My husband was in a near fatal car accident over a year ago. He hasnt been able to pay child support because he's been going thru extensive surgeries. His accident ended his career as a police officer. He has offered to offset his ex's costs for daycare, which are $700./mo, by keeping his 2 children while she works. His child support is less than daycare so this gives her more money than if he were paying child support. She refuses the offer, then tells his 5 yr old that her daddy doesnt love her because he doesnt pay the child support. She also refuses to let him see his kids on schedule. Even though she's done so much to interefere with his relationship with his girls, and by doing so is only hurting them, we dont act in revenge and let her see and talk to the kids freely when they are in our custody like for his summer visitation this year.
However she continues to be nasty even though we are kind. How long should we continue to work with her when she repays us with hate?
2006-07-05 09:41:50 · 9 answers · asked by lilmissy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks for all your help and suggestions. It helps to know you are not alone. We can't take her to court right now because it will cost a minimum of $1000. to file. She know this and uses it against him. I have 3 children of my own and can barely support us all. My husband worked as a reserve officer and doesnt have any disability benefits. She's mostly mad because I wont pay the child support. I support them when they are in my home which is hardly ever. She is very spiteful. He left her because she was having affairs with other women. She got pregnant to try and make him stay (that's how they were married in the first place), she trapped him with a pregnancy when he was trying to break it off because of other lies he caught her in. He married her to try and do the right thing and she's has controlled his every move since, even though she was the one cheating. She's mad because she lied and deceived and she lost anyway. Thanks again for all your help!!
2006-07-05 10:37:45 · update #1
You only have control over your actions and words. She over hers.
There is nothing you can do except continue to be yourselves and let the children draw their own conclusion as the years go on.
She can not legally keep the children from their father. He may have to take her to court.
2006-07-05 09:48:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, you're going to have to get ready to play hardball with her. Don't give her an inch, she'll take a mile. Never talk bad about her in front of the kids.....that way they'll make their own impression of her as they grow up. I know it's rough, but if she's not following the divorce decree, then get a lawyer..to bring her to court....then maybe the child support can be brought down also. I wish you the best of luck.
2006-07-05 16:48:38 · answer #2 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a witch.. using an innocent child against her father... Only time will tell with this woman. this woman has issues with you.. not her ex-husband.. all I see here is jealosy and spite. Stay away from her as much as possible. Take her to court... and revise the custody standings.. your husband has to do something on record... to avoid problems later. You do it because I think this woman will take you to court for lack of child support. Do it for sake of future problems.. protect yourselves.. have something on record. I am sorry for your problems.. you don't need any more problems.
2006-07-05 16:56:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Excuse me, but he is responsible to pay for child support, unemployed or not. Because of his disability, he is suppose to pay minimum, or 50 dollars per week, per child. This is not irrational nor impossible to do.
Many unemployed or disable non-custodial parents pay at least the minimum, why should your husband be different? I've seen many cases where they pay Child support payments out of their dissability checks.
This is HIS responsability, and you are just plain being cheap.
2006-07-05 17:07:51 · answer #4 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all if he offers help and she refuses you need to contact the place where he pays his child support and tell them he has offered and what he offered and that she refuses his help. keep everything documented conversations with her son and between you all. i went through this situation and when it came down to it we got custody of my stepdaughter and we record everytrhing just in case she tries again. but you really need to contact them people and if you don't have one you probably need to get a lawyer and take her where she don't want to go
2006-07-05 16:52:54 · answer #5 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-07-05 16:46:56 · answer #6 · answered by hazeleyedguy_tx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to court and have the decree modified and also have them make his visits mandatory. good luck , god bless, and quick recovery to your husband.
2006-07-05 16:46:45 · answer #7 · answered by starla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were you, i'd be done NOW! i wouldnt be a puppet on a string for her anymore. take it to court and settle it there.
2006-07-05 16:49:36 · answer #8 · answered by chevy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How terrible!
2006-07-05 16:57:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋