i wnat to have sex with my husband?

Question

my husband and i have been married for almost two months. We have been living together for almost two years. i love him to death, he does so much for me and i know he wants to keep our relationship together, i do to, but its hard to give him sex, what am i doning wrong. how come i cant get in the mood. We hav a 10 mont old. we work together and at work i look at him and i want him so bad and when we get home its 2 in the morning by the time we get to bed. I want to have sex with my husband more 2 times a month

Answer 1

XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX I hear sex in the office is wonderful and exciting. Especially if it's with your husband. Surprise him. He'll love that. Good luck hun. XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

Answer 2

You have the" just had a baby no time for sex blues." If the day time is when your feeling the most amorous then you should try to schedule a little afternoon delight. Tell the Boss you have to take a few hours off one day to go to a Dr's Appointment together. Or if you have an understanding Boss explain that you need to take off for awhile to go have some sex. Whatever works, just find a way to be together during that time of day when you are most relaxed. I'm guessing that it's sometime between 10am and 3pm when you've started to relax from being at home and your not yet worried about all you have to do when you get back. I've been where you are right now and it's a tough time to get through. I hope you have better luck than my-ex and I did.

Answer 3

The answer hidden in your question is:

"how come i cant get in the mood. We hav a 10 mont old. "

I sometimes quip that men need to have sex to relax, while women need to relax to have sex. It's clear that your fatigue is pushing down your sex drive, which adds to your stress, which adds to your fatigue, which... you get the picture.

You two need to take a short break from work, and if possible get somebody trustworthy to watch the baby for a while. (It can be VERY hard to relax if you're worried that the teenager who's watching your baby might be spending more time texting her friends than keeping your little one from climbing out the window.)

Go on a date together, even if it's just a picnic on the floor. Make sure the little one is cared for, unplug the phone, break out a bottle of wine and spread a tablecloth in the livingroom, and start making out.

The key here is to start early enough and allow enough time that you don't feel rushed. (Sometimes it's fun to be rushed, but it sounds like you two need a couple hours or more.) Take your time with each other, be close, and have FUN together.

Answer 4

God bless you. You guys sound like you are spending a lot of time together and you are parenting a young child. This is not always conducive to good sex.

Perhaps you need to set aside a few hours a couple of times a week that are just for the two of you. No work, no child (get a sitter). Have a little dinner, watch a DVD, go to a concert....and schedule some quality bed time following.

Answer 5

Be more aggresive or kinky. Even though you guys work your butts off, you can still take a minimum of 20 minutes out of your busy life for sex. If you work together and you want him real bad during that time, have a "nooner" somewhere. That means take a lunch break at the same time and go do it. If you show any OBVIOUS signs that you want it or want to give it for him, he'll be way interested. Don't be shy either. You're married. Its like a legal license to be a freak. Grab his crotch, be a nasty freaky wife. Unless your husband is just nuts, he'll think he's died and gone to heaven.

Answer 6

Well mam first of all the most important take a not so long but a break from your and your husbands work......if u succed in doing it,well then make that break the best vaccation in your life.....how????Well first of all develop a strong communication channel between you and your husband,talk and talk a lot about your lives and how is it going now and tell him also what do you want from him and all that....give him the pleasures which men want from a women means pleasures of sex which a whore gives..make him feel good by that and make your vaccation happy and successful.....and after that you both will understand what relationships are meant to be.......and give him his desire on bed.....rest leve it with god and time....good luck

Answer 7

I feel 4 U, it must be hard, first, I think he needs 2 hear that U keep on looking at him when UR working and that U want him bad,
when U get home, try to take a nice shower and wear something sexy... and just jump on top of him in the bed, if U turn him on, he'll turn U on too.. there is no way U could stay horny and go to sleep...
;)

Answer 8

sounds like you guys are together too much......home and work.

The stresses of home life sometimes get in the way of our romantic life. If you have to.......make an appointment. A promise to yourself that YOU will be intimate with your husband. You may not be in the mood at first, but how can you help it after a little bit of his loving touches?

Answer 9

It is hard some times to jungle all our have to do's. And still make time for our want to do's. Especially when you have children and work odd hours. Try getting a baby sitter on your day off. Set the mood, Make a nice dinner with candles, wine. And then maybe take a bubble bath together. And let nature take it's course

Answer 10

Both of you have really got to make time for that. It is understandable that with a child and work and EVERYTHING else that is going on in your life, you are going to be dead by the end of the day. When you are so completely exhausted, sex is the last thing on your mind. Although we generally won't admit it, we men are the same way. However, you and I know that sex is an integral part of your marriage. If you have to schedule it in on a lunch break, then DO IT! If you have to cancel something else on your schedule, then DO IT! The anticipation of the appointment should get both of you revved up and ready to go. Sex isn't everything in the relationship, but when your partner knows that you care about making time for it, they know you care about making time for them, and you care about their satisfaction and well being!

Answer 11

Sounds like you both have the desire, just not the right opportunity. See if you can plan a 'date night' together at least once a week so you can keep your relationship strong. If it's starting to get bad after being married for only two months, it's going to get much worse if you don't address it now.