My new husband has this woman whom he has known for 16 years. He had been intimate with her in the past, but after workinh on a relationship it never worked out. The problem I have is that she's continues to call for stupid reasons just to talk to him and he gets offensive when I express to him that I do not want her calling. It's not that I dont trust him. I just dont trust her. What to do? How to feel? Should I worry.. or just let it go? I've thought about calling her and seeing exactly what her motive is, but have been told that if I do that then she's accomplishing whats shes after and thats getting under my skin and causing me to be jealous. ANY ADVICE??
2006-07-05 09:29:15 · 13 answers · asked by Dawn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I can relate with what you say, this is a delicate situation. I think that this could be really just a good friendship, but I think too that your husband should understand how you feel, and put himself on your shoes, what he would feel if is was the other way around?. My husband's ex , was communicating with him for two years, they have a son together, so I I was agree when they have to talk about their son, but she start making this communication inappropriate (flirting, calling for no reason, remember him intimates moments), even when she has another man in her life. I confront my husband, and after a lot of turbulence (almost the divorce) We sort the situation, but I have to confront her too. And make my husband understand that he has to make others women know that he is happy with his wife. Good luck!
2006-07-05 09:50:38 · answer #1 · answered by None 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-07 19:09:16 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on now, pull up those huge female panties and get over the previous. he's moved on, along with your best pal none the a lot less. You bypass, you've a strong time and who knows who you would meet? each and every wedding ceremony is a hazard to discover the authentic Mr. accurate......which this guy isn't! Be strong, you may attempt this! ok, shall we edit, SHE moved on along with your best pal, get over it. i wager you would discover Ms. accurate on the marriage, not Mr. accurate. Gender doesn't count, the advice is an same, get on along with your existence, she has! Who cares if it become 5 months or 5 years, relationships end prevalent. you'd be one unhappy, lonely individual in case you spend something else of your existence longing for the only which were given away. bypass capture a sparkling one, perhaps it will be accurate this time! You deserve more advantageous than you're giving your self!!!
2016-10-14 03:55:21 · answer #3 · answered by garfield 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suspect that there is something bigger in play here. A MAN does not need to go outside his primary relationship for female friendship, communication, sex or anything else. Your conversation with him should probably be a little more intense and regard his satisfaction in the marriage. Telling him not to speak with her won't accomplish anything except maybe make you a nag. You need to ask him what he wants from your relationship. Don't accept short answers. Get to the truth in a very safe accepting environment and then work to make his wishes reality. Marriage is a long twisted path someone has to make it happen. Once he is completely satisfied, and feels like you are there for him 100%, he will have no need for her and will not take her calls because he will not want to hurt you. Good Luck!
2006-07-05 09:48:40 · answer #4 · answered by G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you say you trust him but do you really? She may be doing it cause she knows it gets under your skin. Don't let her know it bothers you cause they will make it worse. It takes 2 and if you trust him and not her then you have nothing to worry about. I would probably be upset too but I would deal with in my own way not letting them know it bothers me cause then they could talk just for spite.Call her (tell her husband you are going to no matter what he says) and ask her what her motive is. Let her know he is your husband and you aren't going to let her come in between you two.
2006-07-05 09:44:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calling her is probably not a good idea.
Put him in your shoes, and ask what he would think. You should express that it not that you do not trust him, but you're uncomfortable with the fact that they communicate so frequently.
Let him know that you understand that there is history there and wouldn't mind the occational communcation now and then, however at the currrent rate, things just aren't comfortable for you.
2006-07-05 09:40:10 · answer #6 · answered by -J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may as well ask him to stop talking to her and meaning it or just except what they are doing. (Making a fool out of you thinking that you can trust either of them). Yes she's trying to break you two up and if he's falling for the calls, then he's already aware of her actions. Ask him who does he want and do what makes you happy. Except or be quiet and deal with it. My ex is with her behind the same scenario. He was given the benefit of doubt and she took over.
2006-07-05 09:43:24 · answer #7 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's fine to have that kind of relationship but your husband better get things straight in his head that you are the wife AND lover. No one else. What happened in the past is the past. You can't change that. But he can control today and plan tomorrow. You need to express that to him.
2006-07-05 09:34:41 · answer #8 · answered by ntoriano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to follow your own instincts. If you want to confront her then go ahead, if your husband cant respect how you feel and put you first then their is a problem.
2006-07-05 09:40:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you should worry as long as their talks are out in the open. it's when people try to cover them up or keep them secret you need to worry.
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2006-07-05 09:44:19 · answer #10 · answered by barn cat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋