I haven't seen this man in 15 years but he talks to our Daughter and calls me filthy names mostly C#@T. I did nothing to him except divorce him. I was never unfaithful or anything.He is hurting our daughter by talking so filthy about me.She is now 24 but he has been doing this for 15 years. Why?
2006-07-05 08:16:20 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Melody is right I should of mentioned that she told him off. I wanted to know how should i react to him not how she should react to him, The best answer I heard yet is to not react at all. Because I, we, are feeding his ego but if he in't getting any feedback from his actions.Then he will eventually go away and find someone else to play with. Love You too Melody!!
2006-07-15 06:35:38 · update #1
Because he has a Mental problem and it isn't hard to figure out why you got divorced:)
2006-07-15 05:35:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's being doing it for 15 years because #1 - he's an immature and emotionally unhealthy person, and #2 - he's gotten away with it.
Your daughter is 24 now...it's an awful position he has put her in...but it's time for her to stand on her own two feet and tell him that he can either stop, or she can cease communicating with him.
She may not be strong enough yet to do that, but when all is said and done, she'll remember which of her parents was there for her, and which of her parent's was small, petty and mean.
2006-07-05 08:29:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have a talk with your daughter. She is old enough to understand your feeling. Your husband is still angry about the divorse otherwise you wouldn't be such a sore subject after all these years. I am aslo sure that youe daughter knows you and she is old enough to have her own opinion about you without his interference. She, not you should tell her father that she will not visit him anymore or talk to him on the subject of her mom unless he has something nice to say. Otherwise keep him trap shut. Good luck hun.
2006-07-05 08:28:03 · answer #3 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't much you can do but there IS something your daughter can do. She can tell her father point blank that she will not tolerate him calling you filthy names. If he still does it, she should end the conversation or visit immediately to make her point. He is putting her in the middle and hurting her by doing this and he is obviously so selfish that he doesn't care. She is the only one who can make him stop.
2006-07-05 08:28:42 · answer #4 · answered by CleverGal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Becuae he is a jerk and you let him get away with it. Now your daughter is conditioned to accept his abuse and that's what is is. She needs to tell him that she will no longer accept his speaking about you in this disrepectful manner. Everytime he does she should hang up on him or if they are together walk away. Advise her to put in a three strike rule. If he calls you that word 3 times she cuts off contact with him until he promises to behave. As she is 24 only she can do this.
2006-07-05 08:26:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am your daughter and i have not spoken to my "father" in over a year except to yell him he is an a** hole and that i never want to talk to him again until he is about to die so he can tell me he is sorry for all the bull s**t he put me you and the rest of the family through. you know i have said all this and you shoulda blogged it also, because these people are thinking that i put up with this. he contacted you not me. and i stopped talking to him. (not mad at cha mom, just make sure you add the details before you blog something, love you)
2006-07-09 14:33:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
quite frankly I don't know why your daughter tolerates his behavior. She really needs to speak up and say "listen if you can't speak nice about mom than do me a favor and don't speak about her at all enough is enough" She is 24 now and should have a mind of her own to set him straight. Do you speak to her about this? If he's calling your house I would put a stop to it. Let him call her cell phone if he wants to talk to her.
2006-07-05 08:22:30 · answer #7 · answered by mackey208 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter needs to tell him she will not talk to him anymore when he pulls that crap. Then she should walk away or hang up when he does.
Talking to him will not do anything. If he is screwed up enough to use that language with his DAUGHTER and has been doing it for YEARS, then nothing will or can change, except you and your daughter's reactions to him.
2006-07-05 08:34:07 · answer #8 · answered by barrwiese 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go have your current husband kick his a$$ and if he talks dirt about you again, he'll come back and beat his a$$ with 2 more friends. Try to do this in a dark alley. Then the ex can't prove it was him.
2006-07-05 08:24:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he's a jerk that can't get over it.
If it really bothers your daughter, she is in no way required to spend time with him anymore.
I hope your daughter understands that dad is just a pr*ck.
2006-07-05 08:20:32 · answer #10 · answered by Jessie P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋