I cheated on my fiance and when he found out It made him love me even more. Now were getting married and I can't seem to stop thinking about this other guy. I havent seen him since but we text and email all the time. Can anyone give me some insight on what to do. I love my fiance and want to get married but I guess I want my cake and eat it to.
2006-07-05 08:05:33 · 13 answers · asked by ROCKSTAR 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The big attraction that you feel with your other friend is just because its on the other side of the fence. Its a circle you have to break. The reason you like it so much is because it makes you feel loved and wanted and those feelings are what you find so irrestible. You have to break it off. You will feel better than ever and be happier with your fiance.
2006-07-05 08:17:20 · answer #1 · answered by Lazink 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My dear, if you want your cake and want to eat it too, then you need to hand that ring right back to your fiancee. If you have already made the decision to be unfaithful, then perhaps a married relationship isn't for you. There are many other ways to be connected and commited to a person without marrying them. If you're truely serious about settling down and marrying this person, you need to make the commitment to be faithful to him. That's part of the tenets of marriage. If you want to forget about the guy you had an affair with the first step is to stop talking to him! You have to cut off all contact with that person, otherwise you'll keep thinking about him, and will most likely cheat on your fiancee again. That's not fair to him if he loves you, and it's not fair to yourself by making things harder for you by getting into a marriage.
If you want to eat your cake...don't marry it.
2006-07-05 15:13:43 · answer #2 · answered by bibliophile_1976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe postpone the marriage for awhile and make sure he is the one you want, IF you truly loved him you would not be talking to this other guy or thinking about him... IF you do marry keep these words in mind... " if you do not put yourself in that situation, nothing can happen"! Good luck hon .. but plzz think long and hard before you make a decision to marry someone that you have cheated on once... the old saying ."if you will do it once , you will do it again, and especially if you got away with it the first time.
2006-07-05 15:17:02 · answer #3 · answered by answerqueen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jane you ignorant slut! If you have any love for your fiancee then you will dump him and plague the fuchstick you cheated on him with. Besides you will never be happy with your fiancee. You will always be thinking about this other guy until you start to cheat on your husband. You will eventually leave him.
Your life will always be unhappy becasue you don't love anyone except yourself.
Check out the following website. It can answer you questions better than I can. It's filled with information about "pathoilogical women" like yourself. Read it if you have the guts to.
http://www.condomsbrasandstraightjackets.com/
Good Luck
2006-07-05 15:16:40 · answer #4 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to marry the one guy quit talking to the other. Otherwise be honest with yourself and your fiance, break off the engagement and go play.
2006-07-05 15:10:09 · answer #5 · answered by Uncle Tim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to cut off all contact with this other guy! If you truly love your husband to be then it wont be that hard to do! if you can't seem to let go of this other guy for anything then there is no reason for you to get married!
2006-07-05 15:09:00 · answer #6 · answered by something sweet & sexy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do as you please. Don´t ask questions nor let anyone tell you what to do.
At the end, what goes around, comes around and everyone gets what deserved. Who knows what you need to learn.
It might be fun for you, but you are dragging your husband-to-be to hell, and I don´t think that´s either fair, or something that he´ll enjoy, nor appreciate.
At the end, the choice is yours.
You are free to roll over in manure.
2006-07-05 15:17:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself, it takes 2 to tango.
Does this guy who you had an affair with thinking about you too?
2006-07-05 15:15:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cannot forget this guy, you have no business marrying the other guy. He deserves better than that.
2006-07-05 15:09:00 · answer #9 · answered by sweetnessmo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay friends with the other guy...love em both but marry only one. Can't you still be friends, maybe with benefits?
2006-07-05 15:15:42 · answer #10 · answered by jonny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋