many people don't understand when someone is in a relationship with someone who is special and needs extra attention and demands a certain level of control to be happy. Such people are not easy to get along with, but for someone with alot of love and patience, they can be happy. Does anyone else understand?
2006-07-05 08:33:12 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I actually am not talking about myself, but my signifigant other.
2006-07-05 08:52:04 · update #1
Believe it or not i am a caring person, and I'm sure you won't rate this as the best answer based on my previous statement to you. I know many people that are in controlling relationships. Both and or either of them. They are all wonderful people. Loving and caring individuals that seem to have a difficult time having their loved ones accept them for who they are and the way they are. Most of these "Friends" are the most honest people I know they admit their faults but it is difficult for the,m to make the changes of being controlling.
I truly believe we could all use someone to have concern and love for each other.
2006-07-06 17:09:35 · answer #1 · answered by burrgump 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you don't understand is that it is wrong to be so controlling. I have dated guys who were like this, and if you are telling your man not to talk to girl friends, not to go to parties, not to do this and that with his friends, then you need to work on yourself first. Controlling people need resolve their own issues first - before entering a relationship. Controlling people are often insecure and jealous. Don't take that out on someone else. Often times, they are controlling because they know what they'd do in a given situation - cheat! So they think the other person will do that to, and they want to keep them from even having the chance to make a decision about whether or not to say no to temptation. You just can't do that though - you have to let the cards fall as they may and accept the consequences. And if you worry because you wouldn't be able to say no to temptation, then you need to be single for a long time, so that those situations no longer become tempting, because you've already been there, done that.
2006-07-05 08:40:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
supply your self a ruin! so which you're actually not back on your feet back - who may be in spite of everything of what you have long undergone? supply your self a while to recuperate and placed your self back mutually back. And counseling, in case you go with it. then you certainly can progressively reintroduce your self to a fairly time-honored concern back. yet for now, heavily...do not difficulty approximately looking a clean husband or getting out of your mom and father' residing house. Be grateful that he's out of your existence. Be grateful that your toddler is miraculously healthful, and that your mom and father are being supportive. possibly you ought to take a restraining order out on your ex? He sounds probably very risky. additionally, you're actually not broken products. genuinely everyone has a narrative - blunders they have made, regrets they have. you're no better or worse than every physique else, so don't get a complicated approximately it. If every physique desires to choose you for any of this, that's their difficulty, not yours, and additionally you does not even desire a man or woman like that for the time of your existence, besides. concentration on how your toddlers strengthen your existence and the kind you're secure now.
2016-12-08 16:01:05 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand what you mean. I am special in my own way and believe that when the right one comes along my special needs will be met without it being a problem.
2006-07-05 08:41:12 · answer #4 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like to be in control, but there are always going to be times when you should ( for the sake of the relationship) let him have his moments. He is a man and he does deserve respect. Give him the benefit of the doubt sometimes. lol...it is hard but my boyfriend is very loving and yes we do argue but you have to learn that you are not always right even if you hate to admit it..lol
2006-07-05 08:40:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my only question is how does a controling person show that they need love. Its difficult to love someone that doesnt show that they need love. Love means your willing to give up something of yourself for the sake of the other person or the realtionship.
2006-07-05 08:51:21 · answer #6 · answered by J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
totally, I am trying to figure out if I am controlling or just B*tchy!! :) But I don't like it when I don't get my way, but I also don't ask alot of other people either. So i dunno...good luck with that!
2006-07-05 08:37:38 · answer #7 · answered by cutipi_1977 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋