What if your husband always presures you into things, is cruel in ways, and has a horrid temper? And you have no family of your own anymore, so you turn to his brother for help... and you find yourself attracted to him, and always comparing to two of them... and your husband never comes out on top.....and you might have fallen alittle in love with your brother inlaw? I would never act on it. Not unless the husband went beyond what he does now, and cheats on me, but is it really wrong to have fantasies of the bro-in-law?
2006-07-05 10:23:22 · 5 answers · asked by my hearts desire 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
absolutely not! honey if you're having strong feelings for the brother in law, than how can you be in love with your husband? sounds to me, like you're only staying with the husband for security, financially, and because the brother-in-law hasn't shown you the same interest in return. you don't need the husband! no woman should ever stay with a man that she doesn't love! if you haven't committed a crime, than why the hell would you want to do the time?!?! leave his sorry ***, and get on with your life! if hubby doesn't like it, to hell with him! you deserve better than someone constantly making you feel bad. besides, life is too short to spend it with someone you don't love!
if you are truly, undeniably in love with your brother-in-law, than tell him. i know that easier said than done, but what do you have to loose? either way, leaving your husband, you're still walking away the winner! and with more self-respect than a LOT of women who chose to stay in relationships like yours. Just follow your heart...not your head!
2006-07-05 10:30:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have three problems.
1. If your husband pressures you, and is cruel to you, and has a bad temper, consider counseling or a divorce. This should have NOTHING to do with his brother.
2. If you need a friend, a relative is a good choice -- one of your own. That way, you won't find yourself attracted to a person who might be nice just because they're trying to comfort you. Assume that, by the way, the brother IS just being nice to help you, and has no interest in you whatsoever.
3. If you're attracted to your husband's brother, stay away from him until you get over it, or until you get divorced. You can see him at family gatherings, sure, but no talks alone with him, or on the phone, or email. Knock it off.
2006-07-05 17:46:10 · answer #2 · answered by daveowenville 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, please ck your town or neighboring town for a Women's Shelter or hot-line. Seek counseling from their staff, verbal abuse is just as bad as physical. Both leave scars. Do not act on your feelings with the brother in law. Your emotionally needy because of your husband. Let a professional help u sort things out. Go to the library and find books to help you understand the cycle your going through. You need to find ways to build your self esteem, and if you choose to not take the abuse have a plan. If you have children, you must protect them.
2006-07-05 17:36:41 · answer #3 · answered by Staci 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ıf he also feels for u u must get a dıvorce and talk to ur brother ı-law about ur feelıngs
2006-07-05 18:07:53 · answer #4 · answered by aydn55 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
didn't I see you on Jerry Springer last week... what part of West Virginia do you live in?
2006-07-05 17:31:28 · answer #5 · answered by ratman13 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋