Do you think that its true that women marry men that are like there fathers?

Question

And are you married or not to someone like your dad? & for men do they marry someone like there mother? Just curious!

BTW for those of you w/your minds in the gutter...I meant marry someone personality wise like your dad-NOT your dad...DUH

Answer 1

For me, I say yes. I have heard this many times and growing up I never thought it'd be possible for me to get along with someone with traits like my father, but then again, I was a teenager and only saw the things I didn't like. Now that I am older, I have so much more respect for him and realize more and more how much him and my fiance are similar in their interest, work ethic, and personality. They are both good men and enjoy spending time together because of their similarities, I enjoy it because it is something neither one of us have experienced before, so we feel blessed to have such balance. I don't know about men marry those like their mothers, I don't think I have a whole lot similar to my fiance mother, not that I know of. I'll have to ask him about that one.

Answer 2

Alot of people just don't understand how strong the parents play a role in their childrens lives.
Think about this. 8 times out of 10 young girls that start having sex at a very young age usually are girls that have either bad relationships with their fathers or no steady father figure at all. And it's all subconcious. Those girls are looking for that steady male model in their lives. The only problem is that they end up messing around too early and end up getting pregnant. Wanting too much to please the boy that's trying to sleep with them without condoms.
Think about this. A mother who continually dates bad men ( men that beat her, men that disrespect her, ect ) 8 times out of 10, the daughter falls into the same thing because that's all the mom exposed her too.
As far as women who grew up in stable homes where both mom and dad got along, love each other and took care of each other, that girl knows exactly what a real man is. Now this is nothing that she'll blurt out because it's all subcontious. When it's said that women wants to marry a man like their father it means if their father was a provider, care taker, a go getter ect. then she's going to make sure the man she marry's has those same good qualities. Same thing goes for men. Men want to marry a woman like their mothers alot of the time ( loving,caring, always there, able to make the pain go away, a great cook, knew just want to do )
It never means that a guy or a girl wants to marry someone with physical traits of their parents...that's gross.
Hopes this helps you some.

Answer 3

1. I think that only women with a very good father will ever marry someone who is remotely like him. I know a lot of people who would never marry someone like their dad.

2. I am in a relationship with someone who is a lot like my dad. And I think it's nothing to be ashamend of because even though he is a lot like my dad, he is still different, and as much as I like the similarities, I like the differences as well!

And - some people really seem to have their minds in the gutter ;-)

Nobody asked them if they'd marry their *father*... that would be really sick!

Answer 4

I think it might be psychological. Growing up, you have a father figure, whoever it may be. Someone you look up to or someone you hate. You might be attracted to certain types of men that remind you of the father figure, whether good or bad. I think that's why some women fall into a sick cycle of bad relationships or end up marrying someone just like their dad.

As for me...I think there are some factors that my husband is like my dad and for the other parts, he is like day and night with my dad. I don't look for guys that remind me of my dad, but I am attracted to guys that have a certain 'thing' about them that reminds me of my dad. For instance, I like that my dad is a happy-go-lucky guy and he forgives/forgets easily, he's a loving father and he's funny and loves kids. But things I don't like is that he's a flirt and doesn't think when he comments hurtful things to my mom and is like a kid sometimes eventhough he's almost sixty.

Even with some similiarities, I'm glad my husband is not all like my dad, rather the good parts of him reminds me of my dad.

Answer 5

A great man to marry, is like your father in some ways and not like him in others. My husband is kind and has a big heart but does not know how to fix things or construct anything from scratch. I learned a lot of those things from my dad, so it is not as important as the big things like, how much he loves me and the relationship we have.

My husband and i love to pick at each other, i got this from my dad. The most import factor your husband should have in common with your dad is that they would both do anything in their power to protect you and keep you happy. Of course you have to give too. Wives trust your husbands as the Church trusts and obeys Christ because Husbands love their wives as Christ loves the church and died for her. If you are both looking out for the others best interest, both are taken care of and that is what your father does, looks out for his daughter's best interest...SO Yes! you definitely marry someone like your father.

Answer 6

It's one of those self-fulfilling prophesies. You notice your Father's traits in your husband because you are sensitized to them. However,they may just be relatively common traits ("You watch football just like my dad did") Or they might be traits that you are sick and tired of after 18+ years, and you immediately recall them when your husband does it. And the first thing that sticks in your mind is "that's just like my father".

But the opposite happens far more rarely. How often has the husband done something where the first reaction is "That's nothing like my father"

So you remember the father similarities, but forget the differences. So when asked if your husband is like your father, you're more likely to say yes.

Answer 7

If that is the case then that explains why I dont know who is the guy I am suppose to marry cuz I never had my real dad in my life.
If that is the case then that explains why I recently said I do to a total untrustworthy guy like my step dad.

Answer 8

Unfortunately I have been married to two men who were nothing like my father and I don't think I could marry someone like dear old dad.

Answer 9

Often that is the case just as men sometimes marry women who remind them in some way of their mothers. Quite often, women even marry the men their father likes. :-)

Answer 10

I think it all just depends on the relationship that they have with their parents. I would rather marry someone like my grandpa. I would only be so lucky. And I hope my ex didn't marry someone like his mom. That would make me an evil, psycho, hateful little dried up shell of a woman.