2006-07-05 07:54:47 · 14 answers · asked by electrican756 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do you love your wife? If so try and save it before ruining both of your lives. Counseling could be worth a shot. Can't say you did not try. 25 years is a really long time to throw away. If you are decided that you have to be with the GF then do your wife a favor and get a divorce. Don't embarrass her.
2006-07-05 08:00:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you're not happy b/c u r sleeping around!!
How would u feel if your wife had a boyfriend waiting for her?? Marriages don't work now a days b/c people are so selfish and think they deserve to b HAPPY all the time - that just doesn't happen, this is life and there will b times that you won't b happy- a girlfriend, extra marital affair, isn't the answer!!!
Seriously, sit down and really ask yourself why u r not happy. There is an answer, u may not like the answer but if you can identify it and work on it, your quality of life will increase tremendously. Besides, does your wife really deserve to be disrespected like this?
I hope things work out for you AND your wife - ditch the girlfriend.
2006-07-05 08:12:23 · answer #2 · answered by May 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a girlfriend waiting? You are a real loser. Your wife deserves better. You have taken the coward's way out and I suspect your wife has been miserable for years.
You have obviously been in your marriage only for your own selfish reasons and not because you love your wife. If you loved your wife, you would care about HER needs and not just your own. When you put your own needs first, they end up not being fulfilled because the other person's needs are not getting met. I suspect your wife has felt disrespected for a very long time. I suspect that you have taken for granted what she does for you.
Yes, divorce your wife so that she can have a few years of happiness and maybe find a great guy to spend the rest of her life with. She deserves that much.
It's typical that most of the men think that your actions are justifiable and all of them seem to refer to why your wife isn't meeting YOUR needs. Love, real love, means you put someone else first.
2006-07-05 08:34:06 · answer #3 · answered by CleverGal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married for 27 years as you .... unhappy.. went to counsoling and professionals for 5 years. Finally made the decision to split with my wife. We had a very friendly divorce and I have found that I am must happier with the woman i found once we divorced. She was older but she did meet my needs to a tea. So you need to ask yourself, why are you unhappy with your present wife, how can things change to make you happier, what does the girlfriend do for you, your wife doesn't, and what would happen if your girlfriend changes as all women change.
These questions you need to answer and the only truly way to answer them is with professional help.
If is your life and you need to be happy, just make sure that the pasture on the other side is really greener.
2006-07-05 08:16:39 · answer #4 · answered by NIck N 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already have one foot out the door. Just go, get a divorce or have a agreement with your wife. After 25 years she is mature enough to handle anything from your behind.
Stop being spoiled with the best of both world or share the glory and allow wifey to have a man too on the side.
Selfish Butthead!!!
2006-07-05 08:00:56 · answer #5 · answered by ihavedrive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counselling first. Find out why you aren't happy. Could be something that can be fixed. If can't then consider separating for a while. THEN divorce. Avoid the girlfriend route. Depending on your state, you could get nailed in a divorce settlement if you were cheating.
2006-07-05 07:59:14 · answer #6 · answered by extra_37 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out what it is that made you seek out a girlfriend in the first place. And if your wife is not meeting your emotional needs...and this girl does it may be justifiable. Just be certain you aren't infatuated with the new girl. Unfortunately this girl will get boring too...
2006-07-05 08:05:36 · answer #7 · answered by John 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your not happy and your wife is not happy dont be toghether no more. and if you have a girlfriend waiting go with her with out heardind your wife filings.
i bet she is in love with you for been together for 25 years
2006-07-05 08:01:27 · answer #8 · answered by prettygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about go to marriage counseling with your wife and see if you can work things out. If it's not possible to work things out, get a divorce and then you can hang out with your girlfriend.
2006-07-05 07:57:44 · answer #9 · answered by sweetie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get counseling with your wife and talk things out with her. let her know everything she deserves that then if that dont work get a divorce dont string the marriage on any longer
2006-07-05 08:00:20 · answer #10 · answered by sareyna85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋