I drove by and saw her car there. I've given him plenty of chances and asked leading questions, but he has said nothing about it.
2006-07-05 07:58:20 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He hasn't answered your questions because it's not your business anymore. He may also want to save your feelings from being hurt. Yes, he has moved on. You should try to too.
2006-07-05 08:02:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, no, not necessarily. He obviously wants company, however, and he's seeking it where he can, in more ways than one.
Separation is difficult for men, I think. It was the hardest time in my first divorce. You feel, as I once put it, as if you are castrated. You're cut off from the love you once had and, in a way, forbidden to seek it new. I didn't start a serious relationship again until I knew my ex-wife was not going to come back. This was nearly a year later. I'd made efforts to get her back. But after six months in a new physical relationship I felt it wasn't fair to myself or to my new lover to remain married so I started divorce proceedings. I didn't even know where my wife was at the time.
Since all men go through this separation anxiety, and sometimes any port in a storm, so to speak, is enough to provide the comfort they need to hold down fears about themselves and their futures, it's not unlikely that your husband only hopes you will let him know you want him back. But he'll try not to reveal what he's been doing because he misses you. So, if you have no thought of taking him back, then tell him so. If you'd want him back, tell him that, too. Men are the lousiest mind readers when it comes to women. But don't let anything like some other girl stand in your way. She could mean only what I said she does, some temporary comfort.
2006-07-06 02:49:38 · answer #2 · answered by Nightwriter21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but it's time to let go, he's obviously moved on now and that is what you need to do ,if you seperated in jan then that is more than a fair time gap for him to decide he wants to date again ,as for saying nothing well i'm afraid it's none of your business,were you hoping you might get back together ?did he give you that impression and whose idea was it to go your separate ways?,maybe if youve still doubt you need to have a talk with him ?if it was yours then is it maybe shock he's moved on that has affected you,think carefully about the reasons why you drove past his house, why the interest and why your upset he has not told you about this woman, then decide if it's just the green eyed monster lurking or something deeper, if it was his decision to part then there really is nothing you can do i'm afraid but as i say if it was yours maybe you need to tell him how you feel but first work out what your feelings are,Good Luck
2006-07-05 15:24:25 · answer #3 · answered by okayalder62 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say that's a yes, file for divorce. Sorry
Sounds harsh I know, but looks like he found someone else. Move on yourself, try not to think about him, and DON'T keep driving by his house, you'll look like a stalker.
2006-07-05 15:42:10 · answer #4 · answered by honeybaby729 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it does mean he's moved on. i think u should move on too. i know it will be hard, but you have to try. if you're thinking that he did that just to make you jealous, forget about it. i know it may be hard to take in, but you should forget about him, being as he found someone else already.
2006-07-05 19:05:50 · answer #5 · answered by tennisgirl4242 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not necessiarily (sp) maybe since he is considered free he is just trying to um spread his seed and have fun without a guilty concience. men need sex, and if he doesnt want to coming crawling back to you he has to get it somewhere.
2006-07-05 15:31:28 · answer #6 · answered by texastweeter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear that.I wish you both could work thing out if He. you truly love you he would be with you. , but if you and your husband fight are cant agree on thing there something wrong. and I wish you both could work on that.
2006-07-05 15:06:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want an answer then ask a direct question.Why are you stalking him.If you have moved on the forget him and move on don't stalk him.
2006-07-05 15:06:20 · answer #8 · answered by jpcbbc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you think?? Sounds like a yes to me!
2006-07-05 15:11:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you seperated months ago it is none of your business anymore. he doesnt need to tell you about his personal life just as you dont have to tell him anything
2006-07-05 15:05:43 · answer #10 · answered by sareyna85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋