9 · answered by Sexciness 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try 2 forgive her
2006-07-05 17:52:46 · answer #10 · answered by jason 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋