They just got married last weekend. Morally I feel it is SOOOO wrong to do what she did and I have no more respect for her. I tried to tell her that I thought it best that I back away because I was not comfortable with being her friend anymore. If you thought something was so morally wrong you wanted to vomit, wouldn't YOU back off from the friendship?
2006-07-05 08:05:43 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i think u did the right thing. she was so out of line doing that and i agree that its morally wrong.
2006-07-05 08:10:58 · answer #1 · answered by jewishprayer4u 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A persons actions says a lot about that person, and it just shows their true character. Just look a little deeper about your feelings towards what she did. Are you mostly upset about the situation, or the fact that what she did shows who she really is, and you wouldn't want to associate with a person like that. Sometimes, that's just how love works (divorices and all), and people can't help not falling into true love, but if you're still feeling bitter towards her for falling in love and acting on it no matter the crossed boundaries and obstacles, then it's not the about the situation, but the person she really is that you see her for now, and that's the right reason to distance yourself from a person you don't agree with. Just make sure it's for the right reason, and not just because of one situation...if she's not the person you thought she was, and you're just beginning to see it now, then she was always a stranger and never a friend anyways.
2006-07-05 15:17:50 · answer #2 · answered by ac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all this guy never should of gotten married if he's going to cheat.On the other hand your so called freind has no respect or morals to go after a married man.I admire you for not wanting to be her freind .This just shows what a low life person she is.If she did this to another woman what would stop her from doing it to you.Ther are plenty of single men out there ,so there is no reason she should go after a married man,but he sounds like a looser ,if it hadnt of been her he would of found someone else to cheat with.You can find better freinds th
an her with morals.
2006-07-05 15:20:29 · answer #3 · answered by Yulonda Yates 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is good that you were able to tell her how you felt. She has done something that has greatly disappointed you, especially if you felt she was a great friend. I am sure now you don't feel the trust you once did, as good morals are qualities you admire, respect and live by. You have made the right decision for you and what you believe in.
2006-07-05 15:16:27 · answer #4 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was she drinking? People tend to do things they normally wouldn't do when buzzed. I have a friend and it's possible he could do something I don't think is right but I love him unconditionally. I would TELL him my opinion but I wouldn't just have the friendship go away. She can't take what she did back. It was a mistake. She didn't hurt you personally, right? Since she didn't hurt you, you aren't going to get an apology from her. If everyone turned their back on people because of a mistake they made, none of us would have friends.
2006-07-05 15:11:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You damn right!! Your friend is a triffelin' little *****.Any woman
who has to ruin someone elses life just because the little
ho wants what she can't have is not worth being friends with.
I have friend who was trying to split this guy and his wife up.
After they temporarily separated my cousin went to the guys house and stole all the girls clothes I mean like $1000 worth.
And then sported them all over the place talkin about "Look what
I got."I wanted to vomit because not only is some poor girl heart
broken but she has also lost all of her expensive clothes to a heartless *****.
2006-07-05 15:17:32 · answer #6 · answered by jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...sounds like your friends new hubby was already separated when they got into a relationship, but not divorced yet....I would say the relationship is doomed or at least has a higher chance of failure than one started another way...why are you so upset about it...obviously there is more to the picture than you have painted...if it bothers you that much....move on....
2006-07-05 15:09:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is too short to limited your self to one person...Love is and should be everywhere. If the guy didn't want to divorce, he wouldn't. Is she happy, is he? Sometimes when we find love, it isn't always convenient and at the right time. With all due respect, who are you to judge your friend because of your different point of view. Be her friend and judge not, yest she judges you. It it worth losing a friend?
2006-07-05 15:11:54 · answer #8 · answered by jonny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone reaches the point where their friendships are tested and it's decided to remain or move forward. When you see if your friend is concerning you in the problem or thinking selfishly it will be easier to make you choice. Everyone makes mistakes, your eyes are opened whether they're corrected or blamed on.
2006-07-05 15:14:10 · answer #9 · answered by artmastercf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, if she's a good friend she should pick you over a guy anyway. What she did was obviously wrong and she's gonna fall flat on her face because of it. Just make sure your there for her when it's over. Prove that your the better friend.
2006-07-05 15:10:23 · answer #10 · answered by Em 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋