2006-07-05 08:27:42 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
i will be getting married soon and my fiance is a sweet heart and we have talked about it. but i am still nervous. is there anything you can do to reduce the pain
2006-07-05 08:33:23 · update #1
First of all, ignore all the rubbish posted by teenage boys or possibly (sadly) grown men out to scare you. Everyone experiences losing their virginity differently. Maybe the people you have spoken to about it had bad experiences, but really, if you take your time and are relaxed and comfortable, it will be a very special moment you will share with your husband, something to look forward to, not fear. The main thing is to be relaxed and aroused. Talk to your fiance about your worries now, so he knows to be gentle at first, that it's important he's considerate, and takes his time. He may be worried about being 'a man' and a so be a bit over-eager. Remember you're an active partner in this, not just a passive recipient (I hope).
You might feel a bit uncomfortable at first - if it's strange and new - but if there is any pain, and honestly, it's not a definite there will be - relax, it will be very fleeting, enjoy the closeness with your new husband and let things happen. You may bleed a little but after the first time, but again, this is normal, and nothing to worry about. Remember, people have sex every day just for fun, because it feels good and we enjoy it - and we were virgins once too. I really hope that your wedding and wedding night are perfect and you have fantastic time - I wish you a long and happy marriage sweetie. X
2006-07-05 08:46:43 · answer #1 · answered by butterfly_grrl 2 · 6⤊ 3⤋
Wow!!! A virgin bride!!
That is pretty commendable girl!!
Congratulations on finding an understanding guy who is willing to talk about this kind of thing...
He must be so proud of you...
Just remember, sharing your body with someone is the greatest gift you can give & when its done with love its even better.
I didn't hurt at all & no I didn't wait for marrigae either but sex is a scream, it never happens like the movies & you'll het a cramp in your leg or whatever but trust me, it really is the very best way in the world to understand your partner & yourself on a level you never imagined.
Just relax and if something hurts then stop & take it slower.
You have soooooo much fun coming to you!!!
Well done you & have a long & happy marriage.
I wish you both all the best.
2006-07-06 01:55:14 · answer #2 · answered by Evil Snow White 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it does im afraid. but try not to let it bother you. if your in the moment you might not even feel it. some people say if feels like menstrual cramps and if its your first you probably be very dry down there which will be very painful. i know from experience. The best thing to do is only have sex with someone you really care about and trust (if you want to stop he will stop!) and relax thats the most important thing. You must be very relaxed and wet so he can enter you. He must wear a condom!! if he isnt a virgin he might have STD's that you dont know about. dont rush into it with people you barely know. Im serious. youll only lose your virginity once and you might regret it later on. so think about it and make sure you really want to do it first! hope this helps! x
2006-07-05 08:32:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be. It's all according to how careful the man is. I also heard that it hurts men some, too. Just be careful, and hey, if you aren't married, don't have sex. You will regret it unless you marry this man. And think of how wonderful it will be for your future husband for you to be a virgin. I hope your future husband is also a virgin. The bond would be so strong between the two of you. Good Luck!!
2006-07-05 08:32:19 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
was not painful at all for me but it varies from person to person. Just make sure you're relaxed otherwise if your nervous the muscles tighten up and then its uncomfortable. You fiance seems like a good guy if he's waited for you. But make sure he goes really slowly
2006-07-05 08:58:35 · answer #5 · answered by Lauren W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a pain you can tolerate
Take it slowly set the mood talk about your fear and expectations before hand as communication will make the flow easier.
Take a bath together light candles read erotic poems or something to lighten up the mood. Don't rush it. And if it doesn't work the 1st time relax and don't worry.
think of yourselves as lumps of clay you need to be kept moist and caressed to mold onto shape and to mold that shape you need a good gentle rhythm. Hope i helped! SARAH
2006-07-05 08:42:45 · answer #6 · answered by Sarita 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wont be painful as long as u r ready, i mean get in the mood so ur wet and tell ur boyfriend to take it slow and gentle just relax and enjoy it
2006-07-05 08:52:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. It is the worst pain in the world, it's excruciating!!!!
No, it doesn't hurt. Well it didn't for me. No more than you would expect. Your first time is usually so rushed that it doesn't last that long anyway. It's your feelings and expectations that get hurt the most.
2006-07-05 08:33:42 · answer #8 · answered by carolyn s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends - but for the first time, it's sort of uncomfortable. The more nervous you are, the more painful it can be.
2006-07-05 08:30:20 · answer #9 · answered by SimplyMe68 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it does hurt, though it depends on the person, but the best thing you can do is make sure you're aroused and relaxed, plenty of foreplay, and make sure your partner goes very slow and gentle. when i lost mine i had a glass of red wine, which i would reccomend if you're nervous - not to get drunk or anything, but to relax yourself if your very nervous. dont expect it to be perfect - thatll come in time.
2006-07-06 02:04:43 · answer #10 · answered by jungle bunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋