I'm sooo shy, i even got dumped by 1 of my bf's cause i was to scared to talk to him and i met my 5th cousin in 4th grade and was so shy that i never talked to him until 6th grade. Now i like the pasters son and he's shy just like me how can i get over my shyness so i can talk to him cause he's to shy to talk to me?
2006-07-05 10:12:53 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
oh and he already knows i like him, but i can't find out if he likes me cause im to scared to talk to him
2006-07-05 10:32:03 · update #1
i'm 13 years old for those who want to know
2006-07-05 10:38:15 · update #2
hey we all have are vices but u know something ? if u really like him just walk up to him and say hi .....let your heart do the talking and you will find that u are not as shy as u thought
2006-07-05 10:18:22 · answer #1 · answered by robert c 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are. If you are old enough to get a job, consider working where you meet and deal with customers on a daily basis.
Try reading Norman Vincent Peale's book "The Power of Positive Thinking."
If available where you live, try taking a Dale Carnegie course.
Try talking to, reading to, groups of young children. They will not notice shyness but will pick up on kindness and sincerity.
Try doing a Yahoo! search under: Overcoming Shyness.
Think of any other place where you can communicate in public, without necessarily being confined to a one-on-one intimate conversation.
2006-07-05 17:24:48 · answer #2 · answered by regerugged 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shyness, is something you yourself create out of fear of pain, so you hurt yourself by not being all you can with people.
What you must do, is... (this happened to me) I got tackled one day, by a girl, at church, in the church yard. This girl tackled me Every Week. Then she, didn't let go for a good minute, then just let go and went along her way. Then 6 weeks into it, out of confustion, I asked her why, and she gave me a kiss. After an hour of me being confused, i asked her out, she was my second gf.
FYI: You don't know if he's too shy to talk to you, he just might not know you like him, and has no intention of talking to you. Or he might not like you, i was flattered and i'm shy, so maybe he'd have the same reaction
2006-07-05 17:27:44 · answer #3 · answered by dancarrasquillo@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
However much of a clichee this must sound, just ask yourself whenever you feel shy, "what's the worst that could happen? Does anything really important rest on me doing this?" You'll realise that of course it doesn't, so go grab some gusto.
Perhaps think of a time when something REALLY embarrising happened to you and compare it to what could happen as a result of whatever you're shying away from - how do they compare?
Just go and do it, whatever IT could be...
2006-07-05 17:18:02 · answer #4 · answered by martyn b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to find anyway possible to talk to him. Bump into him or something just to break the Ice. It gets better after the Ice is broke. Trust me I'm really shy too. But now I am married and have 3 kids
2006-07-05 17:17:10 · answer #5 · answered by tburke_25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.. there is no way other than just putting yourself out there. you don't have to jump around and say "look at me, look at me!" but you DO have to speak up. you've already seen the negative effects of being shy, so try and see the positives of opening up a bit. maybe make a list of what you can lose or gain by being/ not being shy. you'll see which way to go.
i was SUPER shy till i moved in grade school. then, i realized if i wanted to make friends, i'd have to actually speak up. it worked! i was kinda forced into it, but i don't regret it.
it takes practice, so might as well start now.
another option, if you can afford it, is go see a psychiatrist or something. maybe they can help you come out of your shell.
good luck!
2006-07-05 17:16:59 · answer #6 · answered by carolynnnna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath. Find a similar likeness you have between the two of you. Then just start up a conversation about the likeness. For instance, you both like sheep. You both do shows. Just start talking about it.
2006-07-05 18:14:03 · answer #7 · answered by sis71646 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep in mind that the most casual of relationships begin with a simple hello. If you don't talk to each other, you will NEVER have any kind of relationship. To build up your confidence, you have to realize that others are people just like you.They are NOT better than you, they are at best your equals.
2006-07-05 17:19:11 · answer #8 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just ak him and don't act kinky or weird or anything he will think you are sooo a freak or something. Ask him the worst he could do is say no.
And don't ask in front of a lot of people then the rumor could spread really quick.
Good luck!
2006-07-05 18:15:24 · answer #9 · answered by ♥♡ღ••Kelly••ღ♡♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok. about the paster's son. just go talk to him. force yourself. go talk about something you got in common, like american idol or something. if he's shy then whatever you do is not going to matter because he'll just be happy someone is talking to him.
2006-07-05 17:16:09 · answer #10 · answered by igotquestionz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋