How many men began life as totally straight and, somewhere in the 20s or 30s or 40s found themselves, fairly suddenly, curious about bisexuality?
It happened to me. But there's almost no studies on this subject.
Why?
2006-07-05 08:45:59 · 14 answers · asked by Alexander Shannon 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
There are no studies on this subject because Bisexual men are still seen as taboo/wrong/sinners (blah blah blah).
Ignorant people's never ending fear of homosexuals have led to this outcome.
Bisexual men (just like disabled men) are very much marginalized. This is why there are almost no studies on the subejct.
Bisexual men, as a community, are still very much invisible.
Any information that you are trying to find pertaining to yourself will be difficult because of this reason.
The information will not be made readily available. You will have to hunt for it and look for it. It's sad but this is the way it is. Bisexual men hold more of a stigma than gay men, if you can believe that.
I'd suggest surfing the net but if that's a dead end, then try contacting your town or city's gay community and see if they have any support groups for bi males or events to find like minded people such as yourself. If they do and you don't wish to "out" yourself yet, contact them by phone and see if they have an online group you can discuss things with. Because believe it or not, you might get more information that way then anywhere else.
Or if you are from a big enough city, try looking at your city's gay and lesbian section of the library or bookstores. You might be "lucky" and find a book on bisexual men that you can leaf through.
I hope this helps and is useful.
Good luck!
:)
2006-07-05 09:13:50 · answer #1 · answered by Victoria R 3 · 12⤊ 3⤋
You have to be lieing to yourself because at some point when you were younger you found yourself admiring a certain male. Anyway no one is clearly straight or gay. Most are somewhere in between. On that note I suggest you explore all of your sexuality I guess.
I find that females are just more open to it. We never really suppress our feelings to the xtent men do. Women can get away with holding their best friends hands or sleeping in the same bed. If guys did that it would be seriously looked down upon.
2006-07-05 08:48:31 · answer #2 · answered by Toodles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not uncommon for a man that considers himself 101% heterosexual to see things differently later on in life. As you grow you begin to care less about what society may think of you and any choice of gender relationship. With the budding acceptance of homo- and bisexuality you may have always had such feelings but never suspected or acted upon them because, before, it was not as openly spoken of and accepted as it is becoming now.
I don't see why all the worry. Just go and try it out! (Some men like bears.)
2006-07-05 08:51:25 · answer #3 · answered by Belie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing to explore is how you feel about your new feelings? They could be coming from anywhere in your life, as you are growing and changing as an individual. If you are married or in a long term relationship, talk with your partner before you make any moves that might be considered cheating. Beyond that, follow your heart, you might find a whole new world opening up for you!
2006-07-05 08:53:16 · answer #4 · answered by wellbeing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sexual choice... is on a scale...
I feel that everyone is bisexual... It's a sliding scale... if you like females more... then you are a heterosexual... if you like men more... you are homosexual...
Of course the scale is then divided into meterosexuals... straight-gay, Gay-straight...
They have studied that children in single sex schools will be more likely to have their first sexual experience with a person of their own gender. However, most of them turn out to be straight in the end.
2006-07-05 08:48:25 · answer #5 · answered by FY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately I can not answer this question for you---but I did want to tell you good luck. And I'm certain you'll get a lot of really stupid and ignorant responses to your question, which is too bad. I hope you do get some intelligent and thoughtful responses.
Good luck.
2006-07-05 08:48:46 · answer #6 · answered by Ralley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People have their likes and dislikes, but they never know what they are till they've experienced or seen them. It's possible that this new wave of a different lifestyle has just appeared and intrigued. Just because it didn't happen sooner doesn't mean anything...it's just saying you finally discovered it.
2006-07-05 08:50:29 · answer #7 · answered by Lindsay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's interesting. It might not be a common phenominon or maybe you just aren't looking in the right place.
Try some of the gay/bi forums and see what people say.
2006-07-05 08:47:08 · answer #8 · answered by Corn_Flake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's funny how only judgemental women replied to this.
Sounds like a perfectly harmless thing for you to explore. Just go with it.
2006-07-05 08:50:18 · answer #9 · answered by asu_mikey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because its called a mid-life crisis
2006-07-05 08:48:12 · answer #10 · answered by ₦âħí»€G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋