My best (guy) friend dates a girl who is a little "thick" but used to be sort of overweight. She is a really sweet girl and treats him great and I have no problems with her. She doesn't really like him to hanf out with me because she feels threatened (I have no feelings for my friend what so ever). When I am around she gets very upset when he refers to any single person (even if it's not her) as "fat". She says it makes her feel bad that he is calling people fat in front of her when I am there. To top it off, all of her friends are overweight and seem to absolutely hate me. What's the deal?
2006-07-05 09:34:29 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
'hanf' should be 'hang' ^
2006-07-05 09:37:38 · update #1
Some women are catty and jealous regardless of size. What they don't realize is those little insecurities are the types of things that push men away.
She is getting upset because he is passing judgement of someone who is overweight...but how different is it from her passing judgement (jealousy and threatened) over you not being overweight?
2006-07-05 10:01:47 · answer #1 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
So many images of thin movie and popstars make anyone who is slighty chubby or overweight feel very insecure. I'm only talking of myself, as when l was about 2 stone heavier l hated my ex-boyfriend talking to a thin pretty girl. Also, if your boyfriend is calling other people fat in front of her and they are the same size, it's going to make her feel awful, he shouldn't really say those sort of things anyway, whether thin or fat. Are you sure they do not like you for any other reason?. I have lost those 2 stone and don't feel even feel half of the insecurity that l used to. I'm sure they don't hate you, some girls and guys don't undertsand how you can be very good friends with the opposite sex. You should ask his girlfriend and her friends what the problem is.
2006-07-05 09:42:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm skinny and I always feel that I get dirty looks/feelings.
I have not done anything to lose weight. I am what I am. I might be bigger someday...like the rest of my family. Don't know, don't care as long as it doesn't affect my health negatively.
I was in the hospital after the birth of my 1st child. I gave birth and looked almost completely normal the morning after. I thought it was hilarious. So did my husband. So we went to weigh myself down the hall - out of curiousity- and I was within 2 pounds of my pre-baby weight. We were laughing - just because I had nothing to do with it and we kind of find it odd. Another new mother looked at me and I thought I was going to die. I wasn't doing it to rub it in or make anyone feel bad. They probably thought I had body image issues and was trying to lose the weight already.
About 10 years ago, I was so tired of the comments that I wore jeans and sweatshirts ALL the time...even in the hot Texas summers.
2006-07-05 09:55:01 · answer #3 · answered by iam1funnychick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your friends gf's issue with you isnt that you may be thinner than her, but i think no matter what you looked like she may be intimidated by him having a close friendship with another female. As far as her friends, maybe they don't like you because of maybe what she has said about you to them, it may have nothing at all to do with them being overweight. Then again maybe they are just insecure and figure that other people judge them so they must judge your first, but definitely consider that it may not even be the weight issue at all.
2006-07-05 10:14:26 · answer #4 · answered by Belladonna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its unfair to believe that all overweight women hate thin women. Just think, there are many mothers, grandmothers, aunts, sisters, cousins, and best friends; who fit on either side of the line. I don't think these people secretly or openly hate each other based upon their physical stature. That in itself would be foolish!
2006-07-05 09:58:23 · answer #5 · answered by Swordfish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your friends gf and tell her you have no interest what so ever in your friend. Its not your fault her friends hate you. Don't worry about it. If you talk to your friend's gf and she comes around so will they. If they don't, all well. You tried. Everyone has a few enemies right? lol good luck!
2006-07-05 09:39:06 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ Sin Boldly ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so. I've been underweight all my life and I always "get the feeling" that the overweight people I encounter are envious of me. Yeah, envious is a good word.
2006-07-05 09:38:51 · answer #7 · answered by S 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
dont be bothered by such insecure people. she is jealousy of you, and she wish she were you. i had the same problem my sister in law is extremely fat and im slim, she hated me and would always say negative things when im around, or use unnecessary sarcasm on me. one day her husband told her infront of everyone that she is jealousy of me, and my husband too support that point. now we dont talk, and im happy about it.
2006-07-05 09:39:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most do.But they do cause thin women usualy put them donw or are always worried about weight.Some skinny girls get on my nerves and I'm a medium size.Those people don't bring me down.Big is beautiful.
2006-07-05 09:38:12 · answer #9 · answered by Summer C 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just be happy with who you are and what they think is not your concern. The more confident and strong you present yourself the more intimidated they will be. It's not your problem.
2006-07-05 09:39:04 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋