Would you suggest a book? (Please do not pick the Bible, or any other religious text). My spouse and I have had years of marriage, and we never have gotten this upset at each other before.
We know we have shortcomings, but it is too easy for us to think we are the ones in the right. How do we stop this crazy Merry-Go-Round? Do you have a program or a book or any hints on how two people who are almost married 20 years can get it together again? I must admit I feel both hurt and angry.We have avoided this so long, so it became this big a problem. Could it be our families? Our lack of friends? We have no kids, so you would think we have plenty of time for each other. We can hardly afford therapy, both in money and time. We both work a full day and then some. I just feel so tired, and life seems so pointless. I have looked for some book for us both to read, but there are so many. Any suggestions for anything?
2006-07-05 07:36:25 · 5 answers · asked by Too Curious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have been with my husband for 12 years 6 of them married. We have had our rocky moments. The last three years have not been great, we have know children together just his daughter from his previous marriage. I came to terms with myself that I not him come first. We have no real friends that we hang out with or go out to dinner as money is also limited. I don't think a book is going to do the trick. It's time to sit down and ask yourselves what you expect of the other. See if your still in love or are you two just holding on for nothing else but not to hurt the other. Time to communicate. I did and our marriage is off to a really strong start. Just when I thought I was no longer in love we finally came together as a couple and just hugged and talked. Don't let the years slip by any more.
2006-07-05 07:49:31 · answer #1 · answered by mackey208 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would not suggest a book because it is too easy NOT to read it. Try a professional counselor who would know the best methods to get back in touch with each other. They can do things on a weekly basis or can do a retreat over a long weekend. I understand your frustrations. Been married 21 years and we go through stretches where we just agree to disagree, on everything. Then we do something together that we both enjoy and we find that connection again and slowly we go back. Good luck.
2006-07-05 14:45:34 · answer #2 · answered by extra_37 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sometimes feel the same way. I'm glad there's not a gun in the house. We've been married over 30 years and each year it gets worse. Don't know what to tell you, except try to get out now while you can.
2006-07-05 16:23:52 · answer #3 · answered by I'm all yours 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get the power of now...it saved my life in may ways.
A short easy book to read and very usefull!
Good luck, I know where you are comming from.
Steven
2006-07-05 14:42:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no need for a book....just something you could throw at each other ( just kidding ). when we get at each other we just take a day to ourself and remember why we are together.
2006-07-05 14:44:51 · answer #5 · answered by norwood 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋