Once a boyfriend or girlfriend becomes a spouse; why is so hard to stay loyal?

Answer 1

They do not know that :A good marriage is an intimate and loving relationship which gives both partners security, friendship, companionship, support, comfort, and deep love that penetrates every aspect of life. None of this can be achieved without work and sacrifice.

Marriage may be compared to a plant that requires daily nurture, daily attention, daily care and cultivation. It will not develop of its own accord; only as effort and will are exerted will it grow and mature. For a marriage to succeed, both husband and wife must be committed to its success. They must build an enduring love relationship that is centered in the heart of their consciousness. Their relationship must be nurtured with the water of loyalty and love.

Answer 2

It shouldn't be hard to "stay loyal"; the implication is that you have opportunities to cheat, and you take them, because it's difficult not to. If that's the case, you have poor impulse control.

However, the question "why is it so hard to avoid being tempted by opportunities to cheat", the answer is straightforward: boredom. Everybody who stays with the same person their entire lives will get bored once and a while. It's human nature, and it's to be expected. This is especially true when a boyfriend or girlfriend (whom you can lose simply by their deciding "I'm out, bye") becomes a spouse (who is tied more tightly to you, not only emotionally, but socially and in the eyes of the law.) That which you are more likely to lose is always more interesting than that which you can take for granted.

The question is, how do you handle your boredom? You can fantasize about it (healthy), talk about it with your spouse (healthy), find other pursuits and ways to keep your interest focused on your spouse (healthy) or non-harmful activities (healthy) -- or you can succumb to the temptation and cheat (not healthy) or actively search for opportunities to cheat, even if you're not sure you'd go through with it (not healthy.)

Answer 3

good one! the hunt is over, security sets in and you know she/he will be there when you get home.
No adrenalin or excitment (of course there is but it is different when you are dating)
I was married for ten years and we were both faithfull.
A relationship is not easy, both have a different personality, things are not cleared up hen they happen for fear of insulting or making an already situation worse.
What works is trying to live in the present, everything that happens happen now, in the past they happened and cannot be changed, in the future it will/may happen and that cannot be changed, so why get frustrated at what might be or was?
Take the moment and jump over your own shadow and go for the heart, feel the love that was there when you met, it is still there in some capacity.
It is not easy but this is a good start. it is almost always the little things that make a big problem but it is also the little things that make the difference on the positive side as well, for every liite thing that bothers you, change that energy into a little good thing and save your marriage.
Good luck
Steven

Answer 4

It's not hard to stay loyal. I would never cheat on my husband. I think what happens with most people is that they got married because they thought either their spouse would change, or their feelings would change and they didn't. So then they are bored and unhappy, and think it's an excuse to cheat.

Answer 5

This is the oldest dilemma known to man. Today's "got to have it now" mentality mixed with our US consumption habits built over a lifetime dilute our ability to stick with any commitment longer than it takes for Tide to come up with a "new and improved" version. Drugs, Alcohol, food, women, men-it doesn't matter, we're such insatiable creatures that we change for the instantaneous rush no matter what the consequences. We're a self-centered bunch. Oh, and new flesh is way better than familiar flesh, feeeels sooooo goooood.

Answer 6

If it's hard to stay loyal, He/She was probably not ready to commit. Staying Focused is key. Love & Laughter is the best ingredient to a good relationship.

Answer 7

its not hard to stay loyal at all .if you got together for the right reasons its better to talk about things and work on whats wrong then to cheat on the one you say u love cheating just makes things worse

Answer 8

It is not hard.
Always keep in mind that your couple might think the same thing, because the possibility will always be there, so... remember you can be the victim of cheating, so be a good partner and give everyday the best to your couple...
You and your partner have choices, you and your partner are free.

Answer 9

Because it is hard to stay loyal to someone with bad taste.

Answer 10

b/c you choose to do it. Being loyal is not hard. And being unloyal is not an addiction. You just weren't ready to be married. Step away will there some happiness and sanity.